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14 and depressed?

I haven't done this but I need help. I am only 14 and a freshman in high school and I feel things that I am pretty sure is depression. I don't want to tell my mom because, she might think I am faking. The only thing in my life that helps with this feeling is running track. But during the off-seasons where I cannot be near my team seems like an awful long time due to the fact that I just wish to die. I can't talk to my counselor in school, because I had sisters and brothers that went to her and she turned around and told my mom. I would suck it up and look forward to the future and what I dream about doing for the rest of my life. But I don't dream and I used to know what I wanted until I started running track, and got all confused. I am surprisingly good at track for never running before high school, I even got a varsity letter and went to states. However I used to want to be like my sister and work in the fashion business. Now I am not sure. All I want to do in the end is make my parents proud, run track and not feel this way. I want someone to tell me how I can stop feeling depressed and alone, when I am surrounded by loving people? And maybe why I am feeling this way. Please help!
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1683690 tn?1308353392
Hi I lived and survived my teens with depession and nobody to speak to either. It was touch and go at times but I soon learned that I need to keep repeating ' this feeling will pass. I accept it but choose not to act upon it.' Step one is to be honest with yourself. Are you able to keep a Private diary? Letting out how you really feel about things helps greatly. It often makes more sense than when it goes around and around in your head. You are at an age where everything is changing and shifting so fast it is quite normal to feel depressed however it does concern me that you say there are times when you just wish you could die. Is it because you really want to be dead or you cant carry on with life? Both very serious but if you can try and look into how and why you feel certain things it becomes clearer. I do advice that you open channels of comunication as this is not somehting anyone can get through on their own.  I now am so aware of my teens up and down moods and prefer openess rather than perfection. Perfection doesnt make me pround however a person who can be honest about the way they feel not only makes me proud but makes me respect them more. Keep up your track as the exercise and company from others is vital. Even though you might not feel like it find another sport during your break from track.

* We all have the responsibility to ourselves and loved ones to raise the alarm if we have any intention of harming ourselves. Please always remember this. We might not feel the same way about things in a few days.

* Try to understand and, when possible, share your feelings ( as been said before, dont trust everyone on the net ) You stand better chance of recovery if you are aware of how and why your feelings bother/please you..

As you can tell I am a mum. I have gone on at you and I am sorry. Hurt feelings are just the same as a hurt body. Take good care of them.

Have a dream, any dream, and follow it for enjoyment not career, big hugs

*Exersise, eat and sleep at regular times ( this is a must! )

* Be your own best friend. Sounds corney but there are enough people queing up to put us down. You dont have to be one of them
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Hey :) Chin up, I'm 14 as well and I started feeling so depressed last year when I found out my 15yr old sister was pregnant. For months I wanted to give up, told myself I wasn't going to go to uni or make anything from my life.
But I realised that I- just like you- am TOO important. Don't live your life to impress others or make them proud sweetie, ONLY live to impress yourself and make yourself proud.
My tips for trying to beat your slump are; Listen to happy music like Owl City? I used to ONLY listen to My Chemical Romance (A big band from NJ) and it sort of made me feel down, so now I mix MCR with upbeat music and I feel happier.
If you feel down, go for a jog, pay attention to the beautiful things around you.
Tell yourself why YOU are important.
Tell yourself everything you want to do before you say get married or hit the age of 30.
EAT! (Not MacDonalds) Eat breakfast every morning, eat lunch with food you enjoy in it and avoid takeout- It makes you feel icky.
And a word of advice- I talked to my school councellor and it did nothing, they told my mom and it made me feel worse.
  I hope I helped, try to get rid of the unhappy things in your life and talk to someone :)
xx Sue
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1695661 tn?1314920399
you said your surrounded by loving people which i'm sure you are but you said you don't have anyone you trust to talk to that would make me sad too you need to find someone to talk too even if a support group on this site or something like it but always be careful on line and if you have to much time between track seasons why don't you try a marathon or a running contest with your track friends to keep in shape and spend with people who share your interests and i'm sure your parents are proud of you and don't care if you changed your mind about what you want to do with your life
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