cd56 no af, has anyone experienced this any comments? opinions?

[4mel4]

Hello,

Im 42, I have a 28 day cycle, my last af was dec 30th spotting first day light bleeding for a day and a half and then spotting for about 4 days after that. since then nothing. It is cd56 today and no af. I have taken hpts ove the past couple weeks and have gotten very very faint lines on morning tests and then nothing on afternoon tests. I posted in the pics on my profile page. my temps have been staying up (98.3-98.80) for the past couple weeks. do not have any cramping or anything that I usually get before af. I have been feeling very wet like af is here but nothing for weeks,  have had some twinges and fluttering feelings, slight pressure, extreme heartburn and the last couple days feel exhausted. I am not like this and the only time i was this exhausted was when i was pregnant. Has anyone else had this happen? What was your outcome? I thought I was pregnant but yesterday cd 55 I had a blood test and they called back negative. I could swear they were going to say it was positive. Any thoughts as to what may be going on?curious and looking for answrs until I I can get into the doctor. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for almost two years now. since our daughter 12/24/2009. Comments appreciated. this is so frustrating not to know what is going on.

[MEL4141]

helo, my weight has always been low due to eating disorder and i guess i still just control and maintain a level which i feel comfortable at. I'm not that underweight, 7 stone and i am only 5ft, also i was half a stone les when i conceived alfie so its not always the weight, I have had bloods done for fsh and lh, which are good for my age, no signs of menopause and i do still ovulate some months, I am so sorry about your sister, how absolutely devastating for her. We had one ivf that sort of worked but the embryo came away at 7 weeks, totally horrible time as my dear dad passed away 2 months prior so unexpectantly.but cant imagine what it was like for your sister, losing our little bean was bad your sisters experience just sounds too dreadful. Anyway we wil keep trying, not think about it and pray for a miracle! xx my best wishes melissa

[4mel4]

Oh doctors can be soo very wrong. my sister in law was told she could never conceive. she went thru ivf processes for her first three kids. then fell pregnant with a fourth naturally. During the processes one of the times she was pregnant with 6 babies. She had to removedo a reduction of  5 of the 6 because she was in danger.... they did not explain the procedure totally to her and when they did the  reduction she held her too early born babies as they stopped moving in her arms. She was devastated she cried for what seemed to be months... I could not even imagine her pain. when talkig to her last summer she still broke down and could not handle it. Ido not know much about the process. I am going by what my sis in law told me. But she is such a wonderful mommy and wife... and to see in her face the pain was devastating....  

AF arrived today..... go figure..... It is normal but much darker than usual and still no cramping etc like I usually have. Very odd.  How are you doing? You said your weight was low? May I ask why that is?

[MEL4141]

Hello again, it never ceases to surprise me how many times I have heard Dr's say "the chances of you ever conceiving are next to none"! , i had it with me was told would never have children as wasnt ovulating much and had eating problems, but rather than say there is always the chance you will fall pregnant, it may happen they put the negatives from the start. My friend is another lady who was told this, had 2 neg ivf's then fell natuarlly at 43! the honest truth is no one can see what is happening inside our reproduction unit! we could be ovulating, get no symtoms and fall pregnant, as thats whats happened with me, was 4 months before i knew!   My husband says and i  know he's right to chill/relax/forget about the whole baby making, and it may just happen. stress and hormones do effect fertility as the brain controls how we work-think this makes sense! So we are (well I) trying not to bed just when i think "its the window" period, be calmer and focus on other things. With yourself like me, we've had a child so it most definetly could happen again, lets really HOPE so, taking Alfie into town soon, he wants a fireman sam book, then lunch in the macdonalds as a treat! best wishes, i'm from guildford in the U.K by the the way.xx

[4mel4]

Hello,

thank you for the info. I thought peri menopause and also possible cysts or maybe nothing. who knows. The thing is i cannot see my doc for a couple weeks and not knowing is getting the best of me. When we were trying for our daughter who was born in 12/24/2009 we went to a fertility doctor and he told me I could absolutely never conceive... We went because of my age and were trying for almost 6 months. They did all the tests and said although my numbers were not very high they were not low.  I sat in his office and asked him how could that be? No one in my family has ever had any problems like this and if there was any way I would be able to have another child without ivf  or other drugs and he said again no, then proceded to write out the cost of three different choices. first two were shots and pills and then circled th cost the last option was ivf which he said he recommended. We left undecided and I was so very upset. Within the next month I found out I was pregnant! Just before we were going to call the doc and tell him we wanted to try ivf. It took a total of almost 8 months of trying and we conceived. I do not understand why the doctor would say I could never have another child on my own. And that was without temping, charting, ovulation kits, etc. We just bd all the time. Maybe I should just chalk it up to luck. Anyway.... Im happy that I was able to have another. Just hoping beyond hope for one more. Last november I spoke with my doctor and he ran blood tests as I said we were trying to conveive. I had an emergency and couldnt go to the fertility clinic and now hubby is out of the country til march so cannot go back to the doc til then as no one is available to watch the kiddies. I also had a check up last november and the doctor didnt say there were any problems.I was also using the home ovulation tests and got positives sept and oct  of last year(stopped in nov), but  now I am wondering if there is something wrong. or just menopause? :(  oh well..... Lots of luck to you!  I do hope we both get some good news soon!  :)

[MEL4141]

Hello, just read your post with great interest. Firstly I know exactly the frustration you are going through at trying to conceive second child as we are in the same boat. Had our son natuarlly in 2008 and been trying for nearly 3 years for sibling. We have also tried ivf(all our savings-3 trys) but did not stick probably due to older eggs and my age(i am 42 now)-on  a plus side after spending near on £20000, our consultant said we've a better chance conceiving natuarlly like we did with alfie than anymore ivf's. I have never had a regular cycle as my body weight is low but i do know i ovulate (just not every month-had blood tests confirming this)but getting back to your unusual cycle-have you been tested for peri menopause-i know its something none of us want to think about and it ususally doesnt start till late 40's early 50's but unfortuanetly there are a few of us that it does hit early and irregular spotting/periods is a sign.I do hope this is not the case and maybe stress or worrying has delayed period/made it out of sink. I am currently on a clomid cycle. Also if you have a cyst it can delay menstrual pattern and that would cause twinges/ cramps alittle as had one myself. Sorry i don have def answer, only dr can give you this. We havnt given up hope really, really want a sibling but will always be thank ful we have our adorable 3year old alfie. My best wishes Melissaxx