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Vaginal Tear
I had vaginal tear during sex with my husband for the first time. It bleeded heavily that I lost my blood and fell down got severe and admitted in the hospital and the doctor said need to operate and had my vaginal tear repaired and she said it was a 2-inch tear seen in posterior wall of vagina edges. small para urethral tear also repaired. This was 7 months ago after my marriage (in India). After that we didnt have sex for one month or so. Now its normal but the only problem iam facing till date is I never had orgasm and whenever my husband does sex is a bit painful at the time of inserting his....and I just do not feel anything. He gets satisfied but I don't. I dont feel anything. I do get aroused but surprisingly I don feel the pleasure. Please please please suggest me what to do. Also my doctor suggested to use METROGYL VAGINAL CREME.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
Metrogel vaginal cream is prescribed for bacterial infections. I’m assuming your physician prescribed this in order to be sure the tear heals properly and doesn’t become infected. However, if you have a question about this, you should ask your physician.
Why are you surprised you’re not feeling pleasure? Clearly, you’re still anxious because of previous pain that you experienced, but more importantly, penis-vagina sex (p-v) isn’t providing you with enough stimulation.
In women, the clitoris must be stimulated—either directly or indirectly—in order for orgasm to happen. The clitoris is our primary sex organ--not the vagina--and consists of the glans (or head), the hood which covers the glans, and the shaft. For most women, orgasm results from a constant circular motion around the shaft and glans. Also important is that once a woman’s orgasm begins, if the stimulation is removed, the orgasm will end. Orgasm is characterized by a series of pleasurable, involuntary contractions in and around the vulva (clitoris, vagina and inner/outer lips). Most women have between 5 and 8 contractions per orgasm.
While many women enjoy p-v sex, it doesn’t provide the steady pressure and reliable stimulation that many women need to get truly aroused. During p-v sex, most men use an “in-out” motion that feels great for them, instead of the circular grinding motion that will stimulate the clitoris and thus turn you on. In addition, some women experience pain or numbness if they engage in penis-vagina sex for too long or if the thrusting is too hard or vigorous.
Be sure to only have sex with your husband when YOU'RE ready. It’s important that you’re turned on when your partner enters you and 2) you’re lubricated. If you ARE turned on, but are still dry, there are several excellent lubricants available. Lots of women report that Replens is the lubricant that feels the most natural and most like their own vaginal fluids.
It takes time and practice to learn about your own orgasms before you share them with a partner. The best way to find out what you like is to experiment when you’re alone. Check out the area around your clitoris first. Be sure to use some lubrication and gently touch around the top and sides to find out what feels good. You may need to do this many times before you get comfortable and used to the intensity. Find the sensitive spots that feel good. The best part of this learning experience is that it’s fun!
Once you understand your own body’s responses, then you can begin to share them with a partner—even more fun! Many women discover that either oral or manual stimulation are most effective for orgasm, and you might try experimenting with these with your husband. Be patient. It takes time to learn and to build up trust, but if you do this now, you’ll be setting yourself up for yummy sex for the rest of your life. I highly recommend the book, "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality," by Lonnie Barbach. It's widely available in paperback, and is a step-by-step program for learning about your own sexual response. In addition, it contains lots of sharing by women about their own personal journeys of sexual self-discovery. I think it will help you immensely. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Metrogel vaginal cream is prescribed for bacterial infections. I’m assuming your physician prescribed this in order to be sure the tear heals properly and doesn’t become infected. However, if you have a question about this, you should ask your physician.
Why are you surprised you’re not feeling pleasure? Clearly, you’re still anxious because of previous pain that you experienced, but more importantly, penis-vagina sex (p-v) isn’t providing you with enough stimulation.
In women, the clitoris must be stimulated—either directly or indirectly—in order for orgasm to happen. The clitoris is our primary sex organ--not the vagina--and consists of the glans (or head), the hood which covers the glans, and the shaft. For most women, orgasm results from a constant circular motion around the shaft and glans. Also important is that once a woman’s orgasm begins, if the stimulation is removed, the orgasm will end. Orgasm is characterized by a series of pleasurable, involuntary contractions in and around the vulva (clitoris, vagina and inner/outer lips). Most women have between 5 and 8 contractions per orgasm.
While many women enjoy p-v sex, it doesn’t provide the steady pressure and reliable stimulation that many women need to get truly aroused. During p-v sex, most men use an “in-out” motion that feels great for them, instead of the circular grinding motion that will stimulate the clitoris and thus turn you on. In addition, some women experience pain or numbness if they engage in penis-vagina sex for too long or if the thrusting is too hard or vigorous.
Be sure to only have sex with your husband when YOU'RE ready. It’s important that you’re turned on when your partner enters you and 2) you’re lubricated. If you ARE turned on, but are still dry, there are several excellent lubricants available. Lots of women report that Replens is the lubricant that feels the most natural and most like their own vaginal fluids.
It takes time and practice to learn about your own orgasms before you share them with a partner. The best way to find out what you like is to experiment when you’re alone. Check out the area around your clitoris first. Be sure to use some lubrication and gently touch around the top and sides to find out what feels good. You may need to do this many times before you get comfortable and used to the intensity. Find the sensitive spots that feel good. The best part of this learning experience is that it’s fun!
Once you understand your own body’s responses, then you can begin to share them with a partner—even more fun! Many women discover that either oral or manual stimulation are most effective for orgasm, and you might try experimenting with these with your husband. Be patient. It takes time to learn and to build up trust, but if you do this now, you’ll be setting yourself up for yummy sex for the rest of your life. I highly recommend the book, "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality," by Lonnie Barbach. It's widely available in paperback, and is a step-by-step program for learning about your own sexual response. In addition, it contains lots of sharing by women about their own personal journeys of sexual self-discovery. I think it will help you immensely. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Well, first off was this your first time having sex ever? Not all women can orgasm or feel true pleasure through vaginal sex. And usullly a woman has to get used to having sex vaginally to truly enjoy it. If you continue to not be satisfied ask you partner if he will give you oral sex or try a vibrator on your clitoris. The clitoris is a womans sex organ because that is where are the nerve endings that stimulate you are. Some women can only orgasm from oral sex or stimulation of the clitoris. So don't freak out, you are not alone.
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