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Libido
Is it possible for a woman to remove/lower her libido in some way?
Thanks.
Thanks.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
Your question is very general. I’m not sure what it is you’re asking, or what the term "libido" means to you, so I’ll give you some information about sexual desire which hopefully will point you in the right direction.
It sounds as though you're worried that you're "too interested" in sex and want that interest to stop. Please realize that there's no such a thing as “normal” sexuality or "normal" sexual desire. Everyone is different and there’s no such thing as “normal” when it comes to sex. There’s only what’s “normal” for you. You are your unique self, and whatever you enjoy is part of you. If you like steak and your partner likes chicken, you wouldn’t think either of you is “abnormal,” would you? In any relationship, there are bound to be different preferences, likes, dislikes, etc. The trick is to be able to appreciate those differences (very often they’re the reason we became attracted in the first place) and integrate them successfully in your relationship.
I think a first step in understanding yourself is to ask yourself what you’re using sex for. Is your desire truly for sex itself, or is it for something else? Attention? A need to feel attractive? We often use sex for many non-sexual reasons. If you can figure out what you’re using it for, that can help you understand your increased desire.
Finally, you can't lower your sexual desire any more than you can lower your desire for ice cream. However, sometimes we can become obsessed sex, or food, or shopping, or other acts, as a way of avoiding pain or distracting ourselves from something difficult. If this is true for you, find a counselor who is trained in helping people with sexual concerns. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Your question is very general. I’m not sure what it is you’re asking, or what the term "libido" means to you, so I’ll give you some information about sexual desire which hopefully will point you in the right direction.
It sounds as though you're worried that you're "too interested" in sex and want that interest to stop. Please realize that there's no such a thing as “normal” sexuality or "normal" sexual desire. Everyone is different and there’s no such thing as “normal” when it comes to sex. There’s only what’s “normal” for you. You are your unique self, and whatever you enjoy is part of you. If you like steak and your partner likes chicken, you wouldn’t think either of you is “abnormal,” would you? In any relationship, there are bound to be different preferences, likes, dislikes, etc. The trick is to be able to appreciate those differences (very often they’re the reason we became attracted in the first place) and integrate them successfully in your relationship.
I think a first step in understanding yourself is to ask yourself what you’re using sex for. Is your desire truly for sex itself, or is it for something else? Attention? A need to feel attractive? We often use sex for many non-sexual reasons. If you can figure out what you’re using it for, that can help you understand your increased desire.
Finally, you can't lower your sexual desire any more than you can lower your desire for ice cream. However, sometimes we can become obsessed sex, or food, or shopping, or other acts, as a way of avoiding pain or distracting ourselves from something difficult. If this is true for you, find a counselor who is trained in helping people with sexual concerns. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
My God woman, I am married to a woman that doesn't have any desire and would give anything to have her be the way you are. My wife can go forever without lovemaking. In marriage it is important for strengthening bonds and togetherness and it also builds the relationship. Wow, just to have her want me that way would be so awesome. How lucky your husband is(if your married)
curious63
curious63
I'm not a doctor so you may choose to ignore this, but I'd like to disagree with Dr. Epp's last point about not being able to lower sexual desire. There are a number of pharmaceuticals reported to have this affect. The first one that comes to mind is Wellbutrin. Of course there are also some non-drug activities that might help as well, ever try a cold shower?
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