recovery after massive stroke

[aunt juju]

My 59 year old (otherwise healthy) mother had a right side brain stroke two weeks ago. The DR. said it was prety massive on most of the right side, leaving her unable to move her left side.  She is able to talk, eat, drink, and able to answer any question. (still not completely normal in thinking and talking, but really close.)
She started a live-in rehab last thursday (3 days ago) and now can move her left leg some.  Stil no movement of the arm.  She does have the neglect of the left side. my question(s)
1.  How long does the brain swelling take to go completely away?
2.  Well the neglect she has get better?
3.  Well she be able to walk and move her arm, and if so how long with rehab will that take?

[Godshelper1]

I can a image how hard it is. My mom is gone and  we (brother&sisters) took care of her until she passed. I now have a girl friend ex coworker who had a stroke just about a year ago I found out three days after it happen. She has a fiancé and three children and a sister. I have taken  her in my home to help her in her recovery. God and I have gotten her from incontinence to using the toliet to walking to talking. We still have a long way to go but I know God is able. You have to have faith and watch God move. Don't ever wish you weren't born. God knows you can handle this and he will give you uneducated to make it. God bless you and your mother.

[Jen0925]

This is in reply to a post put on here almost 7 years ago by Iaaz who was shaming a young lady who was the YOUNGEST and had seven older brothers who said she wish she had never been born. Iaaz, I am glad you are such a saint as to never have had those type of feelings towards you parent but quiet frankly I am not buying it. Every caretaker I have known has had SOME negative feelings about the situation with their loved ones. If this young lady feels like her life was over maybe it's because at that point it was. I have cared long term for FOUR of my family members and have as of now been taking care of my mom for 18 months THIS TIME. I love my mother but can't stand her. She has been a control freak for my whole life and controlled me and my four siblings like we were her puppets. I left home at 17 because I couldn't take the mental games of guilt and manipulation that my mother used and still uses to this day. My mother had lung cancer in 2010. Three SMALL spots on her lung. My father was ate up with lung cancer at the same time but it had to be all about HER. She survived and had a MINOR stroke less than three weeks after her last chemo treatment which was caused by the chemo AND her smoking pot. She made a full recovery except slightly droopy lips and cant always tell when she has to pee. However, she went to bed and refused to get up. My dad died on hospice less than two months later because she had to be taken care of her way even when she didn't need it and he ignored his health because she made a big deal that he wasn't the one that was sick. HE was horribly ate up with cancer that had spread from his lungs to a tumor on his lower spine. He suffered horrible pain. After he died she went to bed like she was the only one who had suffered his loss with all the drama of Joan Crawford. Just like she did 30 years earlier when my grandmother died. She didn't console us, her five children, in any way. We had to console HER instead of all of us being there for each other.  It has now been FOUR YEARS and she STILL refuses to get up and do anything for herself. We have had home health send therapy out 8 different times and she will only do the exercises when they are here and will not do them any other time but expected us to lie and say she did. When I try to get her up to do them she will fight like hell and tell me what a sorry daughter I am. She also proceeds to tell me how much better off my ex is with his other ex wife and how it should have been me instead of my sister that died last year. I have ruptured disc in my back, arthritis really bad over my whole body and a bad SI joint. On top of that I need a hip replacement. My body is far worse than the spoiled woman who is laying in there calling herself my mother. I have begged crying on my knees for her to please do whats right for herself and me and get up to take care of herself. She got up and took care of herself for three days before she lost interest and put herself back to bed. Her exact words were 'Why? Why should I get up'. I loved my mother and got along with her my whole life till about 16 months ago when I started realizing how badly she uses everyone around her. I personally have tried to put my mother in a nursing home and if she would go willingly would have her there TOMORROW. She has made me her personal slave and the only time I told her she had to go into the rehab (the fourth time) and do well or I was moving out she told her home therapist that I was being abusive and could they get her out of here. Ironically, that Friday they put her willingly in the very rehab she was scheduled to go into the following Monday. Four days later she was calling begging to come home. 7 days later she told the nursing home she was leaving to come home period so they were about to allow her to get onto the senior transportation BY HERSELF with her stuff. I had to call the adult protective services lady that I personally had opened a case with against MY MOTHER last year because of her being physically and mentally abusive to ME. She told me if I ever tried to put her in a home she would make me pay and she almost did when she lied and told them I had been abusive. However, the members of the family who had caught her in lies about it before reported what they had seen and heard including the fact that she had lied to two of us before that my sister was being mean to her when my sister was taking care of her. I also had pictures of what she had done to me including kicking me, head butting me and busting my lip, slapping me, pulling my hair, and verbally abusing me. Now all of this being said. The post you responded to was a short post, who the heck in all your self righteousness do you think are to talk to someone else that way when you have no clue WHAT kind of relationship she has with her parent. We are just so very happy of your Dorothy in Oz relationship with your parent that meant so much to you but in real life not all relationships are like that and not all parents are good enough people to have those feelings about. Before you verbally bash someone who is going through one of their hardest times with what could be a horrible parent that they have been saddled with why don't you do something that is actually constructive and try to HELP instead of just running your mouth? I felt that the personality you displayed in your answer was FAR worse than any of those very real and true feelings that judi670 wrote about. The shame Iaaz is YOURS.

[chenoby]

My husband is 70 and had a pulmonary embolism leaving his left side lame, we had him in hospital within the hour, he has now been in rehab for seven weeks, his brain function is very good, slight forgetfulness in short term memory, but otherwise great, yet there is no movement in his left arm or leg at all, the physio lasts for about an hour and half a day five days per week, yet his hand is curling up and they are not opening it onto a splint or anything, they can't find any other problems, is this usual, the lame side to stay this long?

[chenoby]

My husband is 70 and had a pulmonary embolism leaving his left side lame, we had him in hospital within the hour, he has now been in rehab for seven weeks, his brain function is very good, slight forgetfulness in short term memory, but otherwise great, yet there is no movement in his left arm or leg at all, the physio lasts for about an hour and half a day five days per week, yet his hand is curling up and they are not opening it onto a splint or anything, they can't find any other problems, is this usual, the lame side to stay this long?

[NRammy]

Is there any movement on the fingers now? Please let me know

[voguettte]

I will like to talk to you by email, my father is going though the same as your father did. I need support. Please. Email ***@****