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no i got my gf pregnant
I got my girlfriend pregnant, I'm only 15. I can't handle a kid, I'm not joking I'm not mature I'm a stupid kid, I can't handle this!!! I don't know what to do, I want to tell her to get an abortion but will that make me sound like a ****? I mean she wants the kid but seriously, I wish i would of cut my balls off I've never felt like this i made the worst mistake of my life
Did is so late you post it on 2008 and I comment in 2013. Did you guys keep the baby.......I'm so curious if you did he/she might be 5 years old by now. Is it a boy or girl? If its personal at least tell me if you guys kept it.
I'm going to make this short. Don't panic about it, if she is slightly young theres a chance for miscarrige i'm not really sure, or there is a chance she will change her mind on the child. But don't freak its a good experiance for everyone, i mean i'm 14 never had sex but my two sisters have had many kids and are in their 20s, i'm scared of even the thought and i'm sure she will think about it and feel scared about it aswell and get an abortion. Don't think badly about it ok?
Hear this from your girlfriend's side.
Last March my boyfriend got me pregnant and I didn't know i was pregnant. I was late with my period but my period is always irregular i just didn't think about it much. He had pulled out to late and he had thought there was a chance of me being pregnant but i thought it couldn't happen to me... i mean i was 15 like yourself. plus i broke up with him the night after he pulled out late for different reasons (thats a whole other story) I was so emotional because we had broken up and i would go out on nights with a bunch of guys and weeks later when i was out with guys a guy had put extasy in my drink without me knowing. I was already drunk and don't remember much of that night. the guys i was with said i didn't do anything sexual with them. but I ended up having a miscarriage and it tore me up. i didn't even know i was pregnant and there was a ball of blood in the toilett and my friend had told me it was a baby. I still don't know if it was because the X or i ran into something or just my body but i regret going out that night SOOO much. and although i wasn't ready to have a kid i wasn't ready to lose one either. I always think how it would be if i actually would have had it. what it would have looked like. i know its scary thinking that when your 21 your baby will be 7 i was there i went ten months completely torn apartt it still gets to me. but dont give up on her just yet. i can't help but think if it woulda made it and i'd have to go everyday seeing half of my exe in this little kid and remember how bad he treated me and when it would ask where it's daddy was i would have to say your daddy doesn't wanna be with you but he loves you!!? it's hard. when i told my exe i had lost his kid he just got mad. save a life. don't put an abortion on your girls head right now. Be there for her. i know its scary and probably not a forever thing you beinng with her and all. but please. a miscarriage would be soo much worse! and when my parents founnd out i had sex they were heart broken but yelling or getting mad didn't change the fact that i had already had sex. they knew that and they reassured me that if i ever got pregant they were here for me and they love me! Yalls parents will help you out. let me knnow how you n your girl are!
much love
God bless
Last March my boyfriend got me pregnant and I didn't know i was pregnant. I was late with my period but my period is always irregular i just didn't think about it much. He had pulled out to late and he had thought there was a chance of me being pregnant but i thought it couldn't happen to me... i mean i was 15 like yourself. plus i broke up with him the night after he pulled out late for different reasons (thats a whole other story) I was so emotional because we had broken up and i would go out on nights with a bunch of guys and weeks later when i was out with guys a guy had put extasy in my drink without me knowing. I was already drunk and don't remember much of that night. the guys i was with said i didn't do anything sexual with them. but I ended up having a miscarriage and it tore me up. i didn't even know i was pregnant and there was a ball of blood in the toilett and my friend had told me it was a baby. I still don't know if it was because the X or i ran into something or just my body but i regret going out that night SOOO much. and although i wasn't ready to have a kid i wasn't ready to lose one either. I always think how it would be if i actually would have had it. what it would have looked like. i know its scary thinking that when your 21 your baby will be 7 i was there i went ten months completely torn apartt it still gets to me. but dont give up on her just yet. i can't help but think if it woulda made it and i'd have to go everyday seeing half of my exe in this little kid and remember how bad he treated me and when it would ask where it's daddy was i would have to say your daddy doesn't wanna be with you but he loves you!!? it's hard. when i told my exe i had lost his kid he just got mad. save a life. don't put an abortion on your girls head right now. Be there for her. i know its scary and probably not a forever thing you beinng with her and all. but please. a miscarriage would be soo much worse! and when my parents founnd out i had sex they were heart broken but yelling or getting mad didn't change the fact that i had already had sex. they knew that and they reassured me that if i ever got pregant they were here for me and they love me! Yalls parents will help you out. let me knnow how you n your girl are!
much love
God bless
Dont tell her that , you will scare her and you both are scared, More than anything you all need eachother right now !! I was very young when I had my first and i was so scared now I sit back and think wow I did it! well still doing it she is 10! You will do fine ! just please be there for eachother right now ! dont get so scared that you run it will only hurt you in the long run!!!
im with april on this one mate ! it takes 2 to make a baby and you have to step up and be the man you thought you were by not wearing a condom ! it will be hard but whats done is done and its too late to regret it now . good luck x x
you will notice i said most, not all, alot of girls never even realize they are pregnant before they lose the baby, and think they just had a bad period. i do know from personal experience that out of 10 of my friends who fell pregnant in their teens, all healthy girls not on drugs, alteast half of them miscarried their first. Until you pass the 12 week mark, anything is likely to happen, your just as likely to lose the baby as you are to keep it, that is why actually giving birth to a baby is such a miracle, because of how difficult it really can be for that little child to even make it to the world.
First of all I don't know where in the world the first poster came up with the idea that first pregnancies end in miscarriage because that's simply not true.
