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I think I might be pregnant. I'm almost 4 days late on my period. No cramping, which is unusual for me. Bad gas. My nipples hurt a lot. I'm peeing a lot. I do have unprotected sex with my boyfriend of 3 years. Just need to know if I should get a pregnancy test. I'm also having that "just feel pregnant" feeling. Quite nervous. I've told my boyfriend I'm late, but he will be scared to take me to get a test. I'm just scared and want advice. Help!
Clysta is right. It would be a good idea to see what others who have been through teen pregnancy say. Of all that I know/talked to, plus have seen on here, they all say they wish they would have waited. There is no reason to rush into having children. There is no down side to waiting to have a baby and being more prepared. The teen years are ones to be enjoyed and not worry about a baby. You have years ahead of you to do that. It's easy to say from watching others go through it that it might not be that bad, but it's a whole other story when you actually go through it. I'm not saying your boyfriend will leave, but my cousin also had that amazing high school relationship with her boyfriend who would "never leave". When she got pregnant senior year, he left quickly. He had freaked out and didn't want anything to do with her. It happens. She's 30 now and happily married. I am just saying that nothing is for certain, so you need to be responsible and think everything through.
No one is helping me in my time of desperation..maybe someone on this thread can?
Okay..
So like others, I'm getting mixed results.
I was on my period. Mine are usually a week and some long & And 6 days after it ended, my bf and I were messing around. He came - but no where near me or on me, by handjob. Then we got into the shower so he could clean himself. He washed his penis with soap and made sure it was clean.. Then with out him knowing , I took his penis and put no more than an inch inside of me.(like half of half his full size , if not less) He took it out and was like "Noo, wash yourself" so I put soap inside of me and washed. A few minutes later He started jacking off and I felt precum on his penis. So then I started to worry...we got out and got dressed then went back to bed. What are the chances of me being pregnant? I've been scared sick. Like the stress had literally taken a toll on my body. Please, what are the chances?
Okay..
So like others, I'm getting mixed results.
I was on my period. Mine are usually a week and some long & And 6 days after it ended, my bf and I were messing around. He came - but no where near me or on me, by handjob. Then we got into the shower so he could clean himself. He washed his penis with soap and made sure it was clean.. Then with out him knowing , I took his penis and put no more than an inch inside of me.(like half of half his full size , if not less) He took it out and was like "Noo, wash yourself" so I put soap inside of me and washed. A few minutes later He started jacking off and I felt precum on his penis. So then I started to worry...we got out and got dressed then went back to bed. What are the chances of me being pregnant? I've been scared sick. Like the stress had literally taken a toll on my body. Please, what are the chances?
True, no one is mentally prepared for the child of raising a child. You seem like you depend and rely heavily on him. Why not wait and enjoy the time you two have. Trust me, it's gone once you have a baby. I get next to no time alone with my husband. In three months I've spent one night alone with him, and the only thing we did was sleep because we were exhausted. It's hard and it puts a lot of strain on a relationship. Read some of the posts some ladies put on the 18-34 board. Many men change once a female becomes pregnant. When it's not happening it seems fine, but then the reality and the knowledge of what they did and what will happen sinks in. Part of being responsible is to not put yourself in an unfavorable position. Pregnancy when you know you shouldn't have a child yet isn't responsible.
im not rushing into anything, if it happens, okay, if it doesnt thats okay too. do i think i should have a child right now? no, am i ready? no, i dont think anyone is fully ready to have a child. i do have a strong relationship with my boyfriend. stronger then ever. i dont rely on him comepletely. if we broke up, it most definately wouldnt be mutual thing. i would be devastated, but i would also get through it. i dont like being negative about things in life. then what would we have to enjoy? the little things to enjoy come less and less these days. im just happy im not alone. that would give me a lifetime of joy.
Everyone mentions highschool relationships that end when people go to college.. How about the reality that almost 50% of marriages end in divorce. Many Many Many people are together for years... and they end.. A friend of mine was probably in 3 - 5 + years relationships and all of them seem like "forever".
