Could i be pregnant?

[Kyla990]

Hi im 16 and me and my boyrfriend have been having continouse unprotected sex for the last 3 weeks and we have not been using the pull out metheod but last night we had sex and after he ejeculated i felt the area of my overious kinda felt like they *flutterd*, and when we cleaned up he had some blood on him but i didnt on my vagina. i have also been having terrible acid reflex and my breasts are sore and im very tired and also i cry over every little thing i have been getting headaches which i never get and also acne and i have never had acne in my life. I can never stay one tempature neither im either wayy to hot or frezzing cold. And today i had a little bit of spotting in the morning and nothing for the rest of the day. Could that have been implantation in my uturious last night?

[Kimberleigh2208]

You may think you're mature but you need more education.  There is a grammatical or spelling error in every sentence you wrote.  Go to a community college and take the time to get a few classes under your belt.  I can't believe your family is supportive of you getting married and having children so soon.  Don't you know anyone who hasn't done that?  If so, hang around with them for a little while and see what you are giving up by "not preventing" a pregnancy.  If I would have become pregnant at 16 I wouldn't have gone to college, made more friends, joined several volunteer organizations, participated in extracurricular activities that showed me how to be even more responsible and how to learn to work well with others, or understood that waiting for some things is worth it  -- like a house or a child or a husband.  You may have a good job at a family-owned business now but what would happen if they went out of business and now you don't have an educational background to get a new career going?  What if your line of work is phased out in the business you are in now?  What if you get pregnant and there are problems because you are so young?  Just like it's more dangerous to be pregnant when you're older, it's more dangerous to be pregnant when you are too young too.  

You sound like you have your immature mind made up though and you will probably listen to none of this (or anyone else's advice) so I am probably just wasting my time.  However, I hope you prove me wrong and do something to further solidify your future before you get pregnant so young and wish you had waited when you see all your other friends going out and doing things with a diaper bag and baby in tow....  Good luck!

[DellaKemp]

I just want to say that college is not for everyone. I absolutely hate school and the only reason why I am getting the dag dern piece of paper is because I promised my late mother I would. But college is not for everyone. So pushing the higher education issue is kinda blah. I would not want to waste money to get a taste of a life I really want nothing to do with. Some of us aren't like that. We are just wired differently. I have a friend that just graduated with her masters. We are the same age, graduated HS the same time andI am still working on my AS degree. 6 yrs and counting. She loved shool and it was right for her, but not everybody has the same view on school. Quite frankly, a peice of paper is not going to tell a job if you can do the work or not. It shows that you went to school. You could have a doctorate and still not be able to do a job. It's a piece of paper. It's a societal flaw tat we have to go and get this paper to get a good job. What ever happened to proving yourself a hard worker and competent in the job you are in? Just saying

Now with that being said. I don not agree that having a baby at so young and geting married is the best idea, but if that's what her paretns and her think then, i feel they are flawed, but aren't we all in some way.

[MrsPincince]

Well I'm all done with this post. U have your mind made up and no matter what we tell you or advise you, you know what you want to do. so Good luck!

[sweetpea03]

I'm glad you love your job and all, but I would still highly recommend college or another type of continued education. What happens if you get laid off or lose this job for what ever reason? What would you do then? You wouldn't have the back up security of having a degree and in this economy it's something you really should have. Having a baby is not easy at a young age. I've watched both of my older female cousins get pregnant before the age of 18 and I promised myself to never do as they did. It's not easy being a young mother and even though you know others who did well when being a young mother, doesn't mean you will have it easy. What happens if your baby is special needs? You may think that will never happen to you, but it does happen and you need to be prepared for any possibility.

You said yourself that you look back on yourself 2 years ago and see that you were pretty immature and I'll tell you that in 2 years from now, you'll look back again and think the exact same thing. I thought I was really mature a few years ago, but looking back I still had more to learn. I can also say that I have more to learn right now and am going through college to earn my bachelor's degree while working as well. I don't know if you understood me the first time, so I'll say this again. No one regrets having their child, but they do regret having their child at a young age. You have a lot more to experience and grow as an individual. You are 16 years old and are still a minor. How old is your boyfriend? There is absolutely no rush to try to grow up fast. Enjoy life as a teenager. Go hang out with friends, take a vacation with your boyfriend, get married, experience more of life before changing your life in a major way with a baby.

