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My boyfriend wants sex all the time, and I don't. What should I do?
I'm 20 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months. We had sex the first time we hung out, and at first, we had sex every day or more often. Since we've been dating, we've been inseperable and spend nearly all of time together. Lately, I don't feel like having sex daily, but my boyfriend still does. If I say no (which is only about 2 or 3 times a week), he starts to pout and makes me feel guitly. I've talked to him about this and told him that I don't like the way he pushes me for sex. He simply says "I just want to have sex with you. Why don't you want to have sex with me?" It isn't that I don't want to - I just want it less frequently. We go through this every night. Either, I give in and resent him for it, or I say "no" and he pouts and grumbles. He also sometimes complains that I don't give him oral sex, even though I've told him that I'm not comofortable with it. I don't think he should be complaining at all - isn't having sex 4 to 5 times a week enough? I'm starting to feel like he's only dating me to get sex, and if another girl comes along who is willing to have sex more frequently than me, he'd be out the door. I want this relationship to work, but I don't know what to do. Help!
Looks like your boyfriend wants to be with u for sex. Did you ask him "Do u love me?"
Relationships needs respect and it seems to me that he doesn't even have a RESPECT to you because of the way you tell it, your boyfriend doesn't even care if you're not into it or uncomfortable. One thing I can suggest is asking him if he still love you or it's just sexual relationship he wants. Try to weigh things on your own.
Relationships needs respect and it seems to me that he doesn't even have a RESPECT to you because of the way you tell it, your boyfriend doesn't even care if you're not into it or uncomfortable. One thing I can suggest is asking him if he still love you or it's just sexual relationship he wants. Try to weigh things on your own.
sounds just like my boyfriend! we have gotten into arguments about this topic. you did what you should have and told him no . and if he wants to be upset about it, let em.
maybe giving it to him the first day was a little too quick. you gotta make them work for it. 6 months atleast before sex.
maybe giving it to him the first day was a little too quick. you gotta make them work for it. 6 months atleast before sex.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
First of all, there’s no such thing as “normal” when it comes to sex. Whatever is normal for you, is “normal.” You are your unique self, and whatever you enjoy is part of you. If you like steak and your bf likes chicken, you wouldn’t think either of you is “abnormal,” would you? In any relationship, there are bound to be different preferences, likes, dislikes, etc. The trick is to be able to appreciate those differences (very often they’re the reason we became attracted in the first place) and integrate them successfully in your relationship.
So perhaps you enjoy sex less often than he does. I wonder what he’s using sex for. Is his desire truly for sex itself, or is it to make him feel secure and loved? Some men only feel secure when they’re having frequent sex because it contributes to their feelings of masculinity and strength.
As has been noted, the warning bell is that he doesn’t seem concerned about your feelings. Next step is to talk with him regarding how can you make this work for both of you? I suggest talking—rather than arguing—as your first step. The most helpful attitude is “what can we do TOGETHER to make this work for both of us?” Remember to share only your feelings; don’t attack him or accuse him. This process involves problem-solving as a team. You might ask him to share what sex means to him. My guess is you may find out some valuable insights into his character. If you put your heads together, you might be able to work out a creative solution. For instance, there are lots of ways to be sexual and intimate without penis-vagina sex. How about offering to hold and stroke him while he self-pleasures? If this isn’t an option you care to pursue, are there other things the two of you can do that will satisfy his desire more often? Think of this as a fun way to get to know each other better, and it won’t seem so daunting. Of course, this presumes that he cares for you as much as you care for him. In discussing this issue with him, I bet you’ll begin to get an insight into that issue. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
So perhaps you enjoy sex less often than he does. I wonder what he’s using sex for. Is his desire truly for sex itself, or is it to make him feel secure and loved? Some men only feel secure when they’re having frequent sex because it contributes to their feelings of masculinity and strength.
As has been noted, the warning bell is that he doesn’t seem concerned about your feelings. Next step is to talk with him regarding how can you make this work for both of you? I suggest talking—rather than arguing—as your first step. The most helpful attitude is “what can we do TOGETHER to make this work for both of us?” Remember to share only your feelings; don’t attack him or accuse him. This process involves problem-solving as a team. You might ask him to share what sex means to him. My guess is you may find out some valuable insights into his character. If you put your heads together, you might be able to work out a creative solution. For instance, there are lots of ways to be sexual and intimate without penis-vagina sex. How about offering to hold and stroke him while he self-pleasures? If this isn’t an option you care to pursue, are there other things the two of you can do that will satisfy his desire more often? Think of this as a fun way to get to know each other better, and it won’t seem so daunting. Of course, this presumes that he cares for you as much as you care for him. In discussing this issue with him, I bet you’ll begin to get an insight into that issue. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Angel,if he loves u and u love him ask him if he will marry u one day because u will find that he is using u for sex.
just talk to him about things;
if he loves you he will understand and get over it.
if not then you deserve better. love isnt lust; love is love hunny.
if he loves you he will understand and get over it.
if not then you deserve better. love isnt lust; love is love hunny.
ANGEL ,AM SORRY 4 THAT BECAUSE I ALSO IN THAT GROUP OF PEOPLE THAT ARE ALWS IN NEED OF SEX. THATS NATURAL AND IT SHOWS THAT U RE HEALTHY. I CAN HV SEX 4 OR MORE TIMES EVERYDAY 4 7 DAYS AND ALSO LOOK FIT. WISH I CAN GET A PARTNER LIKE U. U ARE A PURE HUMAN.
ANGEL ,AM SORRY 4 THAT BECAUSE I ALSO IN THAT GROUP OF PEOPLE THAT ARE ALWS IN NEED OF SEX. THATS NATURAL AND IT SHOWS THAT U RE HEALTHY. I CAN HV SEX 4 OR MORE TIMES EVERYDAY 4 7 DAYS AND ALSO LOOK FIT. WISH I CAN GET A PARTNER LIke me. But try and make him get satisfied through other ways E.g sucking his PENIS.. ASK URSELF IF U R SEXUALLY ACTIVE LIKE OTHER YOUNG GIRLS.
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