Uncircumsized Child

I have 2 young boys who I didnt circumsize when they were born.  One is 9 and one is 4.  The head has not come out of the skin yet.  What age does this happen at?  They have never had problems but the other day my 9yo said his hurt. I had him pull back and wash with soap and rinse.  He is ok now but that is when I noticed the head is still not being exposed even when he pulls as far back as he can.  

[VenusDrake]

My 3 year old had the same problem. The foreskin wouldn't retract and expose his penis head. We were told to go to a urologist and then told he would need surgery to correct this. The skin has to retract so smegma does not build up. The doctor said a build up of this substance can lead to penile cancer. For proper hygiene the skin must be able to retract. You might want to see your doctor and get an appointment with a pediatric urologist. He will inform you if this would need to be done. My son ended up forcefully pulling his foreskin back while in the tub. He yelled, it turned red and hurt for a day but the follow up with the doctor showed no further problems.

[Motona]

i recommend reading this pamphlet.  it clears up a lot of the stigma behind foreskin care.

http://www.nocirc.org/publish/pamphlet7.html

smegma is a natural occurrence, and does not lead to penile cancer!  it will be discharged naturally or can be easily wiped away once the foreskin begins to easily retract.

[Cat10]

The foreskin may not fully retract in some males until the end of puberty. In some boys this age is 20+ years. If it still does not retract after the end of puberty, then steroid creams can be prescribed.
Also soap on the glans (glands) can be very irritating. Very mild soap is recommended.

[rmprdl1964]

Hi,

Please do your boys a favor and leave their penises alone.

Your younger son might have to grow some more for the foreskin to separate.
Even some boys in their puberty still have some adhesions between the glans (glands) and foreskin. Most of that will come loose either through masterbation (masturbation) or sexual contact as they become adults and are married hopefully.

Too many doctors seem to think that circumcision cures all, this is not the case.

I don't think that you nine year old would be to thrilled to have a circumcision at his age. It will ost likely be traumatic and even pose questions from his peers. Leave their penises alone unless you notice some definite problems.

Also in the case of the 9 year old, the seperation of the foreskin might cause some discomfort. This could be the case when your son retracts the foreskin more than where the skin is still attached to the glans (glands). It is very likely that this will cause some discomfort. The discomfort is very short lived.

God bless,

Ron

[uncirc]

I have a 12 y/o and  10 y/o son.  Both not circumcised.  The foreskin of my 10 y/o can be pushed back so that the entire head (glans (glands)) is completely exposed.  His foreskin will stay back but my doctor sugggested that I pull the foreskin foreward over the glans (glands) after cleaning.  (He gets fidgety when I touch his glans (glands) and foreskin).  My 12 y/o, hoiwever, has a much longer and tighter foreskin extending well beyond the tip of the glans (glands).  It was suggested that I have his foreskin circumcised.  My doctor recommended a dilation procedure of his foreskin.  He started with two injections of a nerve block into my son's penis.  After his penis and foreskin were numb the doctor inserted a probe into the tip of his foreskin, slid it back about 1 1/2 inch under the foreskin, and worked the probe all the way around the glans (glands) to loosen the foreskin.  He then inserted a hemostat under my son's foreskin and then opened the hemostat stretching his foreskin.  He pulled the hemostat out so that the foreskin was stretched the entire length.  He performed this procedure several times until the foreskin was stretched sufficiently to slid back behind the glans (glands).  The doctor instructed me to retract my son's foreskin twice daily so that the foreskin does not form adhesions to the glans (glands).  My son won't pull his foreskin all the way back so I have to do it for him.  He doesn't like me doing it but he know that it would be more painful to have his foreskin circumcised.

[Ssdkdjdjdhdjdjd]

When cleaning you 10year old teach him how to masturbate so that when you wash him he won't be so figety

[rmprdl1964]

Hi,

I was referring to the original post as this person talks about a four year old as well as a 9 year old.
My wife and I have one son who no longer lives with us, our other son does. Both boys are uncircumcised. One is 19 and the othe 18.
As for the suggestion of teaching them how to masturbate, you don't have to do so as most boys will do this activity on their own.

For myself, I appearently started some form of masturbation around the age of 4-5. Prior to the age of 3 to about 4, I had not been able to retract my foreskin. Due to that fact I was checked on a four month basis by our family doctor. Once the foreskin did retract I found the experience great and wanted to do this when ever I could. I can remember staying with my grandmother during part of the summer vacation. My grandmother had an older house that was built just after world war 2 in the Netherlands. Other than a toilet there was no bathroom in the house. To wash up during the summer, I used a large tub like container that was put up outside between a hedge and wall near the back shed. Often I would finish my bath and then took off to play on the street or back alley. This resulted in some of the neighbour hood boys joining me and playing nuse in the streets. When ever I did this I also played with my penis in the form of retracting the foreskin numerous times as I enjoyed the sensation. Some of my friends immitated my behavior.
I now know that my grandmother had felt ashamed off my behaviour. The other boys my age used to come over many times to ask if I wanted to play with them though. I assume that their parents must have been OK with me being in the nude at times.

As a young boy up to the age of 17 I spent a lot of time in Norway, Sweden, Finnland, Denmark and Germany. Nudity was not frowned upon over there, and I spent a lot of time nude with both boys and girls around my age. From what I had experienced there on several occasions, boys wil not have to be thaught to masturbate. It is one of those things the most boys will discover or their. For most of the boy it is one of those toys to keep them busy.

I also have to state that at around the age of four, our boys cleaned their own penis. We no longer had to do this for them.

Take care,

Ron

[rmprdl1964]

There have been several studies that showed that SMEGMA DOES NOT CAUSE CANCER!!!!!!!

[mikem79]

What normal parent is observing their 12 year olds penis. To me that is a little unnerving. I could see if there was a real medical condition but the fore skin not retracting is not one of them. I know if I were a 12 year old and my mom or dad were touching or paying too much attention to my penis there would be a bigger issue at hand.