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Sexuality & Relationships (Expert Forum)
Is it me or is it him ?
Answered by
Janice M Epp, PhD - Female sexual issues, Adolescent sexuality, Male sexual issues
Private Practice
Palo Alto - CA
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Is it me or is it him ?
by roxyangel25, Jan 16, 2009 01:15PM
ok so this is a little weird but Im a little concerned about this... We used to have great sex no problems at all, we still have great sex but with a little bit of a problem... He is having a hard time cumming. He says I feel looser and that he is not feeling the sensation that he used to. I have made NO changes at all have not slept with anyone else and Im only 25 so I dont know how I possibly could get looser, I have lost weight but I dont think it would change anything would it ? He is 35, is it possibly an issue going on with his body ?
Doctor's Answer
by Janice M Epp, PhD, Jan 20, 2009 07:33PM
, Jan 20, 2009 07:33PMTo: roxyangel25
Hello.
First, there’s no way of telling what’s going on with you without a gynecological exam. And I can’t tell you anything about your partner with no information.
If you’re concerned about being “loose,” it’s possible that your PC muscle has gotten weak. The PC muscle is the muscle around the entrance to your vagina. It’s also related to the strength of your orgasmic contractions, so if it’s weak or flabby, your orgasms will be weak and flabby too. To strengthen your PC muscle, do Kegel exercises (named for the physician who discovered this clever little muscle). Luckily, the PC muscle also stops and starts the flow of urine, so it’s easy to locate. Just contract it as though you’re trying to hold back the flow of urine. Got it? Now begin a daily regimen of contracting and relaxing the muscle. It helps to associate it with something you do each day—like taking a shower.
Once your PC muscle is strong, you’ll notice a difference in your orgasmic intensity. Bonus!
Now it may also be true that your PC muscle isn’t weak at all and that your partner has some other issue. Next step: talk with him about it. Good luck! Dr. J
First, there’s no way of telling what’s going on with you without a gynecological exam. And I can’t tell you anything about your partner with no information.
If you’re concerned about being “loose,” it’s possible that your PC muscle has gotten weak. The PC muscle is the muscle around the entrance to your vagina. It’s also related to the strength of your orgasmic contractions, so if it’s weak or flabby, your orgasms will be weak and flabby too. To strengthen your PC muscle, do Kegel exercises (named for the physician who discovered this clever little muscle). Luckily, the PC muscle also stops and starts the flow of urine, so it’s easy to locate. Just contract it as though you’re trying to hold back the flow of urine. Got it? Now begin a daily regimen of contracting and relaxing the muscle. It helps to associate it with something you do each day—like taking a shower.
Once your PC muscle is strong, you’ll notice a difference in your orgasmic intensity. Bonus!
Now it may also be true that your PC muscle isn’t weak at all and that your partner has some other issue. Next step: talk with him about it. Good luck! Dr. J
Member Comments (2)
by Fuzzz, Jan 18, 2009 12:03AM
Yes, weight loss can change things. You can do Kegel exercises to tighten things up for him. Those are very good for women of any age and will make your orgasms stronger.
