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im 17 need help very sad

Hello I'm 17 I turn 18 in March . I live in California . My son turns 4 month on the 30th . I have been with my sons father since I was 15 . We live together at my parents . We plan on getting married in July . We both work full time jobs i get paid 10.25 an he gets paid 12 . My son goes to daycare on scholarship so its free . We have been approved to be on the waiting list for some apartments . They soonest they have openings is in May . So everything is going great rite now Thank God ... But we just found out I'm pregnant again . We do have bills rite now but not too many we do pay for our car and our phones . He took this very bad . He is very upset and says we cant afford it especially with this new apartment . I don't know what to do . I really think we will be fine . I have never believed in abortion but I'm so sad and i don't know what to do . He keeps changing his mind that will be fine but than he starts freaking out . I don't even know how far along i am yet . But I'm just so scared and confused . I don't know if its wrong of me to keep the baby because he doesn't want it but I don't care because in my eyes abortion is wrong . I know he wouldn't leave me but I wouldn't want him to be miserable or treat it different . I don't know I'm just having so many feelings rite now and I need some advise . He's not blaming it on me because obviously its both our faults but he says he just doesn't want to be struggling . I really need some words of encouragement rite now I don't need any bashing because even though I'm young I take care of my responsibilities and i put my priorities first . I work hard and take care of my son just like any other mother any other age .
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I'm sorry you're going through this but both you and your boyfriend had to know it was possible to get pregnant again if you were using no protection.
I understand that birth control can fail, condoms can break and birth control pills are not 100%. If you use both faithfully they are pretty much so 100% effective.
Both of you are doing a great job taking care of yourselves and your baby. Be very proud of yourself and your boyfriend for doing that.
Having two children at 18 is going to be so hard. I'm sure you already know this. It will become a reality once your second baby gets here.
You CAN do this though. Both of you are working and as long as you can continue to work through most of your pregnancy you should be fine as far as enough money. If you sign the new baby up for daycare scholarship that's another thing that won't be coming out of your pockets.
No one can tell you what you should or should not do. I do think the best thing is for you and your boyfriend to calmly sit down and go over everything. It's understandable that he's upset right now. The two of you had plans and now they're going to change. There will be a lot more responsibility with having two children. Like I said though, if you stay strong this can be done and things will work out how you want them to.  
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