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Really Want Sex.... BUT
A recent post will tell you that ive watched gay porn for about 4 years now, i hate being gay (if i am) and still want to be as straight as a ruler, have kids and a marriage with a woman, Is that still possible?
Anyway, i want sex with a girl, really badly, ive done other sexual things with a girl, BUT NEVER GET HARD. I dont get hard of watching female porn and i also dont get hard when doing things with a girl. Ive had the chance to have sex with a girl, infact she was there naked on top of me, but i just couldnt get hard, any tips? I REALLY NEED THIS.
Anyway, i want sex with a girl, really badly, ive done other sexual things with a girl, BUT NEVER GET HARD. I dont get hard of watching female porn and i also dont get hard when doing things with a girl. Ive had the chance to have sex with a girl, infact she was there naked on top of me, but i just couldnt get hard, any tips? I REALLY NEED THIS.
Dan There Is Nothing Wrong With Being Gay Or Bi. I'm Bi Myself. My Fiance Knows That I Am And She Doen't Care. In Fact In It Is A Turn On For Her That I'm Bi. Just Take Some Time To Figure Things Out. I Know What Your Going Though. I'm Here If You Ever Want To Talk.
Hey just to say that in my group of friends 2 of our boys have just come out to us. We thought it was great! I don't think that everyone will be as judgemental as you think. Your parents may be homophobic and at that age it's probably not something that will change, but they will still love you for who you are. Like i said my best friend John is gay and he is 15, so my age, and there is no one who has thought any less of him. Hope it works out for you!
Thanks, Dan. That's real sweet. You don't have to thank me. Just know that I'm here if you ever need to talk again. I know it's hard being a teenager now days. Remember what I said, just take one day at a time. And go have some fun! :)
Thanks so much April
Your like a mum to me
You've helped me with so many things
how can i thank you?
x
Your like a mum to me
You've helped me with so many things
how can i thank you?
x
Dan, I think you're just thinking WAY too much about this. You're obssessing about this! The more you obssess about this, the more it will stay in your mind. Just give it a rest for awhile. Stop worrying about sex. Stop worrying about wether you're gay or straight. Just stop worrying and thinking so much about all this! If you can learn to just relax and go about your day doing normal every day stuff, it will come to you naturally. It's not coming to you now because you're worrying and obssessing about it! Honestly, if you can just give this a try and take my suggestion I think you'll be a lot happier. You're young. You've got your whole life to think about this stuff. You can't MAKE something happen. It just happens. You were trying to make something happen with this other guy and you see how badly that turned out.
Do me a favor. Just go have fun! Go play some video games. Go to some football games. Go to the mall or the movies with a friend or two. Just have fun! Don't think about sex! Not even once! Just relax! When the time is right, preferably when you're older, it will just happen naturally. Stop trying to make things happen! It won't work. You'll just keep getting hurt Please listen to me. Put all of this on a shelf for awhile and just enjoy being a teengager. Can you do that for me? You've got plenty of time to worry about all that stuff later when you're older. Relax and just go have fun! :)
Do me a favor. Just go have fun! Go play some video games. Go to some football games. Go to the mall or the movies with a friend or two. Just have fun! Don't think about sex! Not even once! Just relax! When the time is right, preferably when you're older, it will just happen naturally. Stop trying to make things happen! It won't work. You'll just keep getting hurt Please listen to me. Put all of this on a shelf for awhile and just enjoy being a teengager. Can you do that for me? You've got plenty of time to worry about all that stuff later when you're older. Relax and just go have fun! :)
Thanks so much everyone
Ive learnt that lads can hurt someone so much whether it's a girl/boy that theyre hurting.
I thought he was better than what he sounded like, and yet he was worse.
He said to me he only wants the sex and then he doesnt want to see my ever again
he said he's done everything with a lad except sex.
