I have a 26 yr old son who is an opiate addict and lives with me. He has overdosed twice , the last time was late October. He then said he wanted to quit and went to rehab. He stayed only 7 days stating he did not need to be there any more.
He grew up watching his father abuse alcohol and in the past few years of his life he also abused drugs.. he passed away last march at age 46 from heart failure brought on by the drug abuse. Alcohol abuse also runs in my family, also mental illness and depression. My son lived with his father at the time, he considered him to be his best friend. My son has always been somewhat anxious and was diagnosed with ADD as a teenager and recently again as an adult.
He was on suboxone for about a month and a half after rehab . He just decided he did not need it any more and said all he needed to take was neurotin, which was also prescribed to him.
Until a few weeks ago he lived with his cousin until she found out he was using and she told him he had to leave. He tried to deny it at first, but we could tell and we later found needles and pills. He uses morphine, snorts xanax and later we found out he was also snorting ritalin.
He asked to stay at my house and I know he is not clean , right now it is 3 am and he left about an hour and a half ago, saying he could not sleep and was going jogging. I told him I knew he was lying and I did not think it was a good idea for him to leave , but he denied it and said he would be back shortly.
He has basically no coping skills right now, he is really impulsive and spends money very rapidly. He received a large insurance check from his father passing away and spent it on drugs and shopping. He now receives a monthly pension amount also. At this point I dont know what to do , I tried talking to him but he wont go to rehab or any counseling or meetings. He previously told me after he left rehab that if he relapsed he would go to meetings , but he refuses. He basically has no where else to go ....no one in the family is going to let him live with them, they are afraid he will overdose again. He has been in jail for drug related charges and cannot afford to get into trouble.
Where do I start now? He does have a couple uncles that I can call and they can come and talk to him again, but he ususally just agrees with what we say just to get us off his back. I cant keep laying awake at night wondering and crying,
Where do I start? I would appreciate any advice. I am not sure if I have the heart to kick him out.