want to get pregnant

[tshyra_loves_stefan]

so im 17 and me and my bf are thinking about having a baby he said he talked to my dad about it and my dad said that it was ok but we are still thinking about it we thought about wating till   we are atleast 18 to have 1 we really want to be parents really bad and i want to be a mom more than anything...ps i still havent talked to my mom about it....wat shuld i do

[Sep2013baby]

Personally i know how hard it is already wait until u guys are married and graduate college for a baby  its really hard dont try for a baby right now wait it will be better in the long run coming from a teenage mom :)

[breee08]

I Got pregnant and married at 19. I went all out with the partying from 17-19 let me tell you...and that's how I got pregnant. It sure as hell wasn't with the 3yr relationship I had in high school. Thank God. But I don't think you truly realize how young 17 is. I had my daughter a few months before I turned 20. And that is still really young! I'll be 23 this year, and I'm still really young!! I'm serious. Don't rush trying to grow up. Their is alot to learn about life after you get out of school. Either way its your life, but I would really think about what your doing first

[Chelle1991]

Not to be rude, and I promise I'm not meaning this badly so please don't take offense, but I'm pretty sure my dad wouldn't be okay if I wanted to try to get pregnant at age 17... So that bit of information kind of surprises me. But each set of parents are different I guess.

And I agree with everyone else. I'm 21 years old and I wish I could have waited a little longer before I got pregnant, although I already love this little one to death and he/she isn't here yet. I wish that I could have gotten to spend a year with my fiancé and one year married before we tried to conceive, but life had other plans. If life decides this is the time when you'll be a mom, then so be it. But I would say try to enjoy life a little while you still can. You have plenty of life and years ahead of you to become a mom :) and once again, please don't take offense to anything we're all suggesting, most of these comments are coming from experience as teen moms your age.

[gatorgrl12]

Theirs no rush hun your so young and have plenty of time :)

[afd126]

I got pregnant at 17 ......I say WAIT......its hard very hard emotionally especially ....your life as a teen is over all your friends are going out till 2am and your up at 2 am feeding your crying baby I never got to go away to colledge like I wanted to a lot of plans had to be changed .....I will say I love my son to death ....I just wish I was a little older and had a college education before having him

[Aurorasmommy2be]

You are way too young to be planning to get pregnant. Are you kidding? do you have a set career? have you even graduated from high school? Do you live together on your own? do you have a car? Do you think you and your bf could do it on your own without the help of your parents? That means not going out every weekend and leaving your baby with your parents. That means when your friends are like "hey girl! Lets go to the club/party!" You can go hey dad watch the baby so i can go out. You really need to think. You may want to be a mom. But can you handle the responsibility?

[KTowne]

I think all the advice the ladies gave you is very very true, and also make sure just because you and your boyfriend are doing good right now, doesn't mean you will be a year from now, that's financially, emotionally, etc. You may be doing great right now financially, doesn't mean you will a year from now (having an education, preferably college, and a good resume is best to make sure you can get a job, or two, if necessary, babies aren't cheap), and just because you and your boyfriend are getting along, doing well right now, doesn't mean you will be a year from now, you know? I had my son when I was 17 it was hard for me, and I was extremely mature for my age. I just had a baby girl, with the same man (now my husband), and we are doing great. It's possible but it takes two very mature, very determined people to make it work.

[tshyra_loves_stefan]

thank you paigemaree :)  i will take wat you said into consideration and i will message you

[paigemaree]

Honestly . Do whats best for you right now and whats best for a baby . Be ready for a very big responsibilty that doesnt go away . Dont think it will be easy . Best of luck . Think if your financially ready and your relationship is ready for that . Feel free to message me privately if you ever need to talk

[tshyra_loves_stefan]

thanks everyone for your advice im gona have a talk with my bf about everything :)

[Lanny_Licorice]

Babies are very expensive and I haven't had my kid yet. I'm 19 and thought about havin' a kid when I was around your age, but I didn't think It would've been this difficult. My boyfriend and I moved In together few months after I turned 18 thinkin' we'd be able to do everythin' ourselves. You have rent, utilities, Insurance bills, phone bills, groceries, and wanting to buy things for yourself like clothes, makeup, etc. Before gettin' pregnant, we were barely cuttin' It with having very little money left over for ourselves and that's when I/we decided to wait for a baby until things got better and we both had better jobs, but things happened and we weren't bein' very careful... And now with a kid on the way, It makes all that little money we have for ourselves goin' towards our lil' one. It has been very stressful, but we've been able to make It, barely.
The point I'm tryin' to get across Is, If you and your boyfriend are livin' on your own, have good well payin' jobs that can support you both and a kid, not In school, and payin' for yourselves without struggling, and stepping up from bein' young and wanting to go out and havin' fun all the time, to stayin' home takin' care of your baby on your "free time" and havin' to work to pay for bills, your baby needs, etc. then maybe consider It, but It's not all fun and games, they're hard work. I personally think you both should wait until your older, been with each other for a few years, go to college, get a degree, get married, have a very nice job with a very nice house and havin' lots of money and not havin' to worry about whether or not your gonna have enough for things... but It's your life and your decision and you do what you think Is best.

