I know it's his, but he keeps denying.

[courtnee17]

Hi!! So, I am 17 and I am engaged and almost 17 weeks pregnant. It's a little boy. :) Ok, I'm gonna try to make this as easily as possible. Lol. I was with my ex on May 14. Then we broke up. Then me and my fiance got together on May 20. Had sex the first time on May 21. Then everyday after that. A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant. Well, I am 17 weeks. But, he doesn't believe it's his because he's only got 1 girl pregnant his whole life and he thinks he's not fertile. But I did research, and I found out they say I'm 17 weeks, but they add 2 weeks for conception. So really I'm only 15 weeks. Then I used a Conception Calculator and it says I concieved anwhere from May 28 to June 7. AFTER WE GOT TOGETHER! But he still wants a DNA test?? I am almost 100% sure it's my fiance's!! Opinions?? Help?

[tatorbug40]

agreed-  my point was that they should marry for love,  not because she was pregnant.  I think that is a personal decision for every person-  I wasn't expecting her to tell him she should marry him either way-  just that if her being pregnant was the only reason she was getting married,  it has a high chance of failing, in my opinion of course.  

I think it would be his choice to raise a baby,  his or not-  she hasn't been unfaithful to him...   if he loves her he should marry her because of that, and only because of that-  and he needs to decide if he can love a child if its not his-  a lot of people could,  and a lot couldn't.  

anyway-  just wanted to clarify,  that wasn't really what I was suggesting...  my only concern is that they may not be marrying for the right reasons-  if he truly loves her,  he would be willing to at least consider making them a family....  either way....  and only consider....  thats how I would feel anyway.

[penswriter]

Plan b only works within 72 hours. It will NOT terminate a baby. It all depends when you ovulate. If you were ovulating yes you could be pregnant. If you weren't than no.

[LeeLee37]

Hello, im a 17 year old gurl and me and ma boyfriend just had sex this pass saturday.I jus got off my period earlier that day and we didnt use protection and he came in me. Bhut it was like i felt it come out then more came out... Now i feel like im pregnant because my stomach hurts really bad and i cnt move or lay a certain way without my stomach hurting,I called planned parenthood thats in my neighborhood and made a appointment for this coming tuesday my boyfriend wants to come with me... My dad doesnt kno if he finds out he will kill me bhut if i am pregnant i want to do plan B. Do you think plan B will work or is there a slight posibility that i mite still be pregnant after using it?

[bhenneker]

I had my son young and I thought I had it all figured out and that I wasn't going to tell the father because he is a d-i-c-k ( and he still is). But I grow-up and realized just b/c I hate him doesn't mean I can't let my son like him. So I told him around 7 months pregnant. And I feel I made the best decision for my son. I never said that you should tell the other guy now that you're pregnant, wait until the baby is born get a DNA test done with your fiance and if it comes out it not his then go talk to your ex. I sorryy but I wish my mom would of done that so at least I could of known my father.

[courtnee17]

well if you knew my ex you would know why i don't plan on telling him ****. he has 3 kids he doesnt even take care of already! once again, all girls. and im trying to "pin" this on my fiance, im not that type of person. we are just simply hoping and praying it is his, which i believe it is. there is no need to be a smart aleck, thank you.

[beanie485]

Me personally I would wait until after the baby is born for a DNA test because as you stated earlier they can be harmful to the baby and he would have to accept that.
My babies health and well being would come first even though it's not born yet but that is what I would do hope you get it all figured out

[bhenneker]

Okay I haven't read everything on this post... but if you had sex with both guys in the same month and you have no idea of when you ovulate that you need to do a DNA test.. As a grown-up you need to do the right thing and let the real father know and if you did have sex with both there is no way to know who your child's dad is. Since you are so young and good chance that means the guys are young I really don't think it would be fair to pin-point the child on your fiance just b/c you are hoping he is. Like I said twice now IF YOU HAD SEX WITH BOTH GUYS IN THE SAME MONTH THEN EITHER COULD BE THE FATHER. And also just because he had a girl and you are having a boy doesn't mean he is not the father. My husband has a son from a previous relationship and I have two daughters with him (my youngest just passed away at birth ) so does that mean since he all ready had a boy then my two girls are not his???

[courtnee17]

and just pointing out now, i havent told my ex bout me being pregnant cuz i dont want him to know. even if it is his. he is a ****** person. he has 2 duaghters, then he cheated on me while we were together and got another girl pregnant! so screw him. not to mention that the girl he knocked up had a GIRL. i'm pregnant with a BOY! any chance that would help anything?

