help with boyfriend problems

[Ci_Ci]

Okay well my boyfriend came to me and ask me about cheating on him because he is getting a little rash above his penis. to me it just looks like a razor rash but he dont think so.

and i dont have any rash and never had a rash down there. can you please help me and tell me what it might be?

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

I'm sorry, but I can't change how your boyfriend feels. Who knows why he's accusing you of this? Perhaps more is going on here than you realize.

No one can tell you--or your boyfriend--what his rash is without a thorough exam. He may have become irritated by some fabric, or soap, or many other substances. Or he may have an irritation due to lots of friction during sex without enough lubrication. Or he may have an infection, or any one of dozens of other possibilities.

I suggest the two of you go to your nearest teen clinic or Planned Parenthood for a free test and check-up.

After that, you may want to have a talk with him about his attitude. Don't you wonder why he was so eager to accuse you of being sexual with someone else? Dr. J

[gagootza]

you may have a yeast infection and transfered over to him.and maybe not.you both should get checked out just for asfety sake.i got the same thing 2 weeks ago from a women i slept with.dr prescribed some penesillon and anti fungal cream.so it possible.a lot of times the person thats the carrier has no symptoms.so get checked out.see a eurologist

[TAPPIT]

I was irritated by Epp's response that your boyfriend had attitude by asking you if you had cheated.  That is a normal question that most would consider as a possibility under the circumstances.  Plus, you gave no indication that it was accusatory.  Why would Epp hastily jump to accusing your boyfriend of accusing you of cheating?  I find that very odd and wonder what issues she has!  Sure, if your boyfriend was accusatory, it could be a symptom of something bigger such as trust issues, but even then there are so many other possibilities that I can't possibly see the effectiveness of honing in on "Perhaps more is going on here than you realize."  Other than that, Epp's advice to seek a medical opinion is right on.  

Unfortunately, the uninformed and easy to assume Epp goes back off the deep end by accusing your boyfriend of having an attitude.  I have seen this kind of therapeutic practice, especially in the past 10 years, and can leave a trail of destruction.  Do you wonder why Epp was so eager to accuse your boyfriend of having attitude and being accusatory regardless that your question provided no evidence of such behavior?  Sometimes, help, even from a professional, can make situations far worse than they ever could be if you do not question ALL advice, including mine.  Advice must be provided in context.  Your job is to understand the advice, the best that you can, and to put it into context to see if it applies to your specific situation.  If you feel that the advice is not appropriate, it is your duty to disagree thereby engaging the provider respectfully, as an accommodating collaborator in obtaining a resolution.  IMHO, the only advice that should have been provided based on your question, is to have seen a dermatologist.