[baleighsmom7]

I'm 18 pregnant with my second my advice to you is wait till y'all are done with college and have steady jobs and have life figured out! You are to young to want a child its hard physically emotionally and financially believe me!

[emilyalyssa]

I'm 21 and the guy I was seeing was talking about a family too. We tried and tried and then it happened. I was happy, but he decided to say I cheated because we had tried for a year and nothing. I didn't cheat and sometimes it takes a while. I'm 21 weeks now, single and livin at home with no job. It's tough. And he may be a great guy, but at that age it's questionable. It's up to y'all though. If you're ready there's no stopping you.

[shelbyxox]

I'm 17 and 37 weeks pregnant. My advice to you is hold off as long as you can because its the toughest thing you'll ever do in your life. Babies are time consuming, and very expensive. Idk if you're in high school still, but if you plan on going to college that might not happen with a baby. My two year degree is going to take me close to four years to finish. Holding a job down on top of that is impossible. My job cut my hours bc they can't legally fire me. Also, you can't guarantee that you and your boyfriend will be together forever, which makes things even harder. I am very lucky to have the support I have and have been graduated well before I fell pregnant. We don't regret our daughter, but we could have been more responsible.

[NicoleW09]

Parenting is hard. I highly suggest waiting until you are out of school and/or college, have your own place, are paying your own bills, etc. I moved out at 19 and struggled to support myself. Then I got married and we ended up moving in with my grandparents for a bit. I feel like you need to be the one providing for your child, not your parents. Also...think about child care while you're working. It's more than my monthly house payment for one child per month. Formula was close to $200 a month, diapers are $25 bucks a pop. Plus clothes, etc. babies are expensive.

[MableMouse]

It depends why you want to be pregnant. I was 18 last year when I fell pregnant for the first time. I flipped my whole life upside down to accommodate a child. Well, then I had a miscarriage, which was heartbreaking. Then I really wanted to be pregnant so I could have the baby I had adjusted my life to have. so now I'm 19 and 17 weeks pregnan

[Chelz19]

Hun I would wait I'm 18 and its been hell on me. My boyfriend and I thought we were ready but not yet I shouldve waited until I got out if school.

[gatorgrl12]

If you are finacily stable and on your own not attending school then I would say think of it. But if eathier of you are still living at home or in school I would wait for sure.

I do not drink alcohol.
Not saying its wrong or anything.
But you have to be extremely responsible. If your still enjoying being young that would all stop.
I never liked to be irresponsible or felt the need to go out and club or anything.
Still haven't stepped foot in a club or bar or party and I'm almost 23.
Having a baby changes everything. And its a lot of work. I love my children had my first at 17 and second at 19 now I'm expecting my third.


Timing could have been better with my first. But we made it work been married almost 6 years and couldn't be happier.


But timing is everything hun if you guys feel you are stable. Are not in school or plan to go anytime soon. Have a good Income. Babies cost a lot. And are ready then you can try. But please put in a good amount of thought. If you still feel the need to ask your parents I feel your not ready in my personal opinion. Not trying to be rude hun

[joannagonzalez]

Well its really up to you guys if you think its time theres no stopping you. Just got to make sure you guys have everything planned and ready just so you guys won't struggle. :) if you feel like your ready to be responsible and care for your baby then go ahead  wish you best of luck and just really think about out with your boyfriend. A baby is expensive .. Got to make sure theres enough to provide for the family

[RoopStetter]

Wait. I got pregnant at 17 and had my son at 18 got married while 5 months pregnant and it is so much harder than you would think. I know that being a mom sounds amazing and it is but as you get older you will wish you would've waited and had time to be irresponsible and make stupid decisions because its fun. I'm 20 now I live my son sooooo much but it would be awesome to be carefree as I approach my 21st birthday but I'm not. I don't know if that makes sense or not. But I'm just saying after a while you will wish you waited a little longer. I promise. I do not regret my son in anyway. The timing just sucked