Everyone thinks that they are "different" or the exception to the case, but you really are not. Just because you think you are ready, doesn't mean you should go get pregnant. I'm 21, in college and engaged to be married. I work, don't party or drink, I am on my own, and have dealt with a lot in my lifetime. I also love children, but I don't want to rush into having a family because I know that I want to get my degree first and make sure my life is settled before bringing a child into the world(married, college degree, into a career, etc). I know that there is still more for me to experience and learn and I am 5 years older than you. College is a whole other experience that you know nothing about and that will open your eyes even more. Take some time to just be a teenager and enjoy life before you move forward. Go to college or another form of schooling. You don't need to rush anything and be tied to a child for the next 18 years. How long have you been with your boyfriend? If it hasn't been long, I definitely recommend waiting even longer. Also, you will change and grow more in the next few years, so don't push yourself to take the next step. I do hope you think about it all and not just brush off the advice you've been given.    

[Kyla990]

I live in canada to begin with and yes my parents are very excited about us getting married and scince i live in canada i started working when i was 14 and moved up in the line and i have graduated last semester actully. and me and my boyrfirend/fiance bring close to abut $6570.00 each in a month. He works at the same company as me and yes it is family owned but we have earned our ways up. We are very advanced and im really happy with my job so no i would not like to go to college as to my job is what i love already and i didnt have to waste money on going to school when i dont need to. I have watched my family ALL be young mothers as the start as 15 and they have done just fine and NO having a baby doesnt limit u u can still go to hockey games football games u can still go to dance u can still go to work u can still go shopping go to the movies. A baby doesnt stop u only u will stop urself and im not afraid or embaressed about going to a restraunt and having my baby start to cry its life its human nature mabie we start off young but that doesnt mean we wont make a great life. Im  very into the brand names no no name food or colothing for me and i am 100 percent sure my child wont have that in their life as being a teen mom. My mom was 16 when she had me and her and my father have stayd together and they love eachtother and they never regreted having me young and same wth my aunts and grandparents and sisters and brothers. No one in my family has had their first child after 18 and none of them regret being so young and yes i know its hard iv seen and watched and helped but u cant tell me when ur 30 or 27 or 25 or 20 that its going to be amazingly easy after 2 years i look back to when i was 14 and i was very immature but i still look the same i still have the same feelings i just have a job now and live on my own and iv opend my eyes up to reality and im ready to make the next step in my life. i am thankful for your time and advice but i am thinking we have alott difrfrent life style and priorities and views on life.

[MrsPincince]

First I 100% agree with Clysta and sweetpea03. These are 2 highly intelligent women who are taking the time to answer your questions and provide you with EXCELLENT advice and they know what they are talking about!!. I hope you sit and re-evaluate. No one is telling you NOT to have sex because obviously you like doing it and your going to continue. We are just feeling for you because you are ONLY 16. I'm 29. I wasn't that kid that her parents paid her way through college. I worked hard and put myself through school. I finished college, and worked at a bank for 5 years and got married before I decided to have children at the age of 24. (All of this while my husband and I were dating and living together. I moved in with him at 17) He respected the fact that I wanted something more for myself in life and he was very supportive. My husband works very hard and I'm fortunate enough that he does make decent money and now I'm able to stay home and raise my child. ( I only recently left my position at the bank when we bought our house and he got his promotion) I can't imagine what kind of career you have at 16 when you haven't graduated high school yet. Kudos to you for being mature and having a job. I don't know what you get paid an hour but I can't imagine that it is more than minimum wage because of your age and because you are still in high school. That won't cut it when you have a child. Having children is NOT an easy task and if you can prevent yourselves from unnecessary stress why not??..Just think about the paragard like Clysta said. It's worth a trip to your DR to get the information you need to make the right decision for yourself.. Good luck!

