How and when do I tell my mom

[Tiffenirose]

I just turned 16 and i found out I'm pregnant I took 4 test all postitive and I'm taking another one on the 28th at planned parenthood I haven't told my family yet and it found out on the 16th that I was. I'm a good kid I love school I love my family and above all I love my mom. We are eachothers best friends. We are completely broke though and I already am in care of my mothers children because she has a disease. What should I do I don't want to ruin me and my moms relationship I know shell be mad at my boyfriend but I have no idea how she will react. Please someone help me!

[thebrat333]

Hi there

I am glad you told your Mum and are keeping the baby. :)

I wish you and your boyfriend a long and happy life together..with your little one ...and maybe some more in the future  :)

It is probably a big relief for you to get it off your chest as the last thing you need when carrying such precious cargo inside you is a load of stress.

It looks as though you are sorting it all out between you and I am sure it will be all fine in the end . You definately need your Mum to help you when you have a baby as nobody understands more than her what it's like.


God bless xx

[Tiffenirose]

I told my mom last night although she didn't like what I told her she said she's still going to support me and still be the loving mother she always has been. We did dicuss my boyfriend getting a job which is already in process. We have been together 7 months an have known eachother since we were little kids. Thank you for the advice both of you it meant alot and it helped and also we decided that I'm going to keep it my boyfriend and mom are prolife I'm prochoice so I wasn't comfortable with abortion. Even though my little brother and sister are adopted I don't want to wish I knew who that half of me is and where they're at and if they have a good family I'd rather raise it like I've raised my little brother and sister there whole life.

[IceRayven]

I would recommend sitting her down when she is feeling the best she can with her disease and explain that you are pregnant. It will be scary and one of the hardest things you will ever do. You need to figure out what options you are willing to do

1) abortion
2) adoption
3) keep the child

Then discuss with her which options you were thinking and make pro's and cons..the thing is to be honest with her. Yes she will be mad and probably disappointed but it would hurt her more if you lie to her and evade the truth

[thebrat333]

however she reacts happy , sad, angry whatever......she knows you love her and she depends on you.  

you may have subconciously done this to yourself in a desperate attempt to get away from all those responsabilities unfairly placed upon you at such a young age..

If you moved out for instance she may need to get help from social services so many hours a day to help her out . It shouldn't be your sole responability in the first place.


I take it your boyfriend knows about the pregnancy?   You need to speak to your mum in private about this can you get a friend or neighbour to babysit the other children while you and your boyfriend take your mum out for a drink to discuss it calmly..

You have to decide between you all what is the best thing .

To keep the baby
abort the baby
give the baby up for adoption

It is never an easy decision and I don't know how serious your boyfriend is about your relationship but you need to know .

Does he have a job??

Your mum will be pleased you told her and that you are asking her advice before it is too late for a decision to be made.

Good luck and let us know how it goes

god bless xx