little sensitivity in my penis

[hjays]

Hi,

I suffer from a very insensitive penis and was looking on the internet to see if anyone had similar symptoms.

I haven't taken any medication that I'm aware of that would make my sensitivity less than that of the average male and I am otherwise healthy 30 year old.

My problem also is that I can't bring myself to orgasm very quickly and I never have been able to, the fastest I'm normally able to do so is 2-5 minutes by masturbation but this is rare.  Masturbation usually lasts between 10 minutes upwards or until I give up, usually due to soreness or the loss of my erection.  I also masturbate regularly, I'd say at least once per day and take great pleasure in orgasm and have a high sex drive.  In fact when I know I'm about to orgasm and ejaculate, this is about the only real time I have any sensitivity.  This feeling may not be in the penis though and may be some internal happenings as the ejaculate makes its way out.  I usually have to masturbate quite vigorously and very quickly to reach orgasm.  I began masturbating when I was fairly young, around 10 and have wondered if the lack of sensitivity has been a result of over-doing things.  I remeber an episode where I was masturbating but too young to actually ejaculate, my penis at this time resulted in a lot of swelling and appeared to have a case of mumps and looked all fatty and blobby when not erect.  I can’t imagine this is the case however and never remember being overly sensitive.  I usually require physical touch to achieve an erection unless I’m very visually aroused.  I often wake with an erection so there is no mechanical dysfunction in obtaining one.  When I ejaculate there is usually a good amount, a few millilitres which I believe to be average or about three ‘squirts’.

I get little pleasure from anyone else handling me though or from receiving oral sex.  I only have a feeling which is like I’m about to wet myself when the other person ***** on my penis and this isn’t at all pleasurable.

To orgasm during sex is very rare for me, as most womens' vaginas aren't as tight as you can form with your fist it is difficult to obtain real pleasure.  This is often quite psychologically damaging too and the knowledge that you're not likely to reach your final objective can compound the problem.  I rely on mental thought to allow me to orgasm in this way but it is only about 1-5% successful.  Most women then also feel inadequate and the situation spirals.  I normally have to think unsavoury or more depraved thoughts for me to achieve my goal but to act like this during sex makes me feel unfaithful to my girlfriend.

Girlfriends have found it very difficult to have sex with me for such long periods and tell me it can become unpleasurable for them to have sex for such long periods at a time.  What would normally give you bragging rights is actually a real nightmare and what should be a great act of love making can become a futile process with further adverse effects on the relationship.

It is also quite difficult for me to maintain an erection for such long periods of time. This has often resulted in the loss of my erection and the same outcome results.  

I have approached my GP for help in maintaining an erection although this probably isn’t the root cause of my situation and I should really seek advice from my GP with the sensitivity issue.

More recent thoughts about the origins of my problem lie with some surgery I had as an infant.  I had two strangulated hernias and have two, approximately 3 inch scars on my groin in a V formation pointing towards my penis.  I have only just begun to wonder if during surgery, some nerve damage was sustained and is the source of the insensitivity.

If this is the case could such nerves be repaired?

I would really like my penis to function normally so sex can be more pleasurable for me.

Thanks in advance

hjays