[sweetpea03]

Are you parents ok with you getting married and all of this? Since you are not yet 18, I do believe in most all states you would need their consent in order to marry since you are a minor. Also, you can't have a career at 16 because you are not even done with high school. Do you plan on going to college/university? I would highly recommend doing some type of continued education after high school by either going to college/university or a trade school of some sort. The college experience is great and can really open your mind to a whole other world that you don't know about yet. What do you want to do for a living/career? What interests you? It's good to really start thinking of these things now and planning for your future. You have a lot ahead of you to experience and learn. I'm not a big "party person" either and have loved the college experience of getting into my major, meeting new people, talking with professors, volunteering, and so on. It's not something that is easy to do when you are a young mother. I watch many mothers drop out of school because it becomes too much to handle and I can guarantee you that they all regret that later on that they didn't get their education first when it would have been easier to do without a child(ren). Why not wait until you get married, spend some time with your husband, go on a vacation together, get through school, focus on your future, and then after all of that is completed and you have lived life some, then talk about starting a family. I don't know of any one who regrets waiting to have children, but I do know mothers who really wish they would have waited. Just things to think about. Good luck.    

[Clysta]

You also say you have a career and such, but you're 16. Please tell me what kind of job you have in this economy that would pay a teenager this well. I know people with doctorates that don't even have jobs, let alone someone your age.

[Clysta]

That is a RARE occurrence. As in 1 in 1000 chance rare. I was one who actually had it happen, and it hasn't effected my ability to conceive at all. In fact I got pregnant not even 4 months after it was removed. I miscarried, but that's due to my body and being unhealthy, NOT from having the IUD. (In fact I was the first patient they had ever had it happen to) You need to be using birth control. If you can't handle them, get the paragard. It's hormone free, lasts 10 years and doesn't require daily use. You're 16. You shouldn't be thinking about having children yet. Live your life (and you can't say you have, you're not even old enough to really live) and enjoy being your partner. You say you would love a child, but babies grow up and aren't small and cute forever. It's a lot of work, and a lot of young couples don't survive the stress of it.

[Kyla990]

Im not trying to get pregnant but im not preventing it at all.. i would love to have a child but whatever happens happens im going to be happy either way. I herd on one of the commercials that it can attach to the wall and sometimes go through so it worries me. Plus i couldnt do abstience as to i love the connection that me and boyfriend/ fiance have and it wouldnt be fair to take that away from him and i.

[MrsPincince]

Ok I'm confused, from your original answer to Clysta you said you were NOT trying to get pregnant, now your other answers seem to say otherwise. If you ARE trying to get pregnant, just keep doing what you are doing and it WILL happen, if you are NOT trying to get pregnant and you say you can't use ANY type of birth control then your only option is abstinence...FYI what side effects are you talking about when it comes to the Mirena? I was on the Mirena for 3yrs and I just recently got off of it to try to conceive.. I have not heard of any SERIOUS side effects..Please enlighten me!

[Kyla990]

Yes i do have alott of ambition in my life and having a family is one of them also getting married which is happening on october 6th 2011. and i already have my career and the rest of my goals in life i want my child to be with my when me and my husband when we go travelling and whatever else we want to do in life. i do not party i do not do drugs i am a family person. id rather be at home with my child playing peek a boo or making them giggle or hearing them have a temper tantrum than go to the clubs or go to the movie with friends.

[Kyla990]

I cant use birth control because i have had extreme reactions to them... i have tried the pill the shot the patch the vaginal ring the female condom the male condom latex and non latex i have spermacide foams and spermacides by themselves and the diaphragm and cervical cap and contraceptive sponge, and i have had allergic reactions to them all.  i refuse to try mirana as too there is too many side effects and i plan on having children in the very near future.

[Clysta]

Don't you have any ambition for your life? You're still 16--not even an adult yet. There are dozens of different options out there, and I'm sure one could work. What have you tried?

[MrsPincince]

Why can't you use birth control or condoms??Just a thought!

[Kyla990]

Thanks for ur advise but i cant use birth control or condoms... and also i am not trying to get pregnant just not preventing and plus my child will be well tooken after and cared for and have everything it needs and wants beyond what u could think of and no i would not be relying on my family and friends.

[Clysta]

I'm assuming you're trying to get yourself pregnant? Anyways, it's possible you might be pregnant, especially since you're not using protection. However, you wouldn't feel implantation and if it DID just happen last night, none of the stuff you're feeling is due to pregnancy. You can only get pregnancy symptoms after implantation occurs, and this is usually 7-14 days after ovulation. Take a pregnancy test with first morning urine. I would also advise you to get on birth control, and to start using condoms.