Don't know what else to do!!!

[gillianl]

My partner has really upset me this morning, i haven't lost any weight more or less in the past 5 weeks i've jumped between 15stone 4lbs to 15 stone 0 for the last 5 weeks.  I have been really strict this week and have kept my calories to between 1400 and 1600 calories, i've had a lot more fruit this week and salads which i never eat.  My period was due yesterday and is still a no show so don't know if this is why this week i haven't seen much of a loss.

He told me " you have to get your finger out your a** if you want to see a weight loss and stop cheating" i've told him i haven't this week but he doesn't believe me.  He's lost 3 stones in weight has cut down his drinking and is now off the cigarettes so it makes things tougher for me knowing he has more determination than me to do things.  I've tried decorating the small room to keep me active at nights in the house.  I don't know what else to do to get this weight off other than join a slimming class, which i know he'll moan about as it costs more money.

Please help me what can i do more of?

[Barb135]

You can increase/decrease your activity, increase/decrease your calorie intake -- just changing things around often helps get over a plateau.  If you do the same thing every day, whether it be food or exercise, your body becomes used to it and nothing is a challenge anymore.  But if you keep changing things, your body never knows what's coming next, so is ready for anything...........

gillianl - I sent you a PM.  

[RunningMom]

I meant to say increase your activity 10% to get over the plateau.

[RunningMom]

Wow, that wasn't nice at all.  Personally, if someone were making those remarks at me, I'd consider ending the relationship.  My ex husband always complained about my weight and I was 120 at 5'10.  I ended up leaving him because he was such a useless jerk.  When I was pregnant with his child, he told me I was so fat he could roll me down a hill.  Granted I gained 100 pounds with my daughter, but I was able to get it all off.

My husband now is the most supporting man I have ever met!  I gained 30 pounds since last october and he has NOT said one word about it.  I'm 50 pounds heavier since we have been married, which has been 10 years.  My husband is a triathlete and has raced in ironmans.  He is very athletic and extremely thin and healthy.

My husband supports me wanting to lose weight, but he has never once said anything negative about my weight gain or anything at all.  He loves me for who I am.  I'm not physically able to exercise due to my spine injury, so losing this weight has been difficult.  You should be losing weight for yourself and not anyone else.

Please don't be hard on yourself if you don't see the weight come off as fast as you like.  We all hit plateau's and I heard somewhere that you just have to increase your activity to get through a plateau.

[gillianl]

i've been using the food tracker on medhelp it's been good, i've also cut down on my treats at night.  i'm going to try a slimming class again when my partner gets paid, i think the support will do me good and getting out of the house.  my thyroid is fine i got it checked a few months ago. I'm just going to try my best and prove him wrong

[Barb135]

Well, I must say that your partner seems to be less than sympathetic with your efforts.

What types of things are you doing for exercise?  And for how long each day?  Generally, just cutting back on food consumption is not enough to lose a lot of weight; you have to work off some of it too.  

Also, I'm sorry to ask, but did you have a thyroid issue?  

I agree that you should be logging your food intake; MedHelp has an excellent food diary, as well as exercise and weight trackers;  all of these are good tools for keeping up with what's going on in your daily life.  If you don't have time to do a formal, online food tracker, just buy a small notebook that you can carry in your purse to jot down what you've eaten/drank.  

I know you've been working at this really hard, along with fighting the evening cravings -- don't give up, you can do it.  Let's just work together to figure out what should be the next step.  

Oh, by the way --- men *do* tend to lose weight much easier than we women do; and they don't have to fight the monthly cycles, etc that we do.  Don't let him bully you into giving up.........

[zebramolli]

Hi, I have to be honest what he said seems very harsh, was he having a bad day?  Please don't measure your weight loss against his, I have the same problem as you in that my other half can lose upwards of 5lb a week whilst doing significantly less exercise than me and I struggle to lose 2lb.  Men do seem to lose weight more easily than women (I'm not trying to be sexist there gents!)

I find the few days before my period my weight loss stops and I stay the same until it starts then I can gain between 2 and 3lbs during, and it normally comes off again a couple of days after my period has finished.

If you haven't done so already keep a diary of what you eat, even if you don't make a note of the calories actually seeing in black and white what you are taking in can be surprising.  Also if he were to accuse you of cheating you can show him that you've stuck to your plan.

I would would suggest sitting down with your partner and talking about your goals, what you want to achieve and what you enjoy doing exercise wise.  Can you do these activities together?  I found I didn't need to join a slimming class using sites like this where I can track my progress myself.  I use an exercise bike and do circuit training, walking is also really good.

Finally, sorry for blabbing on, if you are looking for exercise equipment I found Freecycle/Freegle to be really useful.  Yes they it won't be shiney new but for free an exercise bike or treadmill could prove useful :)  My guilty pleasure is to watch the Biggest Loser whilst cycling, and it works.

Good luck and stick with it!