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Never comfortable with my body

So I'm 14, and I feel like I'm never happy with my breasts. I'm a 32 B but I have been going up and down with weight and along with that my breast size. With the up and down thing when I weigh more they're really big and I don't like it cuz they get in the way and sometimes guys look there not at my face and I hate it. So I feel unconfortable and cuz I feel unconfortable I stop eating and loose tons of weight and the size goes down. Down to the point were they don't exactly fill my bra and then it's uncomfortable cuz I feel like someone would notice the size diffrence or that I'm wearing a too big sized bra. So then I hate myself so I eat crap food all day and gain tons of weight and ect. I also got the same problem with any other part of my body. I never feel good about myself. I like being skinny but I can't be that skinny without having to hide it so people won't get all bitchy about me not eating. How can I help myself? I know that I shouldn't hate myself but I need to trick myself into thinking I'm not ugly/fat/ect. How can I help improve my self esteem? I know that's a silly question but really I hate myself and I never feel sastifyed with what I do.
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if your not happy with yourself it may have nothing to do with breasts or weight but purhaps a childhood traumatization and until you uncover and learn to cope with it you will always hate yourself my mom left for the first of many time when i was 10 months old still breastfeeding she just split to cali she left for the last time when i was 4 but had continued physical abuse until i was 8 years and mental abuse will probably never end. but i will never do that to my daughter. i bet you are beautiful!! and if you don't like your body why dont you wait until you grow in to it to decide eat healthy no junky foods or at least limit the this site has a food tracker use it count your calories and treat your body well stay hydrated when you are older you can always have cosmetic surgery if you are not happy but atleast wait until your body stops changing to decide you hate it. it sounds to me like you have body dismorphia, in other terms you feel like you are looking at a stranger in the mirror. i've felt that way all my life, but i am 20 now and i am starting to feel better about myself it helps if someone tells you that you are beautiful
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Hey Libby,
I had some self-esteem issues when I was younger.  I was convinced my face was deformed, and that my breasts weren't large enough, or my waist was too big.  I've never had REALLY big breasts but they're usually 10C these days.  Not sure what that is in American measurement.  
You and I both know that this is all in your head, as painful as it is.  I don't think I've met a girl with low self-esteem who wasn't actually beautiful.  My advice is to make a strong resolution to fight this.  Think of your low self-esteem as a tangible enemy you can fight - then it'll be less like attacking yourself.  Whenever you feel the 'enemy' making you think things that make you feel worse, like 'I'm ugly' 'I messed up AGAIN' or whatever it is, think to yourself 'ha! You can't trick me!  No matter what you make me think, I KNOW I'm beautiful and valuable' or something like that.  And find out from a doctor or some health website ( a good one) what your weight should be for your height and build.  Don't let yourself deviate from it.  Eat healthy and maintain a STABLE diet (again, imagine this is 'fighting the enemy') and just let your body be what it was made to be.  Usually self-esteem issues like this get much better when you get older.  It took me until I was second year in college to fix mine.  
Of course, all this weird stuff of imagining your self-esteem issues like they're an external enemy trying to infiltrate you is kinda WEIRD.  It's the coping strategy that I made up for myself and I found it really good.  But hey, I don't know whether it'll work for you.  Try it if you like.  
And best of luck! :)
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Oh Libby, so many people do not like their bodies. Try to surround yourself with good friends who don't judge your body and don't judge their bodies either. Try to stand in front of the mirror every morning and say one nice thing about your body. (example: my arms are strong and help me carry the weight of anything I need to take with me, or I have beautiful eyes). Don't allow yourself to say anything negative about your body. You will start to see your body in a different way, something as more beautiful and helpful. Have you ever read the Seventeen magazine? I used to read it years ago, not sure if they still have the page, but they have a body peace pact that they made and want every girl to sign. (here I found the link... http://www. seventeen .com/health/tips/body-peace-nplp-0508?click=main_sr) (just make sure to get rid of the spaces in the link to post it in)
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