On that note, it sounds like you have a very strong relationship with your boyfriend. I am married to the the guy I dated in my seniors year of highschool when I was 17... We havve been together almost 7 years now. Not saying our relationship wont end (I am pretty optimistic about it but I mean my friends paretns split after beign happly married for 15 years, un happy for 2 more)....But you cannot dwell on the "what ifs" at this point.. But I have a degree now and a full time job so at least I know i can provide some support myself. I dont need to work, my husband makes double what I make but there are a variety of reasons to work besides financial necessity (even though you never know when you may need the extra money or your own income)
With that said, its good that you are looking into ways you support yourself. I work in a homeless shelter and we see too many 18-20 years come in pregnant because the relationship did not work out and they cant support themselves.. It is hard enough to find a job in everyday life, its even harder to get yourself started when you do not have a home. there is a lot of stigma when it comes to having your address as a homeless shelter, though there shouldnt be but people view it as representing some form of instability...
So just dont rush into things even if you feel ready, you will be more ready in 3 years
On that note, it sounds like you have a very strong relationship with your boyfriend. I am married to the the guy I dated in my seniors year of highschool when I was 17... We havve been together almost 7 years now. Not saying our relationship wont end (I am pretty optimistic about it but I mean my friends paretns split after beign happly married for 15 years, un happy for 2 more)....But you cannot dwell on the "what ifs" at this point.. But I have a degree now and a full time job so at least I know i can provide some support myself. I dont need to work, my husband makes double what I make but there are a variety of reasons to work besides financial necessity (even though you never know when you may need the extra money or your own income)
With that said, its good that you are looking into ways you support yourself. I work in a homeless shelter and we see too many 18-20 years come in pregnant because the relationship did not work out and they cant support themselves.. It is hard enough to find a job in everyday life, its even harder to get yourself started when you do not have a home. there is a lot of stigma when it comes to having your address as a homeless shelter, though there shouldnt be but people view it as representing some form of instability...
So just dont rush into things even if you feel ready, you will be more ready in 3 years
I wouldn't rely on the hope that just because you've been together for a few years he won't go. My husband grew up with his previous girlfriend. They had started to date since he had been 15 (she was 14) and were together for 7 years. Things happen. What happened to them is that he met me. People and their feelings change. Nothing is certain and children are hard to take care of. He thought he was ready for when our baby came, and then he saw how unprepared he really was. (I already knew what would be involved so it didn't shock me as much. I knew I wasn't ready)
You say that finding a job isn't easy to do. It's going to only get more difficult. What will you do when/if you became pregnant. No one wants to hire a pregnant female. Legally they can't say that's why they don't want you, but many states are not right to work states. (mine isn't) they don't have to give a reason why they don't want you. Then what happens when the child is born. Do you intend to stay home? Could you pay all your bills on a single paycheck? Or would you rely on help from family or the government. If you go to work, then you have to factor in babysitters and the cost of childcare. In my area, a typical daycare is 150-200 a week. Some are higher. You're also young and probably unqualified making work harder to find. Then you have to consider the state of the economy and prices of things. It's not easy to do, and going into it thinking you can handle it is a foolish mistake to make. You want to bring a child into the world knowing you will be stable and knowing it will get the best life possible. Sometimes love isn't enough. Love wont feed a baby or give it a roof over it's head. Think about everything very carefully and figure out what you can truely handle. Don't make the mistake of thinking a guy will always be there. Many have and end up alone on the streets. Plan and expect the unexpected.
You say that finding a job isn't easy to do. It's going to only get more difficult. What will you do when/if you became pregnant. No one wants to hire a pregnant female. Legally they can't say that's why they don't want you, but many states are not right to work states. (mine isn't) they don't have to give a reason why they don't want you. Then what happens when the child is born. Do you intend to stay home? Could you pay all your bills on a single paycheck? Or would you rely on help from family or the government. If you go to work, then you have to factor in babysitters and the cost of childcare. In my area, a typical daycare is 150-200 a week. Some are higher. You're also young and probably unqualified making work harder to find. Then you have to consider the state of the economy and prices of things. It's not easy to do, and going into it thinking you can handle it is a foolish mistake to make. You want to bring a child into the world knowing you will be stable and knowing it will get the best life possible. Sometimes love isn't enough. Love wont feed a baby or give it a roof over it's head. Think about everything very carefully and figure out what you can truely handle. Don't make the mistake of thinking a guy will always be there. Many have and end up alone on the streets. Plan and expect the unexpected.
