1 trimester termination

[netmumxx]

I have an appointment in 945 in the A.M for my 12 weeks of termination i live with the father i have 0 choice im crying alot my heart breaks i am bond with my child and i was kinda curious if this is how it will feel afterwards? If u ever have an abortion share ur storys

[specialmom]

I have had a few friends that have had abortions.  Always a tough decision.  But none regret it as it was for the best at the time.  They weren't really established in their lives, struggling to get by, one was in college and had plans for herself. All have gone on to have families later after meeting a man and marrying.  None speak of it as a horrible thing but just something that happened.  that has been what my experience with those I'm close to has been.  

I'm a mother.  But you know, I waited until I was prepared.  I think about what it would be like had I had a child before I was established and ready.  For me, it would have been a great sacrifice.  I would have lost out on the experiences that I had.  And I'm not sure I'd have been the best mom I could be.  When I chose to have my children, I was able to be completely devoted to them.  :>)  

everyone is different though and you have to do what is best for you.  Not everyone is religious so the idea of God and praying may not be something that works for you.  I recommend that you think of the big picture.  It is very easy to get caught up in the emotion of it all but you have to project out what it will look like to be a mom in your current circumstance.  

Adoption can be a lovely thing.  I really think it can be a kind and loving thing to do for a child and in the spirit of being a good mom, can sometimes be the best choice if we are not in a place to offer our child all that they deserve.  You have to go through a pregnancy though which can be hard.  Speaking to an adoption attorney is easy to do and that would give you more information if you just want to reach out and get that info.

Or keep your appointment.  It's mostly hard at the time but then you go on with your life and when it is a better time to be a parent, you have your family then.  :>)  hugs.  Do what you feel is best for you hon.  good luck

[BluCrystal]

Oh, boy... I almost had an aortion a long time ago.  Went to the appointment, and , Thank the Lord, the doctor said I was too far along to do it.  I had to have a baby I had no means of caring for.  She was adopted by a wonderful couple who I got to choose.  I got one hour of alone-time with her in hosp.  I wanted her adoptive parents to bond with her, not me.  They were the ones holding her and feeding her.  I wanted her to go from me directly to her new parents, so there would be no lapse in love for her.  I got to see her parents put her into their car to take her home.  Her new mommy sat in the back seat with her, and they drove away, and I stood out there, tears streaming down my face.  It was YEARS before I quit making plans to kidnap her (never actually tried, tho).  That hurt, I feel was NOTHING compared to what I would have gone through if I had killed her.  Because of that doctor, my daughter is alive and well, somewhere.  I gave her that, because it was all I could give her.  This is a VERY PERSONAL choice, Dear.  I say choose the lesser evil FOR THE BABY, and if you can't do that, then learn from this, and pray.

[shayshay196]

How old are you sweetie? This should be your choice and your choice alone no one should force you to make that decision. I'm sure you will feel the exact same way after. I'm sorry you are going through this I couldn't imagine. I just hope you can make the best choice for your self and no one else and have the strength and knowledge that your strong and stand by your decision