infected from all angles

  just today my girlfriend told me that she was diagnosed with a bacterial infection/inflammation of her cervix (i forgot the technical name).  they treated her with doxy. then they continued to tell her that this type of infection is usually a symptom of HPV or HPV related (awaiting pap smear results for a definate answer)
  they then also told her she had a sore at the top of her vagina that they susspected was herpes.  not good.  i have been faithful to her during the 2 years we have been dating and she claims to have been also.  i was, up until 5 months ago, getting tested every 3 months.  i have ALWAYS been clean (other than a prostate infection).
  no signs of HPV or herpes.  i know little about herpes but i do know that symptoms start to show up with in months.  i have never developed any symptoms and have had blood test to check speciffically for herpes....

  is it possible that she DOES have herpes and the doctors have missed it on me?   or is she more than likely lying and has been unfaithful and caught it somewhere else.  my last checkup was in november.  i was checked for EVERYTHING under the sun.  nothing showed up.  could the virus lay dorminant for that long and not show up in me?  if she was faithful, that means that one of us had it 2 years ago.  i dont htink that it would take that long for it to show in either of us (but i could be wrong...thats why im asking you)
  but  i need to know what  i should do here?does a simple bump mean that she rally has herpes?>  or could the under trained staff at the local clinic be jumping the gun?  i think she should have another opinion before she freaks out about his and before i go through another round of painful testing.  what do you think?  
  oh yeah.... despite the fact that there are no visible warts (HPV) showing, what is the longest that it would take for visible signs of warts to show?
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Dear JER,
Human papiloma virus, genital warts, hpv, condyloma all refer to the same sexually transmiitted disease.  Herpes simplex virus and genital herpes can generally be used interchangeably.
You have several questions, many of which can be answered by searching medhelp's Medical Library Search using "hpv" and "hsv".
Sexually transmitted diseases can best be avoided with abstinence.  If you are sexually active, risks can be decreased by limiting your number of partners to one person with a known sex history.  Condoms can help prevent some sexually transmitted diseases, but are not infallible.  
You must be able to trust your sexual partner and keep the lines of communication open.  Finally, you must seek health care from a provider you are comfortable with and trust.
More individualized care is available at the Henry Ford Hospital and its suburban campuses at  (1 800 653 6568). We can also arrange local accommodations through this number if this is your need. Please bring any physicians