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Too much masturbation?
I am in my early 20's, and I know that this question has been asked a lot on this forum, but I have a problem with masturbation and wanted to know how much is too much. I seem to be one of the few men who has a very short refractory period for ejaculation. I can have a orgasm and ejaculate, and then do it again in just 5min. Well, this might not sound bad, but this also means that in only 1 hour i can masturbate 6 times if I'm stimulated. This can be both a blessing and a curse. This has lead me to masturbating much more than average people i.e. while some masturbate 3-4 times a week, I do that much per day, because of no need of a 30min rest period.
My question is, does this much masturbation have negative side effects, like hormone imbalances, or negative effects on fertility later, or any others? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
My question is, does this much masturbation have negative side effects, like hormone imbalances, or negative effects on fertility later, or any others? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
Hm.. I've think I've been getting that a lot. It used to happen ocasionally, but now it happens every time, sometimes quite mild, sometimes strong. Though I only get it when I go toilet afterwards.
At first I wasn't sure if I still needed to go, or needed to masterbate again. When I try to go nothing more comes out and it would just get more painful so it obv isn't that. I just wait, and after about half an hour the feeling eventually goes away. I always masterbate at night, so I just go to sleep afterwards and it's forgotton about the next day.
Anyways it's good to know I'm not the only one. :)
At first I wasn't sure if I still needed to go, or needed to masterbate again. When I try to go nothing more comes out and it would just get more painful so it obv isn't that. I just wait, and after about half an hour the feeling eventually goes away. I always masterbate at night, so I just go to sleep afterwards and it's forgotton about the next day.
Anyways it's good to know I'm not the only one. :)
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Hi Caleb.
You're right: this question has been asked and answered over and over. I encourage you to read my many responses to others.
There are no negative side effects to self-pleasuring, such as hormonal imbalances or effects on fertility. Regardless of how many ejaculations you have, your body will produce sperm until the day you die. However, if and when you DO decide to become a parent, if you want to maximize your chances, you might want to hold off on orgasms for a day prior.
I'm wondereing about your response with a partner. Do you come very quickly, before you'd like? If so, it might be because you've now conditioned your body's response by getting into this quickie routine with yourself. Here's some information about lasting longer, if this comes up for you in the future.
During their early self-pleasuring experiments, many men learn a very quick orgasm pattern in order to avoid detection—like in the bathroom (“You’ve been in there for hours! What are you doing?”) Learning to come quickly with a partner can also set up this pattern. Guilt, anxiety and relationship conflict may create a situation where some men just want to get it over with quickly so they won’t have to deal with any of those feelings. And, of course, if you’re focused on “performing,” rather than just enjoying yourself, your penis can become incredibly stubborn and uncooperative.
Many men think they have to last a very long time in order to please their partner, yet most studies show that around 75% of all males have an orgasm within 2 minutes of beginning penis-vagina (p-v) sex . I wonder if you’ve asked your wife whether SHE also wants you to last longer? Are you thinking that if you last longer, somehow she’ll have an orgasm during p-v sex? The fact is that most women DON’T orgasm during p-v sex. It’s a much more effective way for men to orgasm than women.
That said, here are some techniques for lasting longer:
First, slow down during self-pleasuring and unlearn that old pattern of quick orgasm. Try teasing yourself by stimulating yourself just to the point where you feel you’re about to orgasm, then backing off and relaxing, and then beginning again. This will give you a sense of control as well as teach you to recognize your own point of no return (when you know you're about to have an orgasm, no matter what). Another thing to try is when you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, relax, breathe deeply, and cease movement. Some men also find they last longer if they have an orgasm on their own awhile before beginning partner sex. This tends to take the edge off, if you will.
Once you feel in control of your orgasm, you can also examine whether you have any feelings of discomfort with being sexual—either with yourself or with a partner. These feelings of discomfort can create extreme conflict and cause you to feel the need to get it over with quickly. If you look at sex as something to finish quickly—get it up, get it in, get it off—you’ll need to let go of that old mentality. And naturally, any relationship conflicts can also contribute.
For more information about male sexuality, I highly recommend the book "The New Male Sexuality," by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., widely available online, both used and in paperback. Good luck! Dr. J
You're right: this question has been asked and answered over and over. I encourage you to read my many responses to others.
There are no negative side effects to self-pleasuring, such as hormonal imbalances or effects on fertility. Regardless of how many ejaculations you have, your body will produce sperm until the day you die. However, if and when you DO decide to become a parent, if you want to maximize your chances, you might want to hold off on orgasms for a day prior.
I'm wondereing about your response with a partner. Do you come very quickly, before you'd like? If so, it might be because you've now conditioned your body's response by getting into this quickie routine with yourself. Here's some information about lasting longer, if this comes up for you in the future.
During their early self-pleasuring experiments, many men learn a very quick orgasm pattern in order to avoid detection—like in the bathroom (“You’ve been in there for hours! What are you doing?”) Learning to come quickly with a partner can also set up this pattern. Guilt, anxiety and relationship conflict may create a situation where some men just want to get it over with quickly so they won’t have to deal with any of those feelings. And, of course, if you’re focused on “performing,” rather than just enjoying yourself, your penis can become incredibly stubborn and uncooperative.
Many men think they have to last a very long time in order to please their partner, yet most studies show that around 75% of all males have an orgasm within 2 minutes of beginning penis-vagina (p-v) sex . I wonder if you’ve asked your wife whether SHE also wants you to last longer? Are you thinking that if you last longer, somehow she’ll have an orgasm during p-v sex? The fact is that most women DON’T orgasm during p-v sex. It’s a much more effective way for men to orgasm than women.
That said, here are some techniques for lasting longer:
First, slow down during self-pleasuring and unlearn that old pattern of quick orgasm. Try teasing yourself by stimulating yourself just to the point where you feel you’re about to orgasm, then backing off and relaxing, and then beginning again. This will give you a sense of control as well as teach you to recognize your own point of no return (when you know you're about to have an orgasm, no matter what). Another thing to try is when you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, relax, breathe deeply, and cease movement. Some men also find they last longer if they have an orgasm on their own awhile before beginning partner sex. This tends to take the edge off, if you will.
Once you feel in control of your orgasm, you can also examine whether you have any feelings of discomfort with being sexual—either with yourself or with a partner. These feelings of discomfort can create extreme conflict and cause you to feel the need to get it over with quickly. If you look at sex as something to finish quickly—get it up, get it in, get it off—you’ll need to let go of that old mentality. And naturally, any relationship conflicts can also contribute.
For more information about male sexuality, I highly recommend the book "The New Male Sexuality," by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., widely available online, both used and in paperback. Good luck! Dr. J
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