my partner and I separated at the end of April, after two years...he can be a very controlling man and I had become isolated and saw the writing on the wall...this is relevant....btw. Asking him to leave was very difficult as I knew he had not many places to go, and he chose to sleep rough, very close to my house. On the third night he came to the house, very ill, massive headache, vomiting, very confused. He remained in that state for several days. I looked after him...no-one would help. I assumed he was having a psychotic episode. As he gradually seemed to come out of it and became even more unpleasant than before, I asked him to leave again, the police became involved as he would not leave me alone, and he was served a PIN .. like a harrassment order. He is not dangerous, but is clearly desperate to come back. I think he has mental health issues.
A month later, I had a call from someone nearby, saying he had collapsed in their garden, doing some work. I went round and could see he was having a stroke. The health centre nearby had been called, did a quick assessment and sent for an ambulance. I followed it down and have spent the last three days with him. A brain CT shows a major stroke from a few weeks back (must have been the time he came back)...affected the part of the brain that processes information....he has had a series of mini strokes since.
They are talking about discharging him on Friday, but to who?? I know I have given him hope by supporting him but no-one else is there...he only has a sister in Cape Town...our relationship is complex and has been abusive and I am trying to find my own life back and now this. I can't see him homeless in this condition, and also wonder about whether he has mental health issues anyway, and how this will affect him. I just don't know where to turn, no-one at the hospital has acknowledged my presence, even tho I've sat in on all the consultations and helped him answer, and been with him pretty much the whole time. He's desperate and frightened and I just don't know where to turn.