(This is the lad everyone think's is straight)
Im scared, i really want to be straight, i cannot talk to anybody about my sexuality, I WANT TO BE STRAIGHT, its getting me down!
x
Ive learnt that lads can hurt someone so much whether it's a girl/boy that theyre hurting.
I thought he was better than what he sounded like, and yet he was worse.
He said to me he only wants the sex and then he doesnt want to see my ever again
he said he's done everything with a lad except sex.
(This is the lad everyone think's is straight)
Im scared, i really want to be straight, i cannot talk to anybody about my sexuality, I WANT TO BE STRAIGHT, its getting me down!
x
im new here but i read your post and i agree with beck and snowysummer there is nothing wrong with bieng gay or bi.my best advice would to meet this guy and see what happens if you still hate bieng gay then only you can change yourself..but if you find that its who you truly are then why keep trying to change it. but sex when you are underage is never okay. it will always be there and sex will have so much meaning when you find the person you love.and give yourself the him/her
trust me it is worth it
goodluck dan
trust me it is worth it
goodluck dan
I sometimes cant belive it by the way i give advise and talk to people but im 15 too, Yea i know young. Ive kissed people, dated people way older but thats another story.
I made the mistake of loosing my virginty last september and in a car!! I liked his looks and i dated him for 3 days (which felt like more) by the 8th day we've broken up. i was heart broken. later i thought i should of got to know him better...way better, but its was too late. the moral of my story is well there is no moral that i think that has ne thing to do with u but something i was told to say to you, (i have some kind of "abilities")
let me get on though, Im bi and my mom knows she has 2 out of 5 daughters ...so far that are bi.
im thankful that she says it doesnt matter.
If u where the only person your friend came out to he probably likes you. more likely other wise he knows your secret-dont be alarmed if im right.
if he does like you u can kiss but not soon wait for the moment-dont get too physical either.
go on dates -like movies or to a game, talk about your intrests.
see what becomes of you 2 in a few months - you guys could become best gay friends or a couple.
if your a couple dont feel pressured into sex tell him your not ready yet unless you are (AND IM SERIOUS) If he doesnt understand he could be trying to get a lay-if not good!!
As far as i know not 1 person not even me can ever forget their first. Make is special-cheesy sounding,yes but its a memory and will be remembered like it was just a month ago.
I am very understanding and helpful- need a friend im here if u want almost urgent help i can give you my msn- i dont give it out much over net so ur lucky =)
Summer
I made the mistake of loosing my virginty last september and in a car!! I liked his looks and i dated him for 3 days (which felt like more) by the 8th day we've broken up. i was heart broken. later i thought i should of got to know him better...way better, but its was too late. the moral of my story is well there is no moral that i think that has ne thing to do with u but something i was told to say to you, (i have some kind of "abilities")
let me get on though, Im bi and my mom knows she has 2 out of 5 daughters ...so far that are bi.
im thankful that she says it doesnt matter.
If u where the only person your friend came out to he probably likes you. more likely other wise he knows your secret-dont be alarmed if im right.
if he does like you u can kiss but not soon wait for the moment-dont get too physical either.
go on dates -like movies or to a game, talk about your intrests.
see what becomes of you 2 in a few months - you guys could become best gay friends or a couple.
if your a couple dont feel pressured into sex tell him your not ready yet unless you are (AND IM SERIOUS) If he doesnt understand he could be trying to get a lay-if not good!!
As far as i know not 1 person not even me can ever forget their first. Make is special-cheesy sounding,yes but its a memory and will be remembered like it was just a month ago.
I am very understanding and helpful- need a friend im here if u want almost urgent help i can give you my msn- i dont give it out much over net so ur lucky =)
Summer
Dan, kissing is not wrong in any way, shape or form. But I think your reasons for believing it isn't wrong are wrong. if you are attracted to men than that's just who you are. Kissing is an intimate thing, just as if not more intimate then sex.
