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how do i tell my parents?

im a 13 year old teen and i have been rejected all my life by every but family. i am depressed i know it i thought of killing myself but never did. i need help but dont want to tell my parents i dont want them to not love me because of who i am. how do i tell them? plz help!
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Please if you can't talk to your parents about this then talk to someone... Maybe your school counselor, a grandparent, or an Aunt that you may be close too... You definetely need to talk to an adult about this... Trust me honey nobody will look down on you for this... I'm sure your parents love you very much and would do anything to help you... Please promise me you will talk to someone...

I'll be praying,
Carol

Please let me know how it goes!!!
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Hi, I think it is very important that you tell someone you trust! No matter who that is. I have too been rejected by all my friends at school when i was 13 years old, I was so embarrassed and never told my Mom. I didn't understand why my so called friends would something like that, why one day they liked me and the next they were spreading horrible stuff about me around school, I was so confused. And i made the mistake about not telling anyone, as i didn't know it was called depression. I had a real hard time for a long time before i did get any help, I went to my local doctor complaining about not feeling like myself and wishing i was dead and he referred me to the mental health clinic. You are young and should be having the best time of your life. seeking treatment means you can be happy again. You deserve to be Happy. It is such a hard thing sometimes to ask for help but it really is a good idea, if the person you tell doesn't get it tell someone else until they do.

Best of luck
Freddie

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Hi,

It can seem so scary when we have feelings we don't understand. The fact that you can put a name to it is a good thing. It can seem terrifying to think of telling someone else because depression comes with a lot of really bad baggage. It means we don't feel we're worth anything, that we're useless, that everyone hates us, and that if we tell the few we feel who still love us that they'll end up hating us too.

It's normal feelings that go with depression, but a lot of it is perspective. Right now, in a depressed state, all you can see is a very small part of your life. It's like the world is about 2 inches around your head, and you can feel like it is going to cave in on you any minute. It's suffocating, and tiring.

What your brain doesn't see is the facts of the matter. You ARE very important, and you ARE loved. If you feel you are too afraid to talk to someone who in close to you, then call a child helpline, or a crisis line. They're free numbers that you can call from a payphone. They are trained to listen, and never ever judge. They want to hear you talk about your problems. Only when you get them out do they seem less scary.

Because you don't have to look at their faces it's a lot easier to say the things you need to say, and not feel like someone is staring you down. They actually listen, and you definitely sound like you could use a nice long listen.

Most people are very surprised when they find out that their friends and family still love them even though they have depression. There are a lot of famous people with depression, you know. It happens to anyone anywhere. You're not alone, even though you think you might be sometimes. I understand how you feel, and so does everyone else who has ever had depression. We have different stories, but the feelings are all the same.

Please, find one single person to talk to who can help.

As cheesy as it sounds, you can fight this depression. You've made it this far, don't give up now. You can do this- I have faith in you.

Stay strong,
Kristina
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im the same kid but i forgot my password so i had t make a new acount
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thx but id rather kill myself than tell my mom im depresed
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Just to introduce myself I'm fourteen and, well- let's just say I often feel that way myself.  I don't know about you but I don't talk to my mum because I just can't bear the look on her face if I cry.  But I know if I died that would hurt my family  on a scale x10000 . So I hang in there for another day and another. You can talk to your gp without anyone finding out but whoever you do talk to will almost definitely make you feel better...even if it's just for a little while :/
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I'm 14 as well. I didn't want to tell my parents at first but then it got really bad, and they kept asking "what's wrong, what's wrong?!" and getting angry about it.. So my advice is to tell them before it gets out of hand. Once I told them, it took them a while for it to properly "sink in" and around 3 or 4 months later my mum started taking me to a therapist. You don't have to even tell your parents, you can tell someone else you trust and is a "responsible adult" like a teacher you trust or your friends mum or dad or something. If it's too hard to do that, write down how you feel on a piece of paper and give it to them. I hope this helped, I really am praying for you. I know how terrible it feels and everyone deserves to be helped.. Let us know how it goes xx
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thx ill talk to my teacher and hpoe everything works out and hope they dont try to figure it out by throwing all of my life at me.
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my names Lauren and i think i am depressed, i cant consenrate in school in anything, i cry all the time and i cant stand it anymore!! i have considerd ending my life but i am to scares i need help but when i phoned my doctor he said before i come to talk i have to tell my parents and i cant as my cousin has just commited suiced from deppression ( i really dont want to end up like her. ) i dont no what to do have you got any numbers i can ring to give my support? i would be so greatful:) or if you have got a privete emial i can talk to you thankyou

Lauren, 14
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Hey,

Is it the depression you're afraid to discuss with them or is there something more deep rooted? I felt the same way & it was because I was gay, something I completely accept about myself now. Not implying you are but if there's anything else on your mind don't be afraid to share. I love my mom more than life itself but know I need to come first. You are young & strong for acknowledging this. Feel proud.

Tim
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