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How do you stop masturbating?
How do you stop masturbating when someone else exposed you to it at 6 or 7? I'm 26 now!
would it stop you from having kids
Anonyme,
Perhaps I can give you an answer from the other side of the fence. I was 11 when I started masturbating. I discovered it by myself and did it every day, sometimes a little more.
When I got married at age 22, I assumed that I'd stop, but it didn't work that way. Certainly, I slowed down, but the trouble was that we didn't have sex as often as the every-day-or-more that I was accustomed to. The fun side for her was that I'd last longer, so make her come more!
Turned out that she wanted sex more like once or twice a week, but that's another story. I'll assume that you'd like it at least as often as he does himself and that I hear your disappointment!
Be positive, if you can! Reinforce his enjoyment with quips like, "I heard/saw your lust, does that mean that you'll do me?" It's not really a zero-sum game!
Give him his favorite hug/kiss/pat and remind him that you are always available for quickies!
Find out what his fantasy is while masturbating! Express acceptance of it and use it in your own sex/seduction/climaxing! This can be hard if his fantasy conflicts with what you like, but remember that it's his fantasy and he trusted you enough to tell you! In some cases, particularly if the fantasy is something kinky like bondage, it may take months or years to find out the whole story!
Best wishes for exploration, seduction and mutual enjoyment!
Perhaps I can give you an answer from the other side of the fence. I was 11 when I started masturbating. I discovered it by myself and did it every day, sometimes a little more.
When I got married at age 22, I assumed that I'd stop, but it didn't work that way. Certainly, I slowed down, but the trouble was that we didn't have sex as often as the every-day-or-more that I was accustomed to. The fun side for her was that I'd last longer, so make her come more!
Turned out that she wanted sex more like once or twice a week, but that's another story. I'll assume that you'd like it at least as often as he does himself and that I hear your disappointment!
Be positive, if you can! Reinforce his enjoyment with quips like, "I heard/saw your lust, does that mean that you'll do me?" It's not really a zero-sum game!
Give him his favorite hug/kiss/pat and remind him that you are always available for quickies!
Find out what his fantasy is while masturbating! Express acceptance of it and use it in your own sex/seduction/climaxing! This can be hard if his fantasy conflicts with what you like, but remember that it's his fantasy and he trusted you enough to tell you! In some cases, particularly if the fantasy is something kinky like bondage, it may take months or years to find out the whole story!
Best wishes for exploration, seduction and mutual enjoyment!
How about if your husband continues to masturbate when you're perfectly willing to have sex with him? Is that normal, too?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
My question to you is: WHY do you want to stop self-pleasuring? Has someone told you it's bad or wrong? Here's some information for you.
First of all, it's not uncommon for men to be turned on to self-pleasuring by others. Statistically, that's how most men learn about it. Almost everyone feels insecure about masturbation—or self-pleasuring. We all want to know that what WE do is OK. From your note, it looks like you feel that it’s somehow harmful or wrong. There are no data to indicate that self-pleasuring is in any way harmful, or that it burns off proteins—which you indicated was a concern of yours.
Well, I’m here to tell you that whatever works for you is what works for you, and please stop worrying and enjoy your life. The fact that you’re trying to stop self-pleasuring and are finding it difficult should tell you that it’s part of who you are. Accept it as a wonderful gift that keeps on giving.
Here are some facts about self-pleasuring:
It’s the surest way to orgasm and the most effective way to learn about our sexual response cycle, as well as the surest way men to learn orgasmic control. If you feel you come too quickly, the surest way to slow down is to teach yourself a new pattern via self-pleasuring.
Another advantage is self-knowledge: How can you show a partner what you like if you don’t know yourself?
And the #1 reason for self-pleasuring: it’s fun!
Self-pleasuring is a part of who you are sexually—for your whole life, not just when you don’t have a partner. People self-pleasure from birth to death, when they’re alone and when they’re partnered. It’s just one of many options we have as sexual beings. It’s not better or worse than partner sex, just different—like steak is different than chicken.
Remember that all our scientific data show that the people who take responsibility for their OWN pleasure have the best sex lives and rate themselves as happiest about their sexuality. Dr. J
My question to you is: WHY do you want to stop self-pleasuring? Has someone told you it's bad or wrong? Here's some information for you.
First of all, it's not uncommon for men to be turned on to self-pleasuring by others. Statistically, that's how most men learn about it. Almost everyone feels insecure about masturbation—or self-pleasuring. We all want to know that what WE do is OK. From your note, it looks like you feel that it’s somehow harmful or wrong. There are no data to indicate that self-pleasuring is in any way harmful, or that it burns off proteins—which you indicated was a concern of yours.
Well, I’m here to tell you that whatever works for you is what works for you, and please stop worrying and enjoy your life. The fact that you’re trying to stop self-pleasuring and are finding it difficult should tell you that it’s part of who you are. Accept it as a wonderful gift that keeps on giving.
Here are some facts about self-pleasuring:
It’s the surest way to orgasm and the most effective way to learn about our sexual response cycle, as well as the surest way men to learn orgasmic control. If you feel you come too quickly, the surest way to slow down is to teach yourself a new pattern via self-pleasuring.
Another advantage is self-knowledge: How can you show a partner what you like if you don’t know yourself?
And the #1 reason for self-pleasuring: it’s fun!
Self-pleasuring is a part of who you are sexually—for your whole life, not just when you don’t have a partner. People self-pleasure from birth to death, when they’re alone and when they’re partnered. It’s just one of many options we have as sexual beings. It’s not better or worse than partner sex, just different—like steak is different than chicken.
Remember that all our scientific data show that the people who take responsibility for their OWN pleasure have the best sex lives and rate themselves as happiest about their sexuality. Dr. J
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