I think you need to stop obsessing about sex (hard to do at 15 I know). I think you need to figure out who you are and if meeting this boy will help then go and meet him.
Gay or straight it DOES NOT matter - you have to be true to yourself. You won't be happy until you are and that could take some time.
There is nothing wrong with being gay, society takes time to accept things but there is nothing wrong with it, just as there is nothing wrong with being straight. Please stop torturing yourself.
Put sex on the back burner, spend time with boys and girls and getting to know people and making friends. That's what you need to be concerned about right now not sex. There is lots of time for sex.
I think you need to stop obsessing about sex (hard to do at 15 I know). I think you need to figure out who you are and if meeting this boy will help then go and meet him.
Gay or straight it DOES NOT matter - you have to be true to yourself. You won't be happy until you are and that could take some time.
There is nothing wrong with being gay, society takes time to accept things but there is nothing wrong with it, just as there is nothing wrong with being straight. Please stop torturing yourself.
Put sex on the back burner, spend time with boys and girls and getting to know people and making friends. That's what you need to be concerned about right now not sex. There is lots of time for sex.
ok all good, thanks so much
theres this other thing that happened today
its basically one thing after another with me right?
well anyway, some lad who left school last yr, didnt expect this but.
he's came out bi but only to me and now wants to meet me?
he's nearly 17 and im 15... i know it's wrong and i probs wont do it
but i kinda have feelings for his looks not of who i know him as
ive took your advice and im not going to do anything with him
but kissing isnt wrong is it?
x
theres this other thing that happened today
its basically one thing after another with me right?
well anyway, some lad who left school last yr, didnt expect this but.
he's came out bi but only to me and now wants to meet me?
he's nearly 17 and im 15... i know it's wrong and i probs wont do it
but i kinda have feelings for his looks not of who i know him as
ive took your advice and im not going to do anything with him
but kissing isnt wrong is it?
x
There is nothing wrong with homosexuality,
You can still get married and have kids
my cousin Steven is marrying his bf next year,
they plan to have kids- with Steven's sister ( where she gives them her egg and carries the child)
You cannot change your sexuality as much as you want to gay people are normal as anybody else.
if thats your idea of a perfect life im sorry your wrong a perfect life is where you have love, with family, friends and a parnter.
if you havent told your parents dont worry, they may not expect it or they may be upsett but ur their only dan and they will always love you and accept it. Let me tell you if ur parents have a problem they can come to me (im a faghag-love the gays!!) i will straighten them out. but one thing is dont fool yourself. u cant stop your sexuality and if you hide it your not going to be happy. Think of yourself and what you truly like... it will do you good. =)
You can still get married and have kids
my cousin Steven is marrying his bf next year,
they plan to have kids- with Steven's sister ( where she gives them her egg and carries the child)
You cannot change your sexuality as much as you want to gay people are normal as anybody else.
if thats your idea of a perfect life im sorry your wrong a perfect life is where you have love, with family, friends and a parnter.
if you havent told your parents dont worry, they may not expect it or they may be upsett but ur their only dan and they will always love you and accept it. Let me tell you if ur parents have a problem they can come to me (im a faghag-love the gays!!) i will straighten them out. but one thing is dont fool yourself. u cant stop your sexuality and if you hide it your not going to be happy. Think of yourself and what you truly like... it will do you good. =)
Slow down Dan. I know how scarey the confusion can be. But take some time and figure things out you have lots of time to figure out who you are as a whole person not just sexually.
I really do suggest you find a counsellor to talk to - to help you sort through your feelings and confusion. Ultimately in life as you get older, you just have to do what makes you happy - it's your life and living unhappily is not a good thing. No one wants that.
Pleasing your parents is a natural want - but eventually it will become more about yourself than your parents as you get older. That want to please them never totally goes away but it becomes more of an aspect of who you are not a definition.
What you are dealing with is a lot at your age, it would be a lot for anyone no matter how old so just relax - don't go having sex with anyone who will that isn't the idea and like i said you will end up hurting someone and yourself.
