i meant do they always break the first time of sex?
Hello.
Everyone is different. Some hymens bleed profusely when broken; others don't bleed at all, so it's difficult to tell what state yours is in. If it's easy for you to insert your finger or a tampon, then your hymen is probably mostly gone.
By the time we reach puberty, our hymen has already begun to wear away. If it didn't, it would impossible for our menstrual blood to exit the body. A lot of women break their hymens through nonsexual means. This could include tampon insertion, horse or bicycle riding, dancing, gymnastics and other strenuous exercises. And some women's hymens tear during the first time they have sexual penetration (that includes by penis, fingers, toys, etc.). Dr. J