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i had anal sex for the first time and it hurt when he pushed the penis in deep is that bad? oh and he finished inside me and when his *** was coming out i kept farting over and over and over itslike it would never stop LITRALLY what could this be
The simple answer is that before you engage in a new sexual behavior, it's important to learn all the facts about it.
Here are some basics about penis-anus sex:
Many people greatly enjoy anal stimulation—whether with a tongue, finger, penis or dildo. This is a sexual activity that requires lots of good technique and communication.
The anus is a very tight orifice, and many people experience pain with deep penetration, no matter what kind of technique they use.
The keys to anal sex are 1) lots of lube (the anus doesn’t produce its own lubrication), 2) lots of stimulation of the anal area (to relax that tight sphincter) and 3) gentle, slow penetration, not just ramming it in. Start gradually and slowly, first with just a finger, and then if you mutually decide on penis insertion, do that very slowly as well. It’s OK if you discover that you only want to be penetrated by something small, rather than something a bit more “important” like a penis. Be sure you and your partner are communicating during anal sex; tell your partner when you experience pain and when something doesn't feel good so that you can stop or go slower. It’s OK that it only feels good up to 3 inches or so. Many people find deep penetration painful, but enjoy shallow penetration with a finger or other small object.
So who says you have to let your boyfriend go in all the way—especially if it’s painful? Sounds like the two of you are enjoying what you’re doing, so why not go as far as you’d like to go and then switch to a different activity?
Very important: The anus is a very tight orifice, and tears easily, leaving it vulnerable to infection, so BE SURE to use a condom. And don’t put anything in your vagina that has first been in the anus (fingers, toys, penises, etc.) without using a new condom, because the bacteria that live in the anus can be harmful to the vaginal environment, which can cause various unpleasant side effects like yeast infections.
Also, be sure any semen leaking out doesn't come anywhere near your vagina. Those sperm are still powerful and can swim right up there and create an unwanted pregnancy. Another reason to always use a condom! Dr. J
I think it is important to remember what this part of the body was designed to do...excrete waste. I am in healthcare and have to say this is not a sanitary or healthful act and damage can occur. I have seen some pretty bad injuries and infections. Have also witnessed several individuals go to emergency surgery due to perforation of the bowel from a penis or other objects. This is also a vascular area and disease can be spread more easily through the exchange of bodily fluids. Proceed with caution.
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