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watching son in shower
Answered by
Janice M Epp, PhD - Female sexual issues, Adolescent sexuality, Male sexual issues
Private Practice
Palo Alto - CA
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watching son in shower
by debbie304, Nov 10, 2009 12:26PM
As a mom I do become aroused when seeing my son in the shower, erect that is.... he is very handsome., does he want me to see him, ??? He has even watched me shower by peeking in the outside door... I have also 'caught him jerking off upstairs after school.... and seen semen on my panties... could this get seriously WRONG...?
hAVE ANY OTHER MOMS EXPERIENCED THESE THINGS.?
hAVE ANY OTHER MOMS EXPERIENCED THESE THINGS.?
Doctor's Answer
by Janice M Epp, PhD, Nov 12, 2009 04:42PM
, Nov 12, 2009 04:42PMTo: debbie304
Hi Debbie.
This is a very complex situation, and I can't really give you a comprehensive response within this brief format. Suffice to say that both of you may have some boundary issues. You may be getting turned on by looking at your son because you're lonely or feeling neglected in your other relationships--or other possibilities too numerous to mention here. And your son may be eroticizing you as well. I say "may" because without an in-depth interview, it's difficult to tell exactly what's going on.
It's not uncommon for young men to go through periods of time where they use women's lingerie during self-pleasuring. This doesn't necessarily indicate he's turned on to you specifically--it may just be that your lingerie is close at hand. It's also possible that he's picking up on some signs of interest that you're showing, and following your lead.
At any rate, it's time to talk with someone about this. I suggest you find a clinical sexologist who specializes in helping people talk about sexual issues. Once you're able to understand what's going on with you, then you can consult your therapist about your son's behavior as well. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
This is a very complex situation, and I can't really give you a comprehensive response within this brief format. Suffice to say that both of you may have some boundary issues. You may be getting turned on by looking at your son because you're lonely or feeling neglected in your other relationships--or other possibilities too numerous to mention here. And your son may be eroticizing you as well. I say "may" because without an in-depth interview, it's difficult to tell exactly what's going on.
It's not uncommon for young men to go through periods of time where they use women's lingerie during self-pleasuring. This doesn't necessarily indicate he's turned on to you specifically--it may just be that your lingerie is close at hand. It's also possible that he's picking up on some signs of interest that you're showing, and following your lead.
At any rate, it's time to talk with someone about this. I suggest you find a clinical sexologist who specializes in helping people talk about sexual issues. Once you're able to understand what's going on with you, then you can consult your therapist about your son's behavior as well. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
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Once you two crossed THAT line, it cant be undone. Make the right choice, you can, thats why you asked for help here.