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im am 11 weeks pregnant and really not sure i want to keep it at 17
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im am 11 weeks pregnant and really not sure i want to keep it at 17

I am 17 and im 11 weeks pegnant. I thought it would be best to keep the kid. But that was a fue weeks ago and i am really starting to think it would be best i get rid of it i dont know how to tell ny mum or bubs dad that im not sure about it any more because i have alot going on with my dad having cancer and they need me most and having the kid is really going to affect my life big time.. As great as it would to have my  own kid i dont think im ready to have one  at this age . Please help
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I say instead of the methid you are thinkin think adoption because there is people out there just hoping to have one of their own but cant. And you got a blessing not a mistake so in my opinion just take into consideration adoption instead of abortion
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I read once that one of the differences between a pregnant 15-year-old and a pregnant 18-year-old is that the 15-year-old is frequently totally unrealistic -- off in baby dreamland with no conception of any obstacles ahead -- while the 18-year-old knows clearly how difficult it will be.  You sound like you're a smart person, to at least understand the huge commitment taking care of another person is, and frankly anyone should be worried at 17 about not being ready.  You've got a whole lot of prep to do that begins with finishing your education and getting set in your career, not to mention addressing the issue of housing and child care, that is going to take a lot longer than the 29 weeks you have left.

Flower is not mistaken when she mentions the high level of desperation people have who are solid, stable, in long-term marriages, etc. and can't have a baby.  I too would counsel you to consider the adoption option.  I don't know what country you are in, but here, a girl can pretty much call the shots, open adoption or closed, who she wants as parents, etc.  There just aren't enough adoptable babies.

That all said, I respect your realistic awareness of the situation.  If I were you I would talk to a counselor about how to discuss this with your mother.
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If you feel it wouldn't be a good idea to keep it, get rid of it. Abortion is super hard but so is giving away your child. Think it through but don't wait to long. If you need help im here to talk. I recently hadan abortion and I feel it was for the best. If he loves you he will understand :)
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I forgot to mention an abortion can hurt you in the long run. You can remember taking a life away for a mistake that you and your boyfriend made you shouldnt take it out on the baby. Im sorry but i am totally against abortion. But like elfmummy said its your choice and your family has to acept it just be really sure of your desicion oky.
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Recommendation.... Just google it. You're a big girl, doing big girl things...well sweety those things also have big girl sized repercussions. So you should at least give that baby inside of you a fair chance. And i don't at all agree with elfymum.... its okay to take a babies life because adoption is hard? Break ups are hard too is it okay to kill your ex? Smh.
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I agree with Meg and Flower. I'm totally against having an abortion as well. I would try adotion. You're one of the blessed women to be able to have children while other women out there are trying every single thing they possibly can to have a baby, and can not. While you have been given that great blessing, and want to throw it away. Give that baby that has no fault in this what so ever, a chance in life. Having an abortion is a very difficult thing. You think you'll be able to get over it, and that it's the better decision, but it's not. It's still someone's life you're taking away. You'll never forget the day you took your own baby's life away. Your own flesh, and blood. If you were going to later have doubts about the baby, or if you weren't feeling sure about it.. Then you should have used some protection. A baby, a life, is something you can't take back because you don't want it anymore. It's your call though. I'm just saying give that baby a chance. Give it up for adoption instead. Even though you may not want it now, later if you change your mind, you'll be able to visit and keep in touch with it. Don't do something that you might later regret. Good luck.
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Well honey, maybe I can relate to you a little better. I am 18 years old & currently 24 weeks pregnant with our 2nd child. I got pregnant when I was 15, had my son at 16. At the time I first got pregnant, I was living with my parents & my dad had a drinking problem. He would get drunk, beat on my mom, throw things, & just act stupid..but with the support of my now husband we knew we wanted what was best for our child & honestly, my little boy has changed everyone's life. Im not for sure if your dad already has grandkids or not, but I think it would be a blessing for him to witness at least one of his grandkids being born. Also, with my baby now. We went through some hard things & abortion crossed our mind due to down syndrome, I made the appointment & the day before I researched & researched through actual procedure & I knew I couldn't live with that. You have to think at this point in time your baby has a heart beat. Just think of something sucking your baby out. :/ & its not something you can just forget. I have a friend that had a abortion & she seems to handle it well, but people are just different. Im here if you just want to talk. I understand your view.
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If you are against abortion shut the heck up. She doesn't care if your a little christian. And you wanna judge me??? HA! Your hillarious because you aren't any better than me. If you put on a condom you wouldn't b on this forum so quit acting like you are a saint
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Elfymum1996-Who are you talking too? Lol, I don't think your talking to me. Just curious.
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I'm 17 and 25 weeks pregnant and I was thinking of adoption because im against abortion but as soon as I saw the baby on a ultrasound I knew I wanted to keep it and it has been hard because I'm doing it alone but I'm doing it. And to the ignorant comment about "if you would have put a condom on you wouldn't be on this forum" I actually had protected sex and still got pregnant if you dont want the chance dont have sex and thats all
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Oh heck no. Lol im talking to the girl that judged me and said im wrong and its like murdering your ex. I think that is waaaaay out of line
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Excuse me, kid. I'm not judging you... I'm saying your opinion was ignorant and juvenile. The fact that you chose to have an abortion was your choice and i don't care about that. Your body, your baby, your decision. However, your statement 'Abortion is super hard but so is giving away your child.' Was completely selfish and stupid. And sweet heart I'm at a point in my life where its okay to have sex and i can take care of a child so calm your **** for a second and grow up.
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Its your life, you have the right to make that decision as a woman.  Don't listen to judgmental people. Kids are a blessing but its not right for everyone.
Just don't kill your boyfriend ;) some people are naive and think childish
This is a real topic. And no one can make the decision for you. Take care
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This was a post on a teen pregnancy forum and just because you are a teen your self, you have no right to post the 2nd one when she didn't reply back to you, *kid*.. You need to be mature and grow up or keep your simple minded opinions to your self
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Sarah, is your comment towards me??
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No. Towards Meg ftm still in her la la land
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Exactly
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