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45 and First Time Trying IVF
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For all us woman 45 or almost 45 trying to conceive. Weather it be natural or with the help of fertility treatments.

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45 and First Time Trying IVF

Hello Ladies!!! :) This is my first time in the group. I will be 45 on Christmas!!! (Yes, I am a Xmas baby :) Never been pregnant. Just recently I started trying with IVF first time. Before, I was trying naturally but nothing happened. My FSH Level is 7. But my doctor said that my estrogen level is high which is 69 (normally it should be between 0-50). I also have some fibroids, one in outside of the uterus and other one is inside. Next week they will decide whether I need to have a surgery. My Doctor told me that I have zero chance with my own eggs. I said at least once I want to try with my own egg and then I will go for DE. Okay girls, anyone out there with similar experience? fibroids? How about high estrogen level? Why is it not good? Thank you and good luck to all of us!!!!
Tags: 45, late pregnancyy
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Hi there good luck ttc . I am similar age but not first time mum. I am desperate to have a baby but because of my age I decided not to even try with own eggs as even if get pregnant there much higher risk of miscarriage and very little chance of healthy birth. So I am going for DE. Have to go abroad for this. I also have 5 fibroids i. Luckily for me they are not distorting the uterine cavity. I am well into my cyce down regulating at mo as still have normal periods. Hoping for ET using DH sperm in next couple of weeks. Good luck.
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Thanks for your reply Mandaszoo!!! Which country are you going for DE? Are you going to do the whole process there or are you going to bring DE over here?
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Hi , sorry not get back, still rubish at navigating site!! Anyway I live in UK where it is difficult to get DE because D not paid for ethical reasons and definately not get DE or IVF because of my age!! I am very lucky to have grown children but not without heartache. Found myself divorced 6 years ago and no idea life would send me on this path. Not looking but met DH who is 10 year younger than me. He , for the first 4 years was adomant he not bothered about being a dad! Became an uncle in 2011 and want to be a dad ever since.. We are so happy. I want so much to give him the best gift in the world.. So off to Athens for few day break and DE transfer with DH sperm. Taking meds at home prescribed by clinic and delivered to the door. Taken me so long to down reg I think I just gone in to menapause, naturally Lol!!!! Good luck and hugs . Manda x
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PS DE ivf with DH sperm £3500. travel cost and flight extra . my meds for whole procedure also extra cost me £120 so far inc meds and postage x
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Hi mandaszoo and sunshine wow what stories.  I am 48 and have gone the DE route as well and have been successful at it......I am also right in the middle of another cycle (for baby #3),  So the DE  - IVF - Cycling monitoring - IUI's and all the drugs drugs drugs....I know all about but I don' know didily about fibroids  :(

Good luck mandaszoo with the trip to Athens I hope all works out for you. Please let us know how it goes
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Good luck to you too! I am a Turkish - American, have fun in Greek :)
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Hi Leatha, I am happy for you that DE worked. I just learned today there is also now an Embryo Adaption option available! Although my husband's sperms are very much okay I think I can get pregnant with a DE but it is good to know there are other options. I want to be a Mom since the age of 7 :) But I have never even get pregnant in my life and I am 45, trying to get pregnant for the first time!!! Life is very different for some people!!!!! :))))))
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Yes I am so glad that medical technology has progressed so far that women can experience motherhood.  I wish you all the best in your IVF cycle and just know that there is always the next option of DE.  I felt the same way that I just wanted to use my own eggs, but you know when you get right down to things it just doesn't matter. I have a beautiful son who I just love with all my heart, he makes me smile so much (and pull my hair out too at times) but he is so worth everything I went through to get him.  SSBD to everyone.
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All the best to you ladies. I think that I would have loved to have biological child with my DH but because numbers are pretty bleak for our age I decided I would rather use a DE. Giving birth and release of hormones will help the bonding process plus the look on my DH face when he holds his child. Going for fresh ET next week. Will let you know how it goes x
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Hi mandaszoo,

I was so caught up in having a "biological" child that it really impacted me emotionally for a while.  But over time as I exhausted all the possibilities....starting from IUI's moving to 2 failed IVF cylces, I just accepted the fact that it just wasn't going to happen for us.  