Focus on other aspects of your life - not just this one - life is not just about sex and sexuality. That is only a small part of living. So please just take it one day at a time and one emotion at a time.
I really do suggest you find a counsellor to talk to - to help you sort through your feelings and confusion. Ultimately in life as you get older, you just have to do what makes you happy - it's your life and living unhappily is not a good thing. No one wants that.
Pleasing your parents is a natural want - but eventually it will become more about yourself than your parents as you get older. That want to please them never totally goes away but it becomes more of an aspect of who you are not a definition.
What you are dealing with is a lot at your age, it would be a lot for anyone no matter how old so just relax - don't go having sex with anyone who will that isn't the idea and like i said you will end up hurting someone and yourself.
Focus on other aspects of your life - not just this one - life is not just about sex and sexuality. That is only a small part of living. So please just take it one day at a time and one emotion at a time.
thanks for your advice
i just really dont want to be gay x
i want kids and marriage with a woman
i want to make my mum proud
i have very homophobic parents
if it turns out im gay im gona have to live a marriage with a woman
i cannot be gay
i just dont want to be, not just cos of my parents
but because i simply dont want to be
x
i just really dont want to be gay x
i want kids and marriage with a woman
i want to make my mum proud
i have very homophobic parents
if it turns out im gay im gona have to live a marriage with a woman
i cannot be gay
i just dont want to be, not just cos of my parents
but because i simply dont want to be
x
Dan, I read your other post, you are young and going through everything that happens during teen years.
Look, if you are just scared to discover who you are I suggest you take some time to reflect on yourself - in a non sexual way. Sex can wait, it will always be there. But no matter what even if you can become intimate with a girl are you going to be happy with that?
You need to figure out who you are, and dealing with questions about your sexuality at 15 is difficult - it would be really easy to just say "i'm gay" or "i'm straight" but from what I've read from your posts you just don't know yet. And hey, that's ok. Also being young, what arouses you now may not in a year or two.
Is there any way you can seek a counsellor at school? They are restricted to privacy and it may be a good place to start talking to someone about it rather than being confused by yourself. This isn't just about having sex with females or males - this is about you and your sexuality and at 15 you have time to figure that out - without having sex with anyone that comes your way. Take a step back and focus on school and yourself. Take a breath.
I'm not going to tell you that you're gay. And I'm not going to tell you that you're straight. Only you can truly know that and you will come to terms with whatever it ends up being in your way on your own time.
Do you, as you say "really need this" because you're scared of the possibility that you could be gay? or do you love this girl? It would not be fair to just have sex with a girl you don't love - to yourself or her. Only to prove you aren't gay. Take some time Dan, slow down.
Look, if you are just scared to discover who you are I suggest you take some time to reflect on yourself - in a non sexual way. Sex can wait, it will always be there. But no matter what even if you can become intimate with a girl are you going to be happy with that?
You need to figure out who you are, and dealing with questions about your sexuality at 15 is difficult - it would be really easy to just say "i'm gay" or "i'm straight" but from what I've read from your posts you just don't know yet. And hey, that's ok. Also being young, what arouses you now may not in a year or two.
Is there any way you can seek a counsellor at school? They are restricted to privacy and it may be a good place to start talking to someone about it rather than being confused by yourself. This isn't just about having sex with females or males - this is about you and your sexuality and at 15 you have time to figure that out - without having sex with anyone that comes your way. Take a step back and focus on school and yourself. Take a breath.
I'm not going to tell you that you're gay. And I'm not going to tell you that you're straight. Only you can truly know that and you will come to terms with whatever it ends up being in your way on your own time.
Do you, as you say "really need this" because you're scared of the possibility that you could be gay? or do you love this girl? It would not be fair to just have sex with a girl you don't love - to yourself or her. Only to prove you aren't gay. Take some time Dan, slow down.
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