Daughter cannot hold her urine

[zilaras]

My daughter will be 4 in 2 weeks and has been potty training for 2 1/2 years. Right around 1 1/2 she wanted to start using the potty. We encouraged it but didn't push it at that point (mainly going before bath, bed, etc.). She has never been completely potty trained because she cannot seem to hold it. It has been months since she has had a complete accident where she floods, but anywhere from 2-8 times a day she will wet enough that it goes through her underwear and pants. Always when this happens she still goes a lot in the toilet. She never seems to recognize that she needs to go until she has "leaked" some out. Now that she is getting older (and her 2 year old sister is potty trained) she is very aware and tells me often that she doesn't want to leak in her undies. We have tried EVERYTHING, sticker charts, timing it (anywhere from every 15 min to every hour) and nothing seems to work. She does not seem to drink an excessive amount. Many times when we time it she will try to go and then 10 minutes later she is wet.
One thing we have found to help is making her sit and relax (we usually count to 15) and then she will go. Otherwise she will sit down and say she can't go and try to get up. I am at a complete loss as to what to do and it can be very frustrating. I try my hardest not to let her see that I am frustrated because I know that does not help at all but I am to the point where I cannot take much more!

[larissakaye]

I am not a doctor or anything like that, but my daughter was potty trained at age three never wet the bed and about age six starting having frequent accidents during the day and at night. She also started haivng frequent bladder infections. I don't know what your daughter has but getting her to a childrens urologist will definatly help. There are several things that can cause her to wet herself and even if they don't find anything it will ease your mind and maybe they can tell you why she's wetting herself. I personally don't think you need any new technics. I would definatly ask the doctor for a refferall. I hope this helps.

[Dr J Singh]

Hello,
For proper toilet training, you have to teach your child to sit on the toilet and flush the toilet. After your child has become comfortable with flushing the toilet and sitting on the potty chair, you may begin teaching your child to go to the bathroom. Reading or talking to your child when he or she is sitting on the potty may help your child relax. Praise your child when he or she goes to the bathroom in the potty chair.

I hope it helps. Take care and regards.

[zilaras]

I forgot to add that we took her to her pediatrician about 2 weeks ago and she was checked for a UTI which was negative. This is the second time we have taken her in and they have checked that, both times were negative. The doctor really had no answers. Should I take her to a urologist. If so what would they do? I don't want to do a bunch of tests that will scare her!