This has been a concern for me for many years. I have told my mom that she needs to get my sister some type of help, but she thinks nothing is wrong w/ my younger sister. She's just now 16 years old. She was a very happy child. Running around very hyper active, not staying still (I even thought she had ADD). We grew up w/ domestic violence. Before she was born; it was my mom, her husband, and my 3 sisters. There was always domestic violence around us. My mom meet my 16 year old sister's dad & they were together for 10 years. Had 3 kids total w/ him. Things w/ him began to do down hill & he also became abusive. Things got so bad that when my mom was preggo w/ my last sister (6 now) he tried to hit her in the stomach. But my now, 16 year old sister got in between & she took the hit. Getting a pretty big black eye. At school they questioned it, but my mom played it off. It took another event after my little sister was born for my mom to realize that it was enough already. My mom managed to raise all of us almost 6 years later being single. I did noticed that w/ time my now 16 year old sister has several issues. She's a very smart child. Gifted since kinder. She lacks people skills. She's able to talk to people but you get annoyed of her right away because she starts to speed talk or just get into nonsense. Shes book smart but not street smart. She lacks the common sense things. She's always asking questions about the weirdest things as if the answer is always known.
She rather stay at home w/ all doors closed & locked. Doesnt like to go out. When she does go out, she tends to wear these "old lady" skirts or the weirdest clothes that you wouldnt picture a modern 16 yr old to wear. Never fixes her hair nice always has to wear her glasses (though they were just for reading). She always has her head stuck in a book. She rather do that than go out. You catch her at home pacing back and forth w/ her ipod on. She gets so into that, and she blocks everything out. She cant see a door open, even if she sees that you're outside because she'll close it. You tell her stop that someone is outside but she doesnt get it. She's always having to call me if I am not home to get approval of her getting a movie, using my laptop etc. If she gets upset for any minor thing, she calls me & complains about it. When I tell her what to do, she gets upset at me & says that she rather call her other sister better. I dont know what to do anymore. I cant have a conversation w/ her bc she gets all mad & no matter how much I explain to her a certain thing, it doesnt stick to her. She has a lot of self esteem issues. Recently my 3 younger sisters were reunited w/ their dad (they dont really remember much of all the violence) the 16 year old has been more different. As if she is trying hard to get her dad to love her or accept her more now bc he has another family. Is there anything that can be done for her? I know things will get more harder when she gets to adulthood.........