[courtnee17]

first day of my last cycle was may 10, so 14 days later would be my fiance! cuz it would mean may 24. see, it's his. every single sign points to it. and my fiance isn't immature, he just is watching out for himself b/c he has been screwed like this before. his ex said she was prego, come to find out, wasn't his! so i understand where he is coming from. :)

[shuga1109]

How about we try checking on when you conceived?  When was the first day of your last menstrual period, and how often are your periods, are they normal?  Are they Every 28 days?  This will tell you about when you ovulated.  So, lets start there.  Yes, your pregnancy weeks begin from the first day of your last menstrual period, not the date of conception.  We older folks who are trying to conceive are very "intuned" with our bodies and track absolutely everything.  If you would like help on calculations, you most certainly can message me, if not, start out with the first day of your last period.  If your periods are every 28 days, then most likely you would have ovulated on day 14 of your cycle, which means 14 days after the first day of your last period.  Who did you have sex with on this date?  Also, you had sex within 6 days from both partners.  From what I read, they sound immature, but you can't knock either of them for denying paternity when you are really not positive yourself.  As for your fiance, if he made a baby once, he can make another.  Unless a doctor tells him he is infertile, then he can't assume.  There is only 24-48 hours in a whole entire month that a woman can get pregnant.  Thats approximately two days out of the whole month.  So, he might have just been plain o' lucky if he hasn't gotten anyone else pregnant.  Please feel free to message me.  Im not judging you.

[courtnee17]

and i havent been. i've been faithful throughout the wholeeee thing. and i know, i'm not marrying b/c of pregnancy. i'm against that. i think it's wrong to get married just for a baby. cuz then you aren't doing it for the right reasons! but we already talked, and we are jus gonna get one after the bby gets here if he still watns one.

[penswriter]

Tatorbug I actually find it selfish to expect a man to raise a child that isn't his. No matter how much he loves the mother.

Courtnee - If you haven't been unfaithful don't worry and it's smart not marrying b/c of pregnancy. ( I did get married while pregnant, but we'd been engaged for 2 years and already had the wedding planned, I just happened to get pregnant a few months prior) If you're uncomfortable accepting his proposal while pregnant tell him so. Let him know your concerns.

[courtnee17]

his opinion is changing day after day, it's a bit confusing. he says now that after the baby gets here and we get a dna test and the baby isn't his, he doesn't wanna loose me or the baby cuz he's been here since the beginning? even though i truely believe with all of my heart it is HIS!!! and no, i already told him that i wasn't going to marry just because of pregnancy. i think that is wrong.

i hope it's because he truely loves me!! i think he does. he's a great guy.

but yes, we have had this talk more than once. and he says it's not even b/c the baby. so i hope he's telling the truth!!

[courtnee17]

NOOO. he doesn't believe in abortions. and he only wants to find out now so that way we can decide what to do when the baby gets here. my only two choices for that are (if it's not his) 1. move back in with my mom and still see eachother but not live together so that way he doesn't feel he's "raising" the baby that isn't his, or 2. just not see eachother. i showed him all the crap when he got home yesterday and he is more convinced that it's his. so he's willing to wait until the baby gets here.

[AnnieBrooke]

You're right that "17 weeks pregnant" means 15 weeks from conception.  Possibly you could bring your doubting guy in and have the doctor explain this, with a calendar in hand.  Prior to you going in, showing him when you got together using a calendar, and writing down the date, would help, so when he gets to the doctor he can see with his own eyes what is happening.

My thought is that he wants you to get a DNA test now not because he wonders whether it is worth being nice to you during the pregnancy or not, but because if it is his he might be wanting to pressure you to get an abortion.

[courtnee17]

yes, but i didn't put that out there to be judged. and yes, i already know i need birth control after this baby. i already have this all planned out. and no, we got into the discussion last night. so i haven't contacted a dr or anything. that's why i am getting opinions.

[have 2 kids]

You are 17 and have already had 2 miscarriages?   You really need to consider using BC after you baby is born.     Have you asked your Dr if they will do a DNA test before the baby is born?  I don't think it is common procedure to do this.  

[bhenneker]

Please don't get all upset about him being a dink.... In my view he does have every right to question it but he doesn't have to be mean about it. If I were you (and when I was 16 I was in your shoes) I would not be getting a DNA test while you are pregnant like you said it can be very harmful to the child. I'm from Canada and here they will not proform one b/c it is completly useless b/c what could happen, the only way one is done is if the doctors feel something is wrong with the child and an amino is needed then with the fluids they gather them they will do a DNA test if asked for. If he is acting this way now I beat even if you prove him to be that father he is not going to stick around. My son's father requested an DNA test the whole time I was pregnant and I had no problem getting one once my son was born and then once he was born I never heard it again. About a month after he was born his father never came around for him until about a year ago (he is now 7) b/c he finally realized that he needed to grow up and take care of his son. Yes being a single mom can be very difficalt but you don't have a choose you chose to have sex and now you must be strong for that little boy you are going to have. It's not your life anymore it's all about his life now.

[courtnee17]

only problem is he wants one BEFORE the baby gets here. like immediatly. and DNA testing while pregnant is VERY harmful to the baby. it could harm the baby severely or even make me miscarry! and i've had 2 miscarriages before so i could have one very easily. he's not gonna stick with me thru the pregnancy unless i get a DNA test. and i'm not strong enough to do this on my own. so my only choice if it wasn't his, is to leave him and be a single mommy! it's gonna hurt, but i know it has to be done. even tho there is NO DOUBT in my mind it's his!!

[beanie485]

after the baby is born get the DNA test then when it proves you right SLAP him upside the head and say I told you so

[LaurenJane]

well if you ask me he's just being a ****.
Get the DNA and laugh in his face

[penswriter]

If he wants the paternity test than get the paternity test.