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get rid of porn addiction?

i am a male of 22 years .i watch porn regularly at least 2 to 3 hours daily for the past 6 months i want to getrid of this problem as this has started controlling my life
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Hi.

I have no idea whether you are being sexual with others. If you're not, then you may be avoiding sex because it's problematic for you, for some reason, and online erotica has become your primary sexual outlet. Realize that it's not the erotica that's the problem, it's what you do with it. You're obviously using it to distract yourself from something, and it's your job to figure out what that is. We use sex for all kinds of reasons, including to distract ourselves from pain in our lives, because we have low self-esteem, etc. Just as many unhappy people may watch TV all day to distract themselves, or shop constantly, some of us may use sex.

Pizza by itself isn't a problem, but if you eat it all day in order to compensate for something lacking in your life, eventually you might gain lots of weight and have ensuing health problems. So it's all about management. You need to look at what your issues are and figure out what you're using erotica for and why it's not making you happy.

Here's some general information:

Most men don't seek erotica online because anything is wrong in their relationships, but because men are usually much more visually stimulated than women, and erotica turns them on in ways that are different (but not “better than”) partner sex. Some women think that if a man likes erotica, it means he’s not turned on to them. However, sex research has shown that this is not necessarily the case.

Many people think that once they’re in a relationship they'll only want to have sex with their partner, eschewing self-pleasuring. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, people self-pleasure from birth to death, whether partnered or not. It’s just a part of the sexual personality. Most of us like variety.

So you need to figure out what's going on for you, whether you're avoiding being sexual with others, and if so, why. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
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If you do not have a girlfriend at this time, then it is not such a big tragedy but I understand that you want to get rid of it when you have the feeling that it controls your life. My advice would be:
-try not to deny porn completely and suddenly from one day to the next (if you enjoy watching it), it could make you just more stressed.
-try to reduce the amount of time dedicated to porn in this way - try to make some "schedule" or fixed plan, let´s say that on Friday, Tuesday and Sunday, you will watch it for a fixed time in the evening for example and do not watch it at any other time (you can look forward to it, though). If you manage to keep the schedule, then if you want, you can reduce the number of days or the amount of time again. Gradually.
-meanwhile, try to masturbate and reach orgasms also without watching porn. One problem with so called "addiction" to porn is the connection between orgasm and watching porn, this connection can get quite fixed in our brains, so in terms of behavioral conditioning it could be helpful if you experienced orgasms also without porn. Or when you watch porn, just watch it, then turn it off and reach orgasm without watching porn during masturbation.
This is just one possible approach, some people can prefer a sudden stop, others can prefer this gradual small steps. All in all, the biggest change can be brought when you find a sexual partner who will satisfy your needs. Meanwhile, do not demonize porn, you can use it "in moderation" - use it for pleasure, not for making you feel stressed or depressed. In other words: To use it because of pleasure, not pressure. (but it is just good that you are also concerned about possible risks and dangers, especially in relationships it can be a problem if some guys use porn instead of having sex with their real life partners).
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