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Any other teen moms feel disrespected by the hospital staff?!
So I just turned 17 in April. I'm 36 weeks along, when I was still 16 I had a "scare" and thought my water broke. When I went up to the labor and delivery floor the nurses were down right rude and putting me down as a mother to be and also putting my mom down pretty much indicating that she's a ****** mother for letting this happen and saying I'm to young and shouldn't have the baby and just gave complete attitude and I felt so disrespected. I understand being a teen mom isn't the best choice but I am going to give my daughter everything she needs and it made me want to scream! Aren't they supposed to make you feel safe and welcomed? No they were so rude. Has this happened to any other teen moms? How did you handle it and should I talk to a head person??
Sorry about that Specialmom! I did mean you. I do think the world of both you and Nursegirl.
I agree with Nursegirl. I would also like to add that many nurses are over worked and they see many young girls coming in for their 2nd, 3rd or 4th birth before they are even out of their teens. It can frustrating for the nurses because I'm sure they worry about the young mothers and the babies.
Still, everyone deserves to be treated well no matter what your age. I was a young teen mom myself and I was married. The nurses were all very nice to me. But, that was years ago. I guess things have changed since then. I'm sorry for any of you that had to go through being treated badly.
Still, everyone deserves to be treated well no matter what your age. I was a young teen mom myself and I was married. The nurses were all very nice to me. But, that was years ago. I guess things have changed since then. I'm sorry for any of you that had to go through being treated badly.
I think that is part of being a teen mom. No one should make you feel horrible about it and it is what it is but the reality is that it will be very hard for you and any adult knows this. When one is a teenager, they are rarely financially independent or living as an adult, so basically, their parents now have another child to raise. No one should make you feel bad but no one should sugar coat that for you either.
It really isn't judging to say a 13, 14, 15, 16 or 17 year old is too young to be a mother. That is really just a fact. I'm sure you all will do the very best you can and things will turn out fine.
Labor and delivery nurses see lots of moms and aren't always too lovey dovey. They aren't the ones you see on the floor when you deliver. Instead, they just decide it if is time to send you up for that. And they see false alarm after false alarm. I was in my 30's when I had my kids and I was treated the same way with my first son on my visit to labor and delivery (the emergency triage you go to before actually going to the delivery rooms). They scoffed at me for being there and treated me like I was dumb.
So, try not to be so sensitive and understand, you will get a lot of people in life that worry about your choice to have a baby so young. Not out of judging but out of true concern because it is so hard. I found it hard when I had a career, a husband, we owned our own home, we planned it and were trying to conceive, and I was in my 30's. Having and raising kids is really hard work. In the best of circumstances or the more difficult times before someone is a financially independent adult.
good luck and hope it all goes well! peace
It really isn't judging to say a 13, 14, 15, 16 or 17 year old is too young to be a mother. That is really just a fact. I'm sure you all will do the very best you can and things will turn out fine.
Labor and delivery nurses see lots of moms and aren't always too lovey dovey. They aren't the ones you see on the floor when you deliver. Instead, they just decide it if is time to send you up for that. And they see false alarm after false alarm. I was in my 30's when I had my kids and I was treated the same way with my first son on my visit to labor and delivery (the emergency triage you go to before actually going to the delivery rooms). They scoffed at me for being there and treated me like I was dumb.
So, try not to be so sensitive and understand, you will get a lot of people in life that worry about your choice to have a baby so young. Not out of judging but out of true concern because it is so hard. I found it hard when I had a career, a husband, we owned our own home, we planned it and were trying to conceive, and I was in my 30's. Having and raising kids is really hard work. In the best of circumstances or the more difficult times before someone is a financially independent adult.
good luck and hope it all goes well! peace
Yes i know it im 15and now pregnant with my second boy And when i got my first Boy I was 13 so they all judged me and said im Too young to be a mother and sth like that but its your baby and your decison they just judge you because they dont know how to handle with you i think
Yes, you should. They will speak to them because it's hospital policy bro treat patients well,, when I delivered they called me and asked about my hospital visit and how they treated me.. they ask for names sometimes.. so you should call and let them know how awful there service was
I don't know what to do I want to inform an upper authority on how rude and mean the staff is being but will that help any? I mean will they do something about it because in my opinion that is not something they should be doing.
Exactly.... ive had such horrible experiences with where i was going that im changing clinics and hospitals completly... they have not given me any good news and ignore me at times but still expect me to come back to them... im over it. Im 15 and im 33 weeks and 5 days
i am sorry you had to go through this. it is wrong for anyone to judge you on your age! i would have taked to the higher ups immediately. and they shouldn't be talking to you or your mom like that.
I hadn't enrolled in that hospital** I meant.. I am 20 and I still look like a 15 year old ... lol
Omg my first pregnanxy I was 18 going on 19 and when I started experiencing contractions which I didn't know but my husband took me to the nearest hospital which was the one I had enrolled in..anyways he took me because my belly was getting hard like a rock every 5 minutes but they didn't hurt ...we went and they just laughed at me behind my back, they were so rude and didn't take me serious... they were shocked when I was right., I was having contractions and dilating and,they wouldn't let me go.. my nightmare.. because my doctor couldn't go to that hospital,, they let me go next morning and I immediately went to my doctor., ugh they were so rude.. they make you feel dumb.. I hate nurses like them,
Yes!! I was treated awful when I was 18 (I looked 14/15) having my first daughter ..
:( I kno how awful it is :( **hugs xzz
:( I kno how awful it is :( **hugs xzz
First of all its ot even their job title to be worried about how old you are or any of that ! I would have immediately went to upper authority because they have right to talk to you or your mom about that!
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