Once my mind was made up to have a child regardless of where the "egg" came from I was totally okay with things.

Now I have a three year old son who is such a joy to us....genetics just doesn't play a part what so ever.  He is my child, he grew in my tummy, I gave birth to him,  I breastfeed him, we bonded like crazy.  He is still my little man, I am the one he turns to when he wants comfort not Daddy......like I said genetics has nothing to do with it so go for it and embrace the whole process.

Good luck with next week.....how are you doing on all the meds?
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Just checking in again with you ladies.....sunshine how's it going with your cycle.....have you started anything yet?  Have you made any decisions on whether to DE or embryo adoption...that sounds like a viable option as well.

Manda I know it's middle of the night right now but I'm sure you are excited about your upcoming trip.  
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I am so so excited, Cant wait!!  I pray for this to work and that bad weather does not delay flight!
As for meds that is a different matter, I was crying at traffic lights today listening to the radi!! . But the sun is shining so I am going to walk a couple of miles with my dogs very briskly!. Really helps with the stress
Going on a hen do tonight and out to lunch tomorrow. Got to pack yet!!

Sunshine_Sunlight good luck with your decision and best wishes with everything you decide.
Good luck to all us ladies on this journey  
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I cant wait to hear how it all goes, not looking forward to those meds lo, although it will be a nice change for the kids to see me cry instead of growling them ? lol, anyway still have to decide if its your clinic or one of the other two it depends on how hard it is to arrange from over here, we need more than a couple of days notice :)
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Hello Ladies,

Sorry for my late reply. I hope you all survived from Sandy, the disaster! :( We are okay. It didn't hit to Fall River at all.

I will have my hysteroscopy for my fibroids on Nov 15th. It will be anesthesia, so if my Doc things that they are in the cavity, she will take them out at the same time, so I will learn what happened when I wake up! :) Pretty excited for this. And after, I will try one IVF with my own eggs (first time in my life) if it doesn't work, I will go for DE. This is the plan. So, wish me luck! :) I will keep you posted. Congrats to whom already had their beautiful babies through DE. The biggest question for me is: Are you going to share the truth with the baby (and with anyone else also) and when?

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Good luck with your upcoming hysteroscopy I'm sure it will be much better doing it this way for you.

I did the same thing when I decided to go for IVF I went through two failed cycles and then took a long time in finally deciding to go with DE.  I have two kids one totally both our biologically and one both ours but only gentically related to my husband. (if that makes sense).  At first that really bothered me but only because I felt like a failure as a women who couldn't even get pregnant on my own.

Well that is all behind me now and here I am with a FET looming on Monday (very excited btw) and the idea of disclosure appearing again.  At first I was of the mind of NEVER sharing anything with the kids or family and friends.  Now I really feel the need to share it because it really is not a big deal (it is only if I make it that way).  This is our reality and no matter how I would have liked it to be otherwise, DE gave me my family and I am forever grateful for that.  

So to rap this up I will disclose their beginnings to my children BUT to other family and friends I still have a bit of hesitation.  I'm working on that part :)
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Hi Leatha, thanks for sharing me all those. Very helpful. They say if you are going to tell your kid, you need to tell when they are really young, like even starting from 6 months old. So, if I ever need to go to that path and if I am pregnant with a DE, I have to make my mind up very quick.

I hope I will be as lucky as you are to get one baby; doesn't matter how, it still me my baby :)

I will keep you posted guys.

Cheers.
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Sorry not get back been busy! Good luck with yoursurgery . I think it is a really good idea knowing you already under anesthesia in case you need surgery to remove fibroids. I have several fibroids but DR s and radiologist dont think they are big problem as none are in uterine cavity.
As for disclosure I will do it to the child if i am blessed so they can recognise there is a side of them that is unknown. In my case I will explain this by telling them about my oldest child who died of heart problems thought to be genetically linked.I agree it needs to be introduced at young age to normalise the situation. I will only tell non judgemental family and friends. I really dont think it is anyone else s business.
  It is a personal decision( yet another one ! Lol! ) Good luck . Manda x
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