Secondly, you made a grown up decision to have sex, now you will have to face the consequences of that decision. I know having sex is great and fun, but surely you realized things can happen? I really wish you kids would think twice before having sex, but that's neither here nor there. The deed is done and now there's an innocent child at stake here. This child did not ask to be conceived. I think it would be terrribly selish to demand she get an abortion just because you don't want to deal with it. Unexpected things happen in life all the time. We just have to swallow our lumps and take it. It's a learning process.
Hopefully, she has the support of her parents because it sure doesn't sound like she has your support. However, whether you like it or not, you are indeed the father and she can go to court to make you at least pay child support if she wants. She has every right to do that.
We can always hope that like the previous poster said, once you see the child you may change your mind and fall in love with it. It's pretty easy to do. This child will be a part of you, after all.
If I were you, I'd do some serious thinking. Try and put yourself into that childs life. How do you think this child will feel when he's say 5 years old and wonders where his father is and why he doesn't care enough to be in his life? Do you really want to do that to him? Is that fair to him?
No, it's not easy being a teen parent and you guys both need the support of your parents. With their support, you can both still get your education and make something of yourselves. It might be a little harder, but it can be done. You don't have to give up your dreams just because there's a baby now. You will just have to do a little juggling and make a few sacrificies and changes. You may have to work at things a little harder.
I know it's going to take some time for the reality of this to sink in. It usually sinks in to the mother quicker because she can feel the child inside her. It can still seem somewhat unreal to the father until that child is born and they actually see it. Give this some time. Be there for your girlfriend. She needs you. This is scary for her too. It's not all her fault. You both played a role here and it's unfair to just run off and leave her holding the bag. I hope that you can be man enough to admit your role here and give her the support she needs from you. If you just cannot then perhaps it's best for you to move on. I hope that you will not do that though or someday you will regret that. Someday, when you're middle aged, you may have a young man or young lady knocking on your door wanting to meet you and wondering why you weren't in their lives. And you will realize too late on how much you missed and what you gave up. Just think seriously about all of this. I really hope you take this to heart. I know it's hard, but you guys will get through this.
I wish you all the best, but especially that precious innocent baby. I hope everything works out for the best.
Secondly, you made a grown up decision to have sex, now you will have to face the consequences of that decision. I know having sex is great and fun, but surely you realized things can happen? I really wish you kids would think twice before having sex, but that's neither here nor there. The deed is done and now there's an innocent child at stake here. This child did not ask to be conceived. I think it would be terrribly selish to demand she get an abortion just because you don't want to deal with it. Unexpected things happen in life all the time. We just have to swallow our lumps and take it. It's a learning process.
Hopefully, she has the support of her parents because it sure doesn't sound like she has your support. However, whether you like it or not, you are indeed the father and she can go to court to make you at least pay child support if she wants. She has every right to do that.
We can always hope that like the previous poster said, once you see the child you may change your mind and fall in love with it. It's pretty easy to do. This child will be a part of you, after all.
If I were you, I'd do some serious thinking. Try and put yourself into that childs life. How do you think this child will feel when he's say 5 years old and wonders where his father is and why he doesn't care enough to be in his life? Do you really want to do that to him? Is that fair to him?
No, it's not easy being a teen parent and you guys both need the support of your parents. With their support, you can both still get your education and make something of yourselves. It might be a little harder, but it can be done. You don't have to give up your dreams just because there's a baby now. You will just have to do a little juggling and make a few sacrificies and changes. You may have to work at things a little harder.
I know it's going to take some time for the reality of this to sink in. It usually sinks in to the mother quicker because she can feel the child inside her. It can still seem somewhat unreal to the father until that child is born and they actually see it. Give this some time. Be there for your girlfriend. She needs you. This is scary for her too. It's not all her fault. You both played a role here and it's unfair to just run off and leave her holding the bag. I hope that you can be man enough to admit your role here and give her the support she needs from you. If you just cannot then perhaps it's best for you to move on. I hope that you will not do that though or someday you will regret that. Someday, when you're middle aged, you may have a young man or young lady knocking on your door wanting to meet you and wondering why you weren't in their lives. And you will realize too late on how much you missed and what you gave up. Just think seriously about all of this. I really hope you take this to heart. I know it's hard, but you guys will get through this.
I wish you all the best, but especially that precious innocent baby. I hope everything works out for the best.
Don't tell her to get an abortion, but do tell her that your afraid of this situation, and that your not ready to be a parent. remember this is her decision now, its her body. also remember you are both responsible, but if you feel you cant handle this, tell her. it might mean you break up, but if she keeps the baby, you will have to be a part of its life, even if you never see it, you will still be its father. you can choose how active you want to be as a parent. you might find that after it is born it is the most wonderful thing in the world to you. don't judge this baby yet. also because you are so young, im sure both of your families would be able to assist you in raising this child. it will be difficult, but if your old enough to have sex, your old enough to deal with the results.
also, keep in mind that this is her first pregnancy, and most of the time first pregnancies result in a miscarriage.
dont freak out just yet, and keep an open mind. if you love her, you need to love all of her. this baby is a part of both of you.
I was in the same boat, and i chose to abort the pregnancy, and i do regret it. i look back and think how old it would be now, what it would have looked like, and think, i had a life and a childhood, and my baby, my first baby, i chose to end its life before it begun. its a hard guilt to live with and you will remember it for the rest of your life.
also, keep in mind that this is her first pregnancy, and most of the time first pregnancies result in a miscarriage.
dont freak out just yet, and keep an open mind. if you love her, you need to love all of her. this baby is a part of both of you.
I was in the same boat, and i chose to abort the pregnancy, and i do regret it. i look back and think how old it would be now, what it would have looked like, and think, i had a life and a childhood, and my baby, my first baby, i chose to end its life before it begun. its a hard guilt to live with and you will remember it for the rest of your life.
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