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iam aged about 30 years unmarried  daily masturbating 3- 4 times a day recently i visited call girl when i ******* her vagina i did not get  proper erection and seprms  same day after one hour when i went to home i masturbate i get erection and sperms  why it is like this  and i donot know to how  stop to stop masturbation daily 3- 4 times a day   what are all the problem may occur in future ? please anwer my questions and suggest me how to get ride of this problem
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523042 tn?1212177895
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Hello.

First, you probably didn't have an erection with a call girl because you were uncomfortable and anxious. This is NOT caused by masturbation (self-pleasuring). The reason you feel so good during self-pleasuring is because you're relaxed and not worried about being with a partner.

Almost everyone feels insecure about self-pleasuring. We all want to know that what WE do is OK. From your note, it looks like you feel that it’s somehow harmful or wrong. There are no data to indicate that self-pleasuring is in any way harmful. However, fear and misinformation about sex can definitely be harmful, because it can keep you from enjoying your life and feeling confident in yourself.

Well, I’m here to tell you that whatever works for you is what works for you, and please stop worrying and enjoy your life. The fact that you’re trying to stop self-pleasuring and are finding it difficult should tell you that it’s part of who you are. Accept it as a wonderful gift that keeps on giving. At your age, your hormones are raging, and your body is telling you that it wants pleasure. Listen to the wisdom of your body.

Here are some facts about self-pleasuring:

It’s the surest way to orgasm and the most effective way to learn about our sexual response cycle, as well as the surest way men to learn orgasmic control.  If you feel you come too quickly, the surest way to slow down is to teach yourself a new pattern via self-pleasuring.

Another advantage is self-knowledge: How can you show a partner what you like if you don’t know yourself?

And the #1 reason for self-pleasuring: it’s fun!

Self-pleasuring is a part of who you are sexually—for your whole life, not just when you don’t have a partner. People self-pleasure from birth to death, when they’re alone and when they’re partnered. It’s just one of many options we have as sexual beings. It’s not better or worse than partner sex, just different—like steak is different than chicken.

Remember that all our scientific data show that the people who take responsibility for their OWN pleasure have the best sex lives and rate themselves as happiest about their sexuality.

For more information about male sexuality, including self-pleasuring, I highly recommend a book which has helped thousands of my college students: "The New Male Sexuality," by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., widely available online, both used and in paperback. Please pick up a copy. I think it will help you feel less frightened and more confident. Good luck! Dr. J
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you are too used to satisfying yourself. leave masturbation alone for a couple of months and I bet you will feel a difference.
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