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Sexuality & Relationships (Expert Forum)
Problem with my girlfriend!!!!!
Answered by
Janice M Epp, PhD - Female sexual issues, Adolescent sexuality, Male sexual issues
Private Practice
Palo Alto - CA
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Problem with my girlfriend!!!!!
by zagor, Sep 10, 2009 02:02PM
I slept with my new girlfriend and I hurt her with my penis. She says that her pain in almost every sex position. She is not a virgin. I do not understand. Before I had two girls and everything was good. I have 21 years. My penis is 6 inches long and 4.5 inches girth. I think it is average, but I'm not sure. Is my penis average or big? Is my penis skinny or thick? I do not know what to do. What can I do to my girlfriend does not hurt??? Please help!!!!!!!!
Doctor's Answer
by Janice M Epp, PhD, Sep 11, 2009 04:20PM
, Sep 11, 2009 04:20PMTo: zagor
Hello.
There are two issues to be addressed here: the first is that you have some idea that there's such a thing as an "average" penis. Like noses, penises all have the same basic shape, with some variation. If yours works fine for you, stop worrying.
The second issue is your girlfriend's pain. There are many possible causes of this. The most common is that she's not sufficiently turned on beofre penis-vagina sex (p-v) and thus not wet enough. This is a reminder to only have sex when SHE"S ready--not just when YOU'RE ready. Be sure that: 1) she's very turned on when you begin p-v and 2) that she's very lubricated. If she IS turned on, but is still dry, there are several excellent lubricants available. Lots of women report that Replens is the lubricant that feels the most natural and most like their own vaginal fluids.
However, realize she might not be that turned on. While many women enjoy penis-vagina sex, it doesn’t provide the steady pressure and reliable stimulation that many women need to get truly aroused. During p-v sex, most men use an “in-out” motion that feels great for you, instead of the circular grinding motion that will stimulate the clitoris and thus turn her on. In addition, some women experience pain or numbness if they engage in p-v sex for too long or if the thrusting is too hard or vigorous. If none of these is the case, other possible causes are various infections, certain medications and hormonal imbalance. If any of these sound like possibilities, she should see her gynecologist for an exam. Dr. J
There are two issues to be addressed here: the first is that you have some idea that there's such a thing as an "average" penis. Like noses, penises all have the same basic shape, with some variation. If yours works fine for you, stop worrying.
The second issue is your girlfriend's pain. There are many possible causes of this. The most common is that she's not sufficiently turned on beofre penis-vagina sex (p-v) and thus not wet enough. This is a reminder to only have sex when SHE"S ready--not just when YOU'RE ready. Be sure that: 1) she's very turned on when you begin p-v and 2) that she's very lubricated. If she IS turned on, but is still dry, there are several excellent lubricants available. Lots of women report that Replens is the lubricant that feels the most natural and most like their own vaginal fluids.
However, realize she might not be that turned on. While many women enjoy penis-vagina sex, it doesn’t provide the steady pressure and reliable stimulation that many women need to get truly aroused. During p-v sex, most men use an “in-out” motion that feels great for you, instead of the circular grinding motion that will stimulate the clitoris and thus turn her on. In addition, some women experience pain or numbness if they engage in p-v sex for too long or if the thrusting is too hard or vigorous. If none of these is the case, other possible causes are various infections, certain medications and hormonal imbalance. If any of these sound like possibilities, she should see her gynecologist for an exam. Dr. J
Dr. Clay Ellis P.S.- While relaxing her , you might want to use a di-ldo. do you already? I actually have had a patient tell me during intercourse they use a cucumber . How Strange , but accurate in a way. Have a great day.