MasturbationBrings me down

[kethly]

Well i'm 20 years old , n sex is not allowd in my religion until marriage , it is not actuallly abwt my religion when i was 16 i had an experiance with a muy that he masterbated me n in that time i had great feeling i was week with him but the only the thing he did nothing more  .
A year a go i had these obcession of musterbation , n each time i have a huge desire for it n the second i finish n have that orgasme that have bcame less than before n shorter, n startes the feelings of regret , fatigue sleeping desorder , depression , feeling bad abwt my self , hating my self for that , so i decide never to do it again , bcz i really do not want to do it . I juts didnt know how to stop .. so i want you to help me

[kethly]

Thnk you a lot Pamela , i really appreciate what you are saying to me, and it is helpful . I do want to enjoy my life as long as i still yong ^_^

[CRSeaside]

Dear Kethly, I understand.  My grandpa told me when I was single to get involved in doing the things I loved. I joined a dance class. Got a bike & went bike riding. Went to church. Went waterskiing.
  While I was on a waterski trip I met my husband. We both had a big passion for the sport. He loved boating. Me too. He worked weekends. So did I.  We both liked to eat mainly vegetables.
   In order to deal with sexual feelings before marriage exercise helps. It uses some of that energy.
  To avoid master bation you can write a diary. If you want you can tear it up after. Or write a fictional story about all the romantic things you will do with your husband once you get married.  
  Hormones are strong when you are young. It's natural & normal. Hormones are responsible for our desires.  Be joyful you are young. Be thankful to be a healthy young person.   Hope this helps. Pamela

[kethly]

Thnk you Pamela , but the problm is right fter the orgasm starte the feelings of guilt n everything , but what i want is stop thinking abwt sex n musterbation " what i want to is having sex with someone that will be my husband '

[CRSeaside]

There is lots of information about sex. We call it sex education. I understand about your religious commitments.
  The feelings about desire are natural. Not to be connected with guilt or shame.    When I was young my parents didn't want to talk about sex education at all. So I was confused too.  
  Having an orgasm can relax the body and mind. It can be good for you. For me it helps calm my nerves.   It's actually one thing that helps depression. It shouldn't cause it.  Do you have a Dr. A Gyn?  Next check up talk it over. Pamela