how is it suppose to feel?

[unexperienced]

ok so i am 19 years old and i just had sex for the firt time. i was afraid of having sex because i have large vagina lips and i was scaried that my bf with make fun of it.
however, once i got over it and was confrontable in my own skin i decided i was ready to have sex.

it was painful the firts time because i was a virgin, however it wasnt at all what i was excepting.
is it normal that the male penis not be able to enter the vigina (vagina) because i have large lips?
i had to kind of help his penis find the way... sounds werid i know!
HELP!
is it just becasue its my first time?

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Hi.

OK. Stop worrying. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re fine. There’s no such thing as “large vagina lips.” Everyone is different. Vulvas are like noses: Everyone has a nose, and they’re fairly similar; however, there are small variations. Some noses are pert and tiny, while others are more imposing. But they’re all noses, just the same.

The lips of your vulva and unique to you. Some women have small lips, others are larger, and others larger still. There’s no perfect size. As long as you’re turned on and enjoying yourself, there’s no reason for penis-vagina sex (p-v) to be problematic for you. You may indeed need to help your boyfriend’s penis inside, but that’s OK—one more chance to touch and stroke him!

You now need to be sure to use both birth control and risk reduction and find the ones that work best for you. The last thing you need at your age is pregnancy or an STD, right? Lastly: If you have a gynecologist, it’s time for a check-up, just to be safe. If not, I recommend you call your local Planned Parenthood. They provide excellent services. Good luck! Dr. J

[unexperienced]

Ok so now i have a new problem!
after i had sex for the first time the next coupke of days my bladder has been all werid?!?!  its like i have to pee but when i go to the bathroom nothing comes out? i dont know what to do!

secondly, when will it stop hurting?? i have only had sex one time and it hurt. like he was streching it! when will the pain go away?

and thanks for answering my first question it really helped!

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Hi.

These are gynecological concerns. You need to see your gynecologist NOW. It's possible you've got a bladder infection, cystitis--or something else. And, no, it shouldn't still be painful. So find out what's going on. No one can diagnose you without a thorough exam. It's a good idea to have one now, since you're being sexually active with a partner. Dr. J

[gagootza]

no the large lips have nothing to do with it. i've had women have to help find the entrance to the world of fulfillment and extacy.but who cares.you say it wasn't whhat you expected it to be like but trust me it gets a whole lot better.just make sure he gets you good and turned on before he enters.things will go a lot smoother when your wet.what ever you do don't let him force it in if the goale don't want to open the gate.i wish you all the pleasure you can withstand.have fun

[unexperienced]

i wasnt saying it still hurt afterwards! i met to say like when will having sex not hurt! i have only had sex once and it hurt alot.. which i was planning for. but now when will it go away? or does it just take time? like the more you do it kind of thing??

and gaggotta- yeah it wasnt at all what i expected! i mean i guess everyones first time is just painful. haha but hopefully the more i get use to it, it will get better! i just wish i didnt have to wait! haha
and yeah i was dry when we first did it because we were trying to take things slow for me.. i stopped him like five times saying take it out take it out haha it hurt like hell!!

[gagootza]

after 3 or 4 times your body will adjust to his size and it won't hurt anymore.trust me it will get better as time goes on.enjoy.if your not wet then use some vaseline to help it along.

[unexperienced]

me and my boyfriend are both each others first. we have never slept with anyone else.
is it still possible for us to catch an STD?

[teddy548]

hey please help me out u people..i will be having sex soon n im soo sacred its my first time n i dont want my hymen to tear coz later on if i need to  go through a ultra sound in my abdomen area may be my doctor will get to know n tell my mom..pleaseee  help me outt!!
will the doctor get to know  through an ultra sound test?? please message me
i am really worriedd

[gagootza]

how old are you.maybe your too young to have sex the way your explaining it here.if you were old enough you wouldn't be worring about your mom finding out.so i don't think you warrant an answer.i don't want to feel guilty about helping an under aged youth doing something she shouldn't be doing.maybe you should talk to your mom first.