URGENT!!! Need help quick!!

[StressedInsomniac]

Right me and an old friend of mine who i used to be very good friends with, well he has started hanging aorund with me and i found out of my best mate Daniella that he is using me toget to know this girl i like. Well they are real close and i get violent mood swings i take it out on my family members and its really not fair on them. Well he knows how i feel about her and i have just found out from my best friends older borther he got off (snogged) with her last night so im getting a violent swing coming on and i really am not going to be help responsible for my actions as he knows what i am like.
He also knows that i still have feelings for her so he is bring ing this on himself.

Really do need help on this as im going to do something i regret sometime today.

Thanks
Bne

[StressedInsomniac]

Hi there thanks for the advice, yeah i do need to calm down i do agree, i also need to learn to channel my anger. I do workout three to four times a day im getting fit as i want to start taking my anger out my weight lifting  etc... I was saying to a very close friend that i cannot let him win, i wont let him win no one will get me down! I am very caring towards this girl anyway, i told her my feelings for her shall not change, no matter what. I always open the door for her always been like that have been bought up with good manners so always held the door for a lady ;)

I also know her extremely well, alot more than the other boy, i wouldnt use her as i want a proper realationship i want someone to care for and to care for me. This guy to me after reading your advice hes nothing he doesnt exsist.

Thanks for your advice,
Ben!

[April2]

First of all, I think you need to calm down. Raging against your family or friends isn't going to help and it will only get you into trouble. You need to understand, you can't control this situation or whether this girl will choose you or not. It's her choice. And she certainly won't choose you if you blow it and hurt someone or yourself. You'll just frighten her off.
Take a deep breath and do something physical. Go for a run or work out. Exercise works wonder with all that pent up emotion and anger.
Next, don't worry about what this other boy is doing. He can't make this girl like him either! Neither one of you can. He is doing this because he's getting a rise out of you. Don't let him have that enjoyment. You just concentrate on getting to know this girl and proving to her what an awesome guy you are and sweep her off her feet! Be as charming as you can. Call her up and ask her out. Buy her a flower. Open the door for her. Be polite, attentive and caring. I guarentee if you do all that, you'll have her eating out of your hand. But don't be a fake. Don't do it just to get something out of her. Don't use her. You know how it feels to be used.
Remember, don't worry about what this other guy is doing. You just concentrate on her and winning her over, ok? You've got to be cool and play your card right. If you blow your cool, you'll lose the girl. Ok? Take my advice. I know what females want in a guy, lol. I wish you the best.