You're 17 and people change over time. People grow up, learn, and mature. That is the reason why, statistically, many high school relationships do not last. I have rarely seen the high school relationships I know of make it through college. Most of my friends broke up when they got to college. It's possible to continue and keep a good relationship, but it's also kind of rare. Are you going to go back on birth control?
im working on finding a job, its not the easiest thing to do right now. i have straight a's in school so i can graduate on time. i stopped taking it because i feel that if i got pregnant, i could handle it. i want to go to college yes. what i want to do hasnt hit me yet. theres so much to choose from. hes not going to leave me, so im not worried about that. he tells me everyday that he loves me too much to leave. and i believe it. not becaise im a stupid little 17 year old girl, but because we've been together for so long now that i dont see him leaving.
Thanks, it's been a rough couple days for me. Part of being responsible includes doing things for yourself; having a job to support yourself, working hard in school for a better future, taking precautions/using protection when having sex, etc. Why did you stop taking the pill(or which every type of BC you were on)? I would think since you have seen what it's like from watching your sister, you would be VERY cautious not to do the same thing. I had 2 older female cousins get pregnant in high school and I swore to myself I would never do the same. Do you plan on going to college? What do you plan on doing for a living(job wise)? These are things to think about. You cannot solely rely on your boyfriend for everything. What happens if he leaves you? You need to make sure you can handle it and be independent.
oh my goodness. i am sorry. that breaks my heart. :/ and i know. its hard. my sister got pregnant at 17, but shes never been responsible in the first place. she lives at home with us now. and if i am pregnant, me and my boyfriend would get married and move out of our parents houses and take care of this baby like we are supposed to. i was on birth control up until a couple of months ago. ive got the test and im taking it in the morning. if im pregnant im going to tell my mom and she will help me take the next steps of finding an OBGYN and stuff like that. i am in high school. but im almost in my last semester of my senior year and i would be out of high school before the baby came. i know its not the best situation, but i would try my hardest to provide for it and love it as any mother would love a child. thank you for your concern.
I don't want to live with my boyfriend before we are married. I have never liked the idea of playing house. I found out I miscarried yesterday, so I was pregnant before. I had all of the very typical symptoms, though my dead give away was my new sense of smell. It's going away though, as I'm losing the hcg in my system. I hope you understand what a huge undertaking it is to have a baby, especially at a young age. You are still in high school and have a lot ahead of you. Why haven't you used some type of birth control? You are putting yourself in a very difficult situation and setting yourself up to struggle if you are in deed pregnant. Is there a store close by that you can ride a bike to or walk to? You need to test sooner rather than later, so that you give the baby the best possible chance. It's not as easy as tv shows make it seem to have a baby at a young age. Just ask any mother who had her baby in high school. I watched my cousin struggle immensely, raising her baby after she got pregnant at 17. It's possible to make it work, but it's also not the best situation.
yes since i was 14 :] he is the love of my life. and i wouldnt have any other way to get there to get it since i dont drive or have a car or anything. so he would have to. i read in your other post that they work. yeah, would yall be able to move in to a marriage suite or something at your college?
You've been with your boyfriend since you were 14? Anyways, why not buy the pregnancy test yourself. You don't need him to go buy it for you. They aren't very expensive and you can get them just about anywhere(dollar store, convenience store, etc). I think I might be pregnant myself and bought a test earlier today to use tomorrow morning or Sunday morning. I don't exactly want to be pregnant now, as I'm in college and on a scholarship. Plus my boyfriend and I don't have the money. It's very expensive to have a kid and he's still paying off his student loans and I'm paying for some of my college, plus my car. Let us know what happens after you take the test. Good luck.
i wouldnt mind having one right now. because my boyfriend makes enough money to support it and i could get a job, we just havent decided to move in together right now. did you have any of the symptoms i have.? i noticed my nipple started hurting a week before i missed my period. i was supposed to start on the 15th. so i guess that makes me 5 days late right now. geez. i guess i added wrong or something. just *****.
well i can deffinetly be support to you if you have any questions or anything. I have a 10 month old and I got pregnant when I was 18, so I can relate. And im soo scared to death right now I could be pregnant again, which is something I really cant afford in my life right now. Well like I said its just best to take a test and just get the answer, even if its not the answer you wanna see you still need to know so you can get to the doctor. Its scary yeah but if you are babies bring soo much joy and fun to your life. But that dont mean go out and purposely get pregnant. lol
its just scary because it would be my first baby. and i still live at home and stuff. and i just want to know. need support also.
The best thing to do is to go get a test done. You might not want to but its a huge relief when you see the results. If you are pregnant its best to find out sooner than later. I'm actually going to get myself a test tomorrow cause I'm about a week late...so I'm right there with ya!
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