i need some adivce

[Rin15]

i've only climaxed from fingering my clit-it feels good to have something in me, my boyfriend for that matter but i don't feel as if i'm any where near climax...after he pulls out though i have to after affects of climax-i feel all open and relaxed-but i have had an orgasm...can anyone help?

[Opuddy]

Hi1, You two; See that orgasms are a bit of a problem. And from what I have gathered from your  E-mail, You don't have an orgasm from penile-penetration by your bf. However, With manual stimulation of your clitoris, by his fingers or your's, you have great orgasms. The next time that your bf has his penis in your vagina, try this. While he is stroking your vagina, your fingers need to be   stimulating your clitoris at the sametime. This should be helpful in bringing you to an orgasm. Only one woman out of three can have an orgasm with Penile-Vaginal-Stroking, Intercourse. So they, like you, need a helping-hand, gentle fingers, to bring them to a climax, an orgasm. Have he  tried oral sex? It's the nicest way to say to a woman, "I love you".It's alot safer than using the fingers in  your vagina. And besides using the tongue to directly stroke the clitoris will seldom ever leave a woman high and dry, no orgasm. He will never have to ask if you have had an orgasm, He'll know. Best of all, He won't need to worry if he can get it up or keep it up, And regardless of what his penis does or doesn't do. His ego will soar like an eagle. Hope this has been helpful to you. And enjoy your lives together.  

[Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.]

   You know you do not have to have an orgasm during intercourse. Many women do not. In fact, maybe most women have more intense and easier orgasms through touching the clitoris. Masters and Johnsons, the famous researchers, believed that ALL orgasms came from the nerve endings around the clitoris-- even if it was caused by the tugging on the clitoral area when the penis is in the vagina.

   There is wonderful satisfaction about having one's man inside and it feels good-- whether or not there is an orgasm, however, is not the point. The point is to make each other feel good and to give each other pleasure any way it works for you. Don't make yourself crazy because you don't have an orgasm from intercourse. Have your orgasm by touching yourself_ or teaching him how to touch you. You will be having pleasure together and you will feel loving and intimate. There is no big advantage having the orgasm through intercourse that you don't already have by making each other feel great other ways.