sleepping nonstop

[wendyandrhonda]

My husband sleeps all the time. He will stay in bed for everything. It is to the piont that I am ready to take the kids and leave. No one belives me untill they see it for themselves. We now have roomates and they are amazed how bad and wierd it is. Christmas is days away and he has yet to get out of bed . If you do get him up he is mad and grouchy. If he is working he will show up half the time and miss at least 2 days a week. His bosses always make alowences. One even stopped working his crew when he wanted to stay home and sleep. He is never out of bed ever. We move last year and he never help - he sleeped the whole time untill the last day and they where kicking us out. What is this ? Is he bipoler or crazy? Is this our life or is there some kind of answer out there? When we got married and dated he was a real go getter . Now and for the last 10 years he has been a dead beat. What the hell is this ? No one knows even his doctore and counselors? Is this worth psychotheraperapy?

[KatEyes]

Glad to hear he seems ready to get some real help. Please do encourage him to make his FIRST priority a sleep study. It is important to be accurately diagnosed so that the treatment is not just a bandaid or even do more harm than good. A sleep study will monitor his brain activity for sleep stages, his heart, respirations, and limb movements. I've been dealing with sleep disorders for over 10 years and this is the first I've heard of a sleep addiction. Out of curiosity I am going to google it. At any rate, his symptoms are so severe I would not allow even a doctor to make guesses at this. Absolutely nothing short of a full overnight sleep study in a sleep lab in addition to any related medical tests that have not already been done would be an acceptable next step. By the way, has he seen a neurologist? A neurologist who has a sleep specialty might even be helpful in his case. Please do let us know how this progresses and how his sleep study turns out. Merry Christmas.

[wendyandrhonda]

I know it is not a norrmal thing and a fight constantly , but I showed him some things on here last night and I found a sight about sleep adiction. He sees his doc every 2  to 4 weeks about this and she has not found anything to help. I really believe she doesn't get this at all. I told him that she acts like she dosen't believe him. He finally agreed last night (what a Christmas presint) to tell her what madicines he wants to try and to check out a sleep clinic in the hospital. I think he is sick and tired of being sick and tired.

[Curtis1960]

Hello, Wendy.

I second KatEyes thoughts that your husband could have a sleep disorder or possibly clinical depression.  There are other medical conditions that can cause this sleepiness.  He could have a vitamin b-12 or testosterone deficiency.  These can cause terrible fatigue.  He might also be diabetic or the opposite, hypoglycemic. He might be insulin resistant too.  There are so many medical conditions that can cause him to sleep all day.  

The only real option is to get him in to see his doctor.  If you don't have a doctor yet, get him into the ER and let them run some tests.  This sounds so serious and I'm sure there is an explanation for the fatigue.  Do whatever it takes to get him to a doctor.  If left untreated, some conditions can kill him.  If you can't motivate him, then call 911 and have them take him to the ER.  The key is to act quickly.  

Best of luck and let us know how your husband does.

Curt

[KatEyes]

Your husband doesn't sound like a deadbeat, he sounds ill. You mention his doctors - has he had a sleep study? That should have been the #1 test for anyone who sleeps too much. He could have any number of sleep disorders, the most common of which is sleep apnea. It robs the body and brain of necessary sleep and oxygen and can rob one of their life. Those whose quality of sleep is poor feel the need to sleep more and more to try to compensate in quantity for what they don't get in quality. It can damage ones health and even affect their mental staus. If a recent sleep study does not show something like that, he may need tested for narcolepsy.

If all that is negative and he has been thoroughly evaluated medically, maybe he is severely clinically depressed.  Even deadbeats find the time and energy for those things that matter to them. Your husband sounds incapacitated and in need of help. Who knows, maybe you could even find the man you married.