Depression?

[becccckkkka200]

I'm 16 and for as long as I can remember I've never really had much confidence in my myself. I always think about the worst possible outcome with everything, I rarely think positive. The past two years have been bad, I lost my Grandad, falling out with a lot of friends. I never really have happy days and it takes a lot of me to laugh, smile. I've become paranoid and I'm scared it could lead to me becoming depressed. It does run in the family. I don't feel like my mood is going to get better. Any advice?

[Hanna001]

I'm happy to hear that your going to give this 'do it yourself' theory a go, Really hope you can hack it and be happy again!
Feel free to message if your finding it difficult or just to let us know how great you're doing :)
Good luck x

[more0then0a0virus]

I`m glad you are doing better and I hope you`ll succeed on your own. If not, never mind. As you said, the other option is also available... If you have any problems on your path, feel free to post your question again or PM me or some one else.. Just remember: it`s not always easy and be ready for that... best of luck...

[becccckkkka200]

Thankyou so much for your comments and advice, they have been such help!

Like Hanna001 has been saying, I think I need to start making an effort with things, so I put my mind of things. Like last week I helped my Mum out around the house and I felt much better about myself as I know I was doing something worthy.

With my Dad, I think I need to listen and communicate more with him. We've both been through quite alot, and I think we're still frustrated and confused on things.

But like I said before, If nothing improves I will have to see a Doctor.

Thanks again! X

[more0then0a0virus]

To:Hanna
No, you are certainly not hypocrite. Every person is not the same, and someone has enough strength to succeed on his own. What you are doing is impressive, and i hope you`ll succeed in this.
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   I also have to make huge changes in my life. I have to fight my "light" addiction problems and depressive way of seeing things.
   I`m learning how to stand up when you are at the bottom. It demands really big effort. and i realized writing helps me. e.g. i write things, that bothered me, down and when i read it i try to see the difference between my problems and problems like cancer. Then my problems sounds stupid and i have a choice: be depressed or enjoy while i can. It`s not like i can change certain things and why should i be upset about them? Which i can, and i`m not ready to, i ignore because it`s my fault, and why would i be complaining while i don`t want to do anything about it?
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To: becccckkkka200
So, you see there is another option, but it`s harder one. It`s your choice... I`m not sure how it ends up. Hanna said she has been doing this few months. But we don`t have enough experience to tell you for sure that doing it on your own will be successful. That`s why i recommend you a psychiatrist. I mean, you can also try to do it our way, but remember, when you are on the bottom and alone, it`s so f*cking hard to get out of that... it seemed impossible to me, but i succeeded somehow. Will you? Just think about it... Consider all options... Best wishes...

[Hanna001]

I think it would be best to go to a professional, if your friends and family don't understand, which they probably won't unless they've been through it themselves.

I do agree with (more0than0a0virus) that it is very difficult to keep yourself in the state of mind where anything you want is possible, I actually used to self harm, and I've been 'clean' for about 3 months now, its a constant battle every day. And it is hard, but I guess it just depends how much you want it for yourself, I haven't personally went to see a specialist, so I guess that makes me a bit of a hypercrit, but I wanted to do it on my own, and so far so good. I hope everything gets sorted for you! Everybody deserves to be happy, and I hope you find a way to make that happen for yourself. x

[more0then0a0virus]

    Quote(Hanna001):"do what you have to do to make yourself happy" .
    i agree. it` that simple. when person has a strength to do so - to manipulate himself, it goes really well. but, by my opinion, it`s hard (for emotionally unstable person) to be focused on one thing whole the time, and at some point, like after a month, it can be impossible to fight with yourself anymore. that`s why some kind of support is needed.

To: becccckkkka200
     I think people often takes things for granted, like your problem, but then try to tell them you are really worried and little more support, talking, listening, advising, caring and so on, would be great.

    As Hanna01 said, since she started making an effort, thighs have changed. that`s what you need to do. pay more attention, talk, be serious, discuss, not argue, and you can both learn some new things and make your relationship much better...

    

[becccckkkka200]

I will considered going to see someone about it, if it becomes worse. I do talk to my parents and friends about how I'm feeling, but I don't really think they give it a second thought or realize how serious I am.

Some days I feel okay, but others I wake up and don't see the point in doing anything. Me and my Dad have been distance since losing my Grandad, and whatever we talk about seems to lead to some kind of conflict.

Thanks for your comments! X

[Hanna001]

Sounds a lot like me.

I think its all in the mind. From personal experience I found that if I told myself to be happy in the morning and started doing a lot of selfless things for other people it made me feel better. Just little things cracking a few jokes at work, or sitting with my family instead of in my room, I mean me and my mom don't really get on, but since i've started making an effort things have felt a lot less stressful at home.

I know it sounds stupid but to me its as simple as 'if you yourself want to be happy, then thats all there is to it, do what you have to do to make yourself happy'

Feel free to add me or message me if you ever need to speak. Never know, maybe I could help :) xx

[more0then0a0virus]

Depression is quite possible, but I recommend you visiting psychiatrist. That`s the only way you might know for sure. If it is depression, you have to get help. It`s the only way out. Even if it`s not, you should go. Sometimes it`s necessary to talk to someone neutral to help us to go trough some things, and to give us advise how to handle some changes in our life without major difficulties.  

Do you have problems telling your parents or friends? Would you be ashamed if you would visit psychiatrist?