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Why cant my husband wake up in the middle of the night, even when there is and Emergency with our children? PLEASE HELP!

Once my husband falls asleep he will Not wake up for anything at all. This is really causing issues in our marriage. Just in the past few months very serious emergencies has happened, he will not wake up.
Two months ago our 2week old son completely stopped breathing. I was crying, screaming, shaking my husband and the bed begging for his help. He did not wake up until I had no choice but to slap him. Then he woke up and as I was still begging for his help, he jumped up cussing, screaming, and throwing things. My husband has Never gotten violent with me in 11yrs. Only a very few times has he ever even raised his voice to me. He is a very sweet loving, caring, gentle man, that has always been at my side. This did not start happening until after our 3month old son was born.
The week before Christmas this happened again when our 6yr old was running 103.8 fever. My husband would not wake up. I had to call my parents to come help.
Last night our 6yr old woke up screaming with pain and complaining that he could not hear. . He had blood running out of his left ear down to his shoulder. Once again I was scared to death in a panic needed my husband, he would not wake up.
He doesn't have any problems waking up in the mornings. He has a normal sleep schedule with plenty of rest. I don't understand what is going on.

Why can't he wake up or is it that he just doesn't want to?

PLEASE HELP! Any advise will be greatfully appreciated!
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Have you questioned him about it?

Sleep disorders this "strong" usually don't just appear, although some can.

Has he been in the military or prison?

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Avatar_m_tn
We have talked about it so many times. He has no memory of any of this happening at all. He has never been a very deep sleeper. He has like everyone fell into a deep sleep at times but had no problem waking up at all before our youngest son was born 3months ago. No, he has never been prison or the military.
He did have an infection in his gums maybe a month and a half ago. He finished the medication weeks ago. The first week August he changed jobs to be able to stay at home with us. The new company does not offer insurance. We can afford insurance right now. He has not been back to the doctor for a check up. He refuses to go because we can't afford it. Could a infection cause behavior like this?
I am so worried about him and also so scared knowing if another emergency happens I can't depend on him. That is really hard to do with an infant with sleep apnea. I just do not know what to do.
I am open to any advise at all.
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Avatar_m_tn
Until he is able to get the help, get a kit made up. It is like an emergency kit, but for in cases like what has happened. I am sorry to say this, but unless you find out what it is, you have to treat it like you are a single parent when it comes to night time. This means you have protection, I don't know if you have a dog, if you do, then all the better. You should have an emergency set of clothes for you and the children, and any thing else you can think of for just in case. I hope someone here can help you, or you find out from a doctor what is wrong, but you should have this kit ready.

I don't think an infection or the antibiotics would cause this. I honestly have no clue why someone would suddenly have this problem, unless it's a sleep disorder has has developed. If his dreams are affecting him, or if his sleep is getting to deep, then I guess it could cause him to behave like this.

Feel free to message me if you need to talk.
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I just had to post as I am going through the exact same thing. Once my husband falls asleep he will not wake up for anything. We have a 10 month old son and the past 10 months have been very stressful and worrisome as I feel like a single parent much of the time. We have had emergent situations with both my son and myself and I have been completely alone in the matter and scared out of my mind. Unfortunately, I have no help in the city I live in...(parents and sibling live in other cities), therefore when something happens I am utterly alone. To explain one of the many situations that have occured, when my son was 2 months old he reacted to his first set of vaccinations (fever of 104, lethergic, moaning), I could not wake my husband up. I screamed, yelled and he wouldn't wake. I ended up having to call telehealth and then he got mad at me after the fact for doing this. He cannot even wake up on his own for work in the mornings. Every morning I have to yell and scream at him like he is a teenager. This causes intense stress for me, my blood pressure to rise and really puts a damper on the morning. It has totally causes issues in our marriage. I hold a lot of anger and resentment towards him because he acts so irresponsibly. I am completely at my wits end! I sympathize with you completely.
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i have the same problem except its me who cant wake up! i feel terrible for my wife! i have started to be able to be woken up and sometimes be able to deal with my son without my wife having to leave bed, but sometimes im not functioning properly and just roll over! i dont mean to do it and i dont remember being woken. i dont hear him cry and my wife even kicks me in bed to try and wake me. is there something wrong with me? i used to sleep walk as a child sometimes and juat sit on the top step of my stairs asleep. is this related?
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o my gosh .. My husband has the same problem . I can't wake him up for anything . It takes me about 2 hours to wake him up . It is so stressful . I have poured water on his face , slapped him, screamed in his ear, hit him everywhere.I am tired of it ... Has anyone figured out what causes this
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My wife is like this in some ways.  If she falls asleep in the wrong place, for example the couch, the car, or an airport waiting area, when I try to wake her, she is really nasty and refuses to move.  She'll curse and insult me and plead and lash out.  In the morning, she doesn't remember at all.  She wakes fine in the morning, usually hours before I do.  Last night after more than an hour and a half of trying to get her up, I let her sleep in the car in the drive way.  She was mad at me this morning, for leaving her there.  What the devil am I supposed to do.  Nobody has posted a name for this behavior, yet.
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Wow, I just had a similar episode last week as the original poster of almost two years ago.  This wasn't the first time, but after repeated situations, I decided to google it.

My fears are the same, though we don't have young children anymore, it's that emergency situation that scares you even more when the support isn't there.  It's the future that bothers me more than the past.  I wonder if he will be there if I really need him with a night time health emergency?  What if we are out late one winter night and he falls asleep in the car?  Might he freeze to death?  Why do they lash out so violently when they are, by nature, so caring and wonderful?

It makes you feel like you're in a long term marriage by day and a single woman at night.

Has anyone found out the reason for this?
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Hi...I was reading your post and what your husband is experiencing is a demonic attack.  You can go to as many physicians and consultations as you want and none of them will ever be able to tell you exactly what to do.  If you do not believe in God, now is a good time to start believing because the end results could be fatal. What you are experiencing is supernatural so I am not surprised that physicians have no idea what's going on at this point. Keep in mind that only Satan is evil and violent.  If you husband is falling asleep and not waking up that means that Satan is trying to kill your husband.  Satan is sneaky and tries to attack people at their most vulnerable state.  Scripture states in John 10:10 "the thief comes only to kill, steal, and to destroy, Jesus comes that you may have life more abundantly." First thing you want to do is get a Bible if you don't already have one. Read these books within the Bible Matthew 4:1-11; Mark 1:12-13; Luke 4:1-13 these Scriptures illustrate how Jesus defeats Satan and how Jesus saves all of humanity after dying for our sins and being resurrected. Second you want to repent of any sins known and unknown and ask Jesus to come into your heart.  Ask for the gift of the Holy Spirit and ask him to guide you into all truth. Third you want to plead the blood of Jesus over your husband and your son and everyone in your household.  Satan can only attack someone if they do not know the truth about Jesus, he also tries to attack those who are dealing in unbelief.  Prayer is paramount to fighting against these attacks.  I know this because before the new year Satan tried to kill me.  I know how powerful the blood of Christ is, and Satan can not come against your family if you establish a blood line over your family and confess Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior every day of your life.  God will turn your situation around and I pray that your husband will no longer be under Satan's influence.  Take heed to what I tell you.  As I type the Lord is pouring this message into my spirit to share with you.  I wish you all the best and I pray peace and love over your household.  
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