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sex is yuck

i been sexual abused  mentel and physical  im 45 and i hate sex think its nasty  and lost 3 marriages becaue of it i force myself against my will    every thing works but i feel sick nausha after sex and shower instantly  for a half hour  i loved all my wifes a lot but why do we always have to have sex  i been to counselors but i still fill grose  and so ashamed to be nude around a woman i watched my mom be raped i was a little boy  and could't stop the abuse is there hope does everyone have to have sex to be happy and why is it so important i worked  60 hrs a week they never had to work i did it all but sex  and if i did i throw up in shower  will i ever find someone to love me  without sex i hate it and don't know why
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my mother is the same way and she asks the same questions- can love be conpanionship without intercourse! i have to say yes because love and intamacy can be shown in many different ways. i have post traumatic stress dissorder due to rape and sometimes i cant handle being touched at all-not to alarm you but it sounds as though you may have PSTD And OCD like me. dont be scared tho identifying whats making the interaction so dibilitating infact will help you cope with the traumas n lessen the onset of attacks with the disorders! my ocd after rape almost killed me showering 20times a day with every anti bactiral /fungal **** out there-only after mths of hospitalizations i realized what i thought was making me feel better was infact making my life hell! seek out proper help itll change your life. my life changed so much so that im expecting my first baby and although my mind flashes memories by me when descussed i now am able to work threw n control the debpth of inpact n let them be!

remember to have love and tolerance for yourself and those around you and try the serenity prayer-given threw AA and may u find faith in yourself and the streangth to let go of the things you cant change

love,
tabi
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523042 tn?1212177895
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Hello

Your questions can't be answered within the brief format of this forum. You state that you've been to counselors, but are still unable to enjoy sex. I submit to you that perhaps you haven't yet found a counselor who is the right fit for you. I encourage you to find a therapist who is trained specifically to help people with sexual concerns. If you don't know anyone in your area, send me a private message with your location, and I'll refer you to someone appropriate. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
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You will find someone who is willing not to have sex, give it some time, ur one true partner Shud understand how u feel about sex and don't give up hope!! :)

        I hope this helped,
                               Thefang
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