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my 37yr old husband approx 4 days ago lost sensation during ejaculation. No std's, no known medial problems, he drinks alcohol but that is about it. Intercourse is fine and there is a sensation there but at times he does not know if he has ejaculated or when he is aware there is no sensation. what could be the cause of this? Nothing has changed in his/our lifestyle.
There are several possible explanations for this. The first one is that his PC muscle has become weak and thus his orgasmic contractions aren’t very intense. This is the same muscle we use to stop or start the flow of urine. It also contracts during orgasm. A toned PC muscle will contribute to the intensity of orgasm. So what can be done to keep it in shape? Kegel exercises, named after the physician who developed them. Very simple: while sitting down, practice clenching and unclenching the PC muscle. I recommend everyone do these exercises daily. Start with a few and build up to as many as you wish. You can do quick, flutter Kegels, or slow rhythmic ones. After a few weeks, once the PC muscle is strengthened, orgasmic sensation should be much improved.
Another possibility is that he may actually be feeling the sensations but blocking them out because of some emotional issue such as anxiety, anger, resentment, etc. There’s only one way to find out: ask him how he’s feeling about you, your relationship, whether anything is bothering him, etc. What is he thinking about during sex? Is he distracted, or is he enjoying it?
In addition, if he’s having sex after drinking, he may be feeling “numbed out.” Too much alcohol can definitely affect our experience of orgasm.
If none of these fit, it’s time for a urological check-up to determine whether there’s a physical cause. Dr. J
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