TTC Over 45 User Group
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For all us woman 45 or almost 45 trying to conceive. Weather it be natural or with the help of fertility treatments.

Founded by plumber43 on February 13, 2011
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I'm 45

So I am 45, I don't want anyone to give up! I've tried for 2 years with my eggs, ivf, fet, tubal reversal, 4 iui's, mini ivf,, finally got my bfp only to MC so now one last fet. I gave it my all, my emotions and my body I think has had enough. I'm not giving up I've decided that I really want a baby, even if it's not genetically linked to me biologically, I would adopt tomorrow! My DH really wants a child of his own! I guess I understand. I really believe my husbands very low sperm count and motility issues are the real problem and maybe the age of my eggs. So please pray for me! This is the last chance with my eggs!
Thank you all for being there for me.
Melanie
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Hi Mel - Don't give up hope!  You still have the fet and then still the option of DE if that doesn't work.  I'm starting to seriously think about DE myself but I want to have at least one transfer of my own embryo and I know I'm nuts to think that I could be so lucky as to fall into that 5%....but I need to try.   You came so close last time...and I'm sorry that with our AMA there is no time to mourn...we just have to keep going 'cause time is NOT on our side.  I love you because you are so strong and you are 'real' and I can relate to you (even though I'm the OLDEST lady on the block @ 46!)
I AM praying for you.  ..and for all of us!!!
ssbd
xo
Carolyn
    
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Your so so sweet! I'm not so sure how strong I am, but your right, I / we have no time to waste mourning. It's just what we know, I don't blame you for wanting to try your eggs, when I was 43 I started TTC and freaked out at my re for even mentioning DE, but the reality is I'm 45 and if I had a lot of money I probably would keep trying with my eggs, but 2 years and multiple attempts I'm gonna give my snow baby a chance then onto frozen eggs, they are the most economical way to go. I don't think your the oldest! I'm just glad we have each other! Happy Halloween Carolyn, keep me posted on your journey. Thank you for the really kind words!
Love Melanie
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My FET is scheduled for this Saturday!
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Hi Mel
I am so sorry to hear of the terrible and timely experiences you have had to endure whiilst on the crazy TTC Carousel.
Be kind to you and remember that my Gyno/Ob said that his oldest lady to naturally conceive was 47.  So you have tons of time to go my girl.
Big cyberhugs
Carrie
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No not much time left, no more money, I just have enough for DE if my fet doesn't work! I'm so ok with it though! How are you?

Hugs,
Melanie
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Hi Mel

You just can't help but keep scratching your head and asking "why???" when you sit back and review the enormous fees being placed upon women who just want a little bit of help to be a Mum (whether it is for the first time or again).  

When are you trying FET?  I will be keeping everything crossed and sending out a special plea to the Universe for a successful outcome.

AFM my cycle is working to schedule but no pregnancy.  AF is due today (29 day cycle) and although I have tested yesterday (was sadly greeted with a BFN) I don't think this month is gonna be a 'winner'.  With 47 knocking loudly on my door (birthday 27th Dec) I am kinda resolving myself to the fact that perhaps I've missed my boat.  Hey... sh*t happens! ;-)

Mel I am soooooo sending you the most positive vibes for a successful outcome... will be thinking of you!

All good things

Carrie
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Ok Lady's I had to chime in.  I will be 46 in two months...so I am right up there with you all.  I am still at the STARTING GATE.  I finally give up ttc naturally, interview docs, find one at YES New Hope....just thought I would throw that in mel :-), now I give them my money for my VERY first retrieval......uuhhhh in September, and YES I am still waiting for my first retrieval.  I was even SSSOOOO ready that if I have a couple of failed cycles with my own eggs, I am willing to go DONOR, but NOOOOO I can't even get out of the gate.  I have had persistent cysts that WILL NOT go away.  You want to talk about depressing.  I am so frustrated that this delay keeps going on and on etc.  Have any of you been delayed for cysts?

I , like all of you will keep my chin up even though it is very hard to.  I am glad I have this site, and I also have the most awesome mentor, who I met from one of these forums so I would strongly suggest all of you reach out and get some phone numbers.  I actively keep in touch with several lady's on this site via the phone, and let me tell you it is great when each other lends an ear.  I am here for any of you if you want to send me a private message I will give you my number so we can talk.

PSSS I met a lady at New Hope who is 43...not on this site yet, and she just got pregnant via Dr. Chang with Frozen transfer of her own egg.  She is currently 10 weeks pregnant and doing very well.

There is hope for us 45 plus'ers..and Carolyn you are not the oldest....my mentor/my friend who has the most positive attitude I have ever met..is older than you, yes she is on this site and ttc for the first time like the rest of us.  She is truly an inspiration and hopefully she will read this and chime in herself.

I am monitoring on Thursday, so lets see what happens......I keep telling the cysts to leave my body, so hopefully by now they got the hint lol.

will keep you all posted on my journal...I update my apts on my Oct 4th journal.

See you all soon

Sharon
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HI Sharon,
   I was worried about you. I didn't know how you made out. I went to NH on Saturday and had my FET, I will know by Friday whether or not I get my BFP. I decided that if this doesn't work I am off to DE. I am really ok with it! Are you coming to NY or remote monitoring? I myself have never had any cysts that weren't filled with follicles.
   I pray you get to start your cycle soon, I know how frustrating it is when all you want to do is START ALREADY!  I am sprinkling extra special sticky baby dust upon you!
Hugs,
Mel
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thanks Mel,

I wish I was coming to NY.  I have to wait until these cysts are gone.  There are several lady's I have met on this site that I cannot wait to meet in person.  maybe we will be there together soon.  I will let you know what happens on Thursday, I am having another ultrasound.
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Just wanted to chime in and say I got pregnant on my 44th Birthday by FET with my own eggs frozen just a couple of months before.  The oldest person I know personally was 48 when she conceived naturally and delivered a healthy son.  I know another 45 year old who just had a delivered baby at 45 and 7 months (natural) and another 44 year old. who delivered this summer at almost 45.  There is always DE for those that can afford it.  Dont ever give up !
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