okay well my thing is i am 18 and like i was really close to my grandparents and they died but that was way back in like Jan and March and like idk, then i started dating this guy and i thought i was pregnant and i wasnt then found out he was cheating on me and then i started getting really deppressed all the time about everything and idk what happened but one time i just picked up a knife in my kitchen and went into my room and cut my wrist and that was the first time and i was scared and now EVERYTIME i fight with my dad or family about something thats what i do i go in my room and i cut my wrist and the more upset i am the more deeper it is ... and like i thought i had it under control but now idk if i do or not and it stinks.... all my friends ever say is ...then just stop if u want to....well it isnt that easy.... and my family and i fight about everything and they say i am not acting like myself anymore and like ...my mom and my brother found out i started cutting and my brother dosnt care and my mom thinks i stoped like a month ago ...and i havent.... and like thats how i feel like noone really cares so why should i stop ??? .... but yet i know i should stop and i want to but it is really hard and i am trying but i need supposrt from my friends...and i just wish i was easy to stop the way it was easy to start..... but its not
When I was teenager back in the early '90s I had the same problem. It was pretty much unheard of back then, and I didn't understand it myself. I still don't fully understand why I did it. Some people will say it's a cry for attention, and some (including myself) say it's a way to control pain yourself in a world that's full of pain you can't control.
I look back on it and realize that the things that were going on in my life really wern't that bad and since then, I've dealt with things so much worse and the though of hurting myself isn't anywhere in my mind. I think that eventually you realize you can find better ways to sooth yourself and occupy your mind. Think about whatever else you can do that you end up loosing yourself in. A good movie, a book, some type of art; anything that you can commit your mind to and block out everything else that's worrying you. Just make sure whatever you do is not going to be something bad for you in the long run.
i think neally every teen feels like that im a teenager when i was like 12-13 i had problems at school i kept getting kicked out then me and my parents would fight about it then i ran off and did some self harm but i noticed none of that ever worked so now i just look forward to what lies ahead of me and ur parents will care but they wont show it Trust me !
yeah like i have tryed the whole getting my mind off it thing like one of my friends has me call him when i want to cut and i can talk to him and he asks me things about my day, how work was or something like that bc he knows what its like and everytime he does this i dont cut but like last night i didnt call him and i ended up cutting and i felt so bad after about it ....and i still feel really bad about it bc i lasted a week and 3 days and messed up bc of something stupid,.....
yeah thats is also part of it, it seems like this is the only paine that I can control .... bc i control how deep i go....i never go really deep but like u can tell if i am SUPPER upset bc the cut will be deeper than it would be if i wasnt that upset....i only want to stop bc i have a feeling that one day i will go WAY too deep and i dont want that ,,,,
Well I'm not sure if my words are the most soothing but, I think you should seriously stop, it is probably not very easy if it's a habit now, but I think if you read some stuff about cutting and stuff to scare yourself to the extent where you're scared to get cut, I think that would work. Or just hide the knives. As for the boyfriend issue, I'm sorry if I offend you, but there are fresher fish in the sea and just drop the subject, forgive, and if you don't want to, that's ok too. You could always find a better way to get rid of stress, like crying, if that's any better. Listening to music and singing helps me. Or go on the internet and forget your fears and pressure and such.
yeah well it is fine i know i need to stop and yeah i am trying really hard i have messed up agin since i posted this and it has been a week and 4 days since i last cut and yeah i know about the boyfriend thing i am over him and over everything that happened except the fact that i was pregnant and lost it....and well the other thing is his new gf is all mad be he said he wanted me back but i dont want him back.....but i am doing okay i mean i am happy now .... and it is good bc i am getting back to the way i used to b..... :) and alo i dont like crying but latly i have been and that helps sometimes too....i will NEVER forgive him for getting his new gf pregnant when i was dating him....but w.e
im 21 and have been cutting since i was 16 the last time i cut was like september just after my birthday believe me it is very hard to stop and there are sometimes i wish i never started my friends relized i was getting worse and worse with each bad habit id stop id pick up to more just a s bad or worse i started out cutting for the first year then i moved to pills od like every 3rd night then i moved to drugs and alchol and so on but over time things got better i graduated and got a job i think a lot of it has to do with prioritizeng and making goals and not just goals for the future but goals for each day like just hanging with friends or relaxing watching tv over time things will subside if your parents are yelling and make you upset try what i used to do call up a friend and ask to go get a cup of coffee at d&d or something but definatly try tho goal thing it worked for me i have a girlfriend who ilove with all my heart and has been my best friend for 7 years and we are expecting! so it may not seem like it now but everything does work out in the long run trust me!!!
i hope so.... but i mean i also forgot to metion i had a misscarrage too.... so i think that had alot to do with this bc i never talked about it up untill like 3 days ago and the misscarrage happened in July........and now i got a guy that likes me and idk what to do about my marks on my arm....should i show him or not unless he sees them and should i tell him about the misscarrage ???????
i use to cut myself a lot but what i did to stop was write poetry about my feelings and i also got a punching bag to knock the **** out of it (do not punch holes in walls it hurts like **** and you can get in serious of trouble) also every now and then screaming helps and i also use to draw the very first thing that comes to my head which was basically my feelings of course and also every now and then when something very bad happens to me i just close my eyes and tell myself that everything will be ok, and dont give a **** what everyone says or do to you cause you're better than that and also never let anyone put you down you're just letting them win by cutting yourself, i figured that out forever ago and now i have never even thought about cutting myself!!!! if you ever need to talk to someone im here and im listening *peace
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