its complicated what should i do :(

Question

I found out i was pregnant in the month of januaray, i am thinking about getting abortion but i am worried about what it does to the body. will i be ok after wards? will get some kind of depression? will it affect my next pregnancy when i want the child?

April2 · Answer

If you are already 3 to 4 months then getting an abortion would be much worse this far along. It's never a pretty thing to begin with but when the baby is this big they have to dismember it's body (that means tearing it apart limb by limb) in order to get it out of you. Sorry it's so graphic but it really is that graphic. I don't care how they may try to make it sound like it's not a big deal. It is. And it can affect you for the rest of your life. Please think long and hard on this one. You may think this is the best or only way but you will never be able to just forget about this. Please consider adoption if you feel you can't keep this baby. There's so many families who desperately want a baby but can't have one. 

Have you told your parents or the father of the child? This is too big for you to try to deal with on your own. I think you need more support than just people on a medical website. Please talk with your parents before making such a huge decision like this that will affect you the rest of your life. Let them be there for you.

turkee23 · Answer

if you are going to get an abortion then you need to do it now b4 it gets to late

penswriter · Answer

i remember my 4 month u/s with my twins. it was so funny watching them play, suck their tumbs and "fight". they're now 20 months old and the light of mine and their fathers eyes. couldn't imagine life without them.

ShayShay192 · Answer

Since you are about 4 months pregnant, the more far along you are the more dangerous it is. Like what penswriter said nobody can answer the questions for you but studies have shown that getting an abortion can cause all of those things. I have a good friend who got an abortion and she wished she had never done it. She stuggles with guilt and depression now. Everyone is different but before considering abortion I would suggest getting an ultrasound done. We dont relize how well formed the baby is by this time. If you look at my pictures I have a picture of my son at about 4 months and he has eyes and a smile and little hands that were waving at me. And like what penswriter said theres always adoption! Good luck and God bless you!

SexyDiva19 · Answer

What are the reasons you are considering abortion? How far along are u? Have u been to a doctor? How old are u?

penswriter · Answer

nobody can answer any of those. there is no guarantee you'll be fine. there is no guarantee you won't be depressed and there is no guarantee it won't leave you sterile. 

talk to a doctor. think about other options such as adoption if you don't want